Post # 1
Just wondering if anyone has any insight on how you decide if you need a bra or not.
My dress is a zip-up, with some boning through the torso. The bust area is quite stiff on the dress and holds its own shape. There is also a lot of ruffly detail on the bust area and is made of taffeta, so nothing’s going to show through the dress if I don’t have a bra. I think the back of the dress is just high enough to wear a normal strapless. And I’m a 32D.
What would make wearing a bra better than getting cups sewn-in? Should I ask a tailor/seamstress first? (The only place I can find a good bra in my size is at specialty shops that have very limited return policies… so it’s not really an option to take the bra to the tailor with me and ask.)
Thanks for any advice you can give me! Please!
(Link to the Watters site with my dress here: http://watters.com/product.php?coll=brides&showid=934 )
Post # 3
i have B’s so i have a little more flexibility about when to wear one. that said, when i can get away with it, i will skip it. Ruffles on the bust is a good way to sneak no-bra by!
Post # 4
As a 34D, I was bra all the way. I really like the extra lift and support I get from a long line strapless when I’m in a strapless gown. I’ve worn a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress with cups sewn in rather than a bra, and that experience convinced me to go with the bra – it just keeps the girls perkier, IMO, especially when dancing. Granted, that dress didn’t have the structure that your gown has, but my gown had similar structure and I still chose the extra support of a bra. You could try ordering a bra from a shop like barenecessities.com – they carry your size and are returnable 🙂
Gorgeous gown BTW!
Post # 5
I’m a 34D and strapless push-up bras do..well, exactly that. Push my boobs all the way upto my chin and make me look like Jessica Rabbit. So I’m opting to go braless for a more natural, modest look. I think sewn-in cups will provide enough support and I won’t have to be tugging at the bra all day to make sure it stays in place.
Post # 6
I’m a 34 D and I’m planning to go with no bra. I hate looking like my boobs are on display and much rather would have a more natural look. The top of my dress is a very structured, strapless, drop waist dress, so I think I will be able to get away with it easily. I also feel like I look top heavy when I have my boobs perched up high. I also, don’t want them bouncing around and with the dress so tightly holding them in, they won’t move.
I was also going through this debate with myself and finally decided on no bra. I have my first fitting in two weeks and will see what the seamstress says, but I plan on not even bringing one, since as you have accurately mentioned, they are hard to find and difficult to return.
Post # 7
ask the seamstress when you are at her place and when you have the dress tried on. I didn’t think I needed a bra but then realized if I turned sideways my dress would stay stiff to the front and people might be able to see my breasts from the side. Same thing if someone was taller than me and looked down when hugging me or something. You could see my boobs from above. So a bra was necessary to conceal a little more.
Post # 8
I’m a 34Dirty Delete. I have the option of getting sewn in cups and I’m opting out, any time I’ve ever tried them it’s always been a disaster. They just never fit right. My dress is a corset with boning so I’m getting a lot of support just in that alone plus as some of the others have said, put on a strapless bra and you look like your Jessica Rabbit for sure. Maybe it’s fine if you were going to some glamorous awards (ala Christina Hendricks) show but not necessarily for a wedding. Don’t get me wrong I want to look sexy but I want to still look classic as well.
Post # 9
Looks like I’m in the minority on this one, but it is very possible to wear a strapless bra without it pushing your “girls” up to your chin or looking like you’re serving them up on a platter. I’m a pretty modest gal, and I definitely didn’t have cartoon sex symbol “girls” at my wedding 😉 The key is to choose what’s most comfortable for you in your dress.
Post # 10
Thanks for the comments everyone!
I appreciate everyone’s concern about the Jessica Rabbit look, but like owlbride, I’m probably in the minority on that… for some reason mine are set unusually low on my chest, so push-up strapless bras don’t really put my chest on display.
Amariem25 – good idea, I’ll have to do some twisting and bending next time I visit my dress at my parents’ and see what it looks like.
@ owlbride, I live in Canada and a lot of products Americans have easy access to are harder to find and more expensive up here (really frustrating!). For example, my dream bra is $110 up here, but is on the barenecessities site for $55! With shipping, duties and taxes to cross the border, it’s $95 or something. But thanks for the suggestion and all your input.
Post # 11
I’m just going to throw this out there. If you have the cups sewn in, they will be SEEN in all your dress shots. The ones of just the dress (detail shots) your photographer will take. Personally, I don’t want the outline of the cups shining through my dress or being seen from the back in those pictures… or flopping around when I’m putting it on.
But for me, it’s all about the pictures not function 😉
Post # 12
KLP is right. You are going to see the cups through the dress with pictures.
My dress had too low of a back to wear anything under it but it has basically a corset built into the dress so I didn’t really need one.
Post # 13
I’m a 36D and am going with a strapless bra. I thought about going sans bra but then thought that if I sweat or move around a lot I’d be more comfortable in a bra. I found a great one at Victoria’s Secret and know I’ll get more use out of it that I would bra cups sewn into my dress!
Post # 14
i’m very small and about comfort so i went with no bra. but klp is right. i only got to see my photographer’s blog pictures, so i haven’t seen all the pro photo’s yet, but the one dress shot up there kind of looks like my dress already has boobs in it. but again, i care more about comfort.
Post # 15
I know it sounds weird, but what about having the strapless bra sewn in as opposed to just the cups? I dunno about anyone else, but once I start dancing and moving – strapless bras have a tendency to slip & end up around my ribcage no matter how well a dress is fitted. I’m thinking of having a strapless minimizer sewn into the dress so that I’m not tugging on my gown all night.
Post # 16
I am going to put in boob cups into my dress! If I can go without I will!!!! But I am a full B/small C so I have a bit more flexibility!
The seamstress should be able to give you the bra cups to feel in your dress and so you can try all options before making a decision!