Post # 1
I’ve been shopping for dresses lately and for the most part they are strapless. I’m getting pressure to lock my dress down (July wedding and all…) and I really wanted to find the bra that would go under my #1 contender. Dispite all the bridal centers telling me that the hard part is the dress I knew the bra would be a toughy and had to lock that down FIRST.
I’ve been to EVERY specialty bra store in my city (A major city at that) and there are exactly 0 strapless, long line or bustiers that will fit me. Can the $500/bra store speacializing in hard to fit ladies even order me one – nope. WTF!?
The bridal center is telling me that can’t sew in anything larger than a B cup. The last bra store suggested I find something that would let me go braless or use duct tape or boob stickers. Ahhh… no thanks. The last suggestion was to find a bra that fits (which can be done) and cut it up and alter it and that just sounds soooo expensive omg. I’ve ordered a NuBra online and that’s about my last idea but I’m really not sure what I think of the concept of stick on cups but I’ll give it a go.
I have a bridal appointment tonight and I’m going to look at strapped dresses… but even for what passes for straps are like halters and spagetti straps and I still can’t wear normal bra with those and no way am I weating clear straps (my go to in everyday fashion)
I am feeling so very screwed right now. I’m sure I can’t be alone in this – what do other brides with hard-to-wrangle girls do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
What size are you? I didn’t wear a bra with mine because the dress was structured enough not to need it
Post # 4
Um, I’m a 34 Dirty Delete and just had cups in mine.
Post # 5
I personally have this problem as well… my dress does have straps but the front is thick and the back is very thin straps – impossible for me to get a bra in a D cup that works. My friend actually recommended that I get some of the clear straps to use instead since the thin straps of the dress would draw all attention away from them.
I would be horrified if someone told me to just duct tape my breasts into place for my wedding… I can’t imagine having to take it back off again.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
What’s your size? Most bridal salons I went to sold longlines there and could order to my size, but I ended up finding one pretty easily for like $35 at a local lingerie shop. I ordered a 38Dirty Delete or a 40D or something like that.
Post # 7
Do you really want a strapless or is that just what you’re being shown?
I’m a 34Dirty Delete and knew I wouldn’t be comfortable in strapless. Super happy with the strapped dress I found.
Post # 8
I wear a 32F/30G and none of the strapless dresses I’ve tried on needed a bra under them, they all had like a built in corset thingy
Post # 9
What size are you? I’m a 32F and I wanted to be able to wear a regular bra, so I piced a dress with straps! I had to go to a big bridal salon to find a decent selection of non-strapless dresses, but it was so worth it!
Post # 10
@nocleverbeepun: do you have a nordstrom? they have a few brands that go up to 34Dirty Delete. I am a 32 DDD and they helped me find something. strapless bras aren’t comforable anyways.
Post # 11
@Pele: What size are you? I am a 34G and I will be having cups sewn into my strapless, sweeetheart dress. I find a dress first and then worry about finding a bra. You might find a dress that doesn’t need a longline/specialty bra.
Post # 12
Hey Fellow Calgarian,
I tried on a bunch of dresses here in town that were strapless and NEVER even considered a bra. Most people I know wore nothing under the dress just had the cups sewn in. I also have never heard that you can’t sew in a cup bigger than a D. That is crazy!
Where are you looking? What type is your dream dress? I was a plus bride with larger cup size and most if not all strapless dresses I tried had enough structure to handle most cups. I opted for a custom made dress with straps and covered back (to cover scars) and still never wore a bra….just my cups.
I am very intrigued as to where you are shopping as I am in the Wedding industry here in town. Feel free to message me if you have questions.
Post # 13
@Pele: My dress is strapless and I had a hard time finding a strapless bra. I knew I definitely wanted a strapless because I wouldn’t feel comfortable enough without one. I ended one that came down lower in the back Because the back of my dress kind of dips down. I went to quite a few different stores And nothing that came low enough. I ended up buying a Wacoal bra. I really didn’t want to spend $60 on a bra, but it works perfectly. They come in many different sizes I believe 32-40, A or B to DDD is most styles and some go up to an H. They really are worth the money. I haven’t saw any longline bras at the stores I went to. Good Luck!
Post # 14
Most girls don’t even wear a bra, because the dress holds everything in. You can also get cups added. Worry about finding a dress first, and forget the bra for now.
Post # 15
i found a longline bra at davids bridal, im a 42D and the bra combined with the dress holds my girls in place nicely.
Post # 16
Thanks for the responses. I went back out dress shopping last night to another place and I think David’s was full of it when then said they couldn’t sew in cups as some of you have alluded to. Benefit of the doubt as to why I was told they couldn’t sew cups in, I was in a very unstructured dress at the time and maybe she was only refering to the dress at the moment but my question was about dresses in general. Anyway I’m releaved cups are an option in SOME cases.
I’m only a C-D cup but I have a 42-44 band and it’s the band that’s a killer for the bra stores especially when what they have fits small and if I can find the right band it’s assuming larger breasts type thing.
That being said I tried on a very structure dress with boning in the bust last night and I think the girls would be fine with just a couple of darts without even going with sew in cups! I think the inability to find a find a bra made my dress budget get bumped a bit higher but most of the current dresses have the alterations I would have done included (like the corset) and would eliminate an expensive under garment so I’m not that much more out of pocket.
I wish someone had just told me to go to a different style dress when I started having bust concerns… it would have saved so much stress in the last couple weeks.
Thanks everyone…. crisis adverted. yay.