(Closed) Bragging about budgets…Vent!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ah, anyway, I know costs don’t matter and each wedding is beautiful in their own way, but watching that STUPID 4 weddings show has shown me that unfortunately the brides with the biggest budgets usually “win” and look better to other people.

I AGREE. It doesn’t make any sense to me! The bride with the LOWEST budget should get the free honeymoon…not the other way around! Blah!

Post # 4
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73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

$15 grand is a very respectable budget. Remember that it’s the details and not the price tag that makes the wedding beautiful. Like who cares if you serve lobster? But if you have, say, ceramic love birds on each table (cheap at Michael’s craft store) people will notice and everything will look so lovely in pictures.

And totally agree about Four Weddings!

Post # 5
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1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

Your wedding will be great no matter the budget, and it’s bigger than mine! πŸ˜‰ I’d stop watching the wedding shows with the giant budgets, and just nod and smile at your friend when she does that, then change the subject. I also have a hard time not getting a jealous feeling when I see what I don’t have the budget for, but ultimately your day isn’t about how much money you spend, but your union with your Fiance. The $ part of it is such a small thing. I’ve seen really classy weddings on REALLY small budgets and really ugly ones on large budgets. πŸ˜€

If that doesn’t make you feel better, keep in mind a lot of people spend tends of thousands on their weddings, then get divorced later. πŸ˜›

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Ryansgirl: Ohh i know exactly how you feel..its envy. I have taken the first step and admitted it in my life. My friends complain about money in situations as well and i want to kill them. All my friends have had their house paid for by their parents and my Darling Husband and I are stuggling to come up with enough money to buy a small apartment!! I just feel sick when they complain to me about money…anyways….

you have a great budget 15,000.00 thats what we had too. My wedding has been feautred in the bee and i get TONS of compliments on it. I always like the smaller budget weddings anyways, you can tell the brides put alot more blood sweat and tears into the wedding and it seems so much more presonal then, not just something out of a magazine filled with trends.

I ended up spending 11,000.00 on my wedding and then I went to a wedding a few months later where they spend over 45,000.00….mine was the same hands down (I wont say better as thats biased) but she had nothing different then mine…everything was just higher quality…but you couldnt notice….so keep that in mind πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The people who are most “critical” and whatnot of weddings, expensive vs affordable, etc, are usually brides themselves. To everyone else NOT planning a wedding.. it’s just that, a wedding. Your guests will love YOUR wedding because it’s yours, and you are going to make it wonderful. If anything, I think you should feel awesome because you and your Fiance are super responsible and able to save and create a wedding that will be 100% your own!!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

In that situation I think I would just nod and say “Good for them”. Your Bridesmaid or Best Man probably should have known better than to tell you all about their huge unlimited budget, but she didn’t so I’d just act happy for them and change the subject. Their wedding may end up more glitzy than yours, but at least you have just as much if not more love for each other than them.

Post # 13
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

A) 4 Weddings is one of the worst shows I’ve ever seen! I think it’s completely absurd to put someone with a $5K budget up against someone with a $100K+ budget. People fall into all the glitzy nonsense and the one couple who could actually use the honeymoon, dont get it! OK I HAD TO VENT B/C I HATE THIS SHOW!! Plus I think it’s absolutely disgusting the way the other brides rip apart each others weddings-NO CLASS & GROSS!

B) On to the actual topic of your friend going on and on about someone elses wedding/budget. Two words- NOT COOL! To be honest, I avoid even discussing with peopke what my budget is b/c I think it’s no ones buisness. Only a few members of my immediately family know what we are spending on our reception, flowers etc. There are a few reasons why. For one: People liek to comoare and play the- owe I spent more on my wedding, or so & so spent this on their flowers etc. rude and no matter how incredible your wedding is, you’ll always have one!  Two: I don’t want anyone to feel obligated to cover their head at the wedding. We made the decision go go to a higher end place and other people shouldnt feel uncomfortable thinking they need to cover what we spent. It was our choice and our pleasure to have their company for the evning :o) Three: I’ll be blunt- I don’t think it’s classy to broadcast your budget around town or how much you are spending b/c it makes people feel bad if they werent able to swing a big wedding and they may have wanted one. Also- we are in bad economic times and people are extremely hard on their luck right now and why would I ever shove another brides face in what I’m doing?! Not cool!

Needless to say I think your bridesmaids friend shouldnt have even shared that info. and she shouldn’t be bragging about someone elses wedding to you. She should be completely STOKED and EXCITED to help you plan and make YOUR BIG DAY INCREDIBLE!!!!

Sorry for the vent- I just HATE when people start throwing around budgets bragging and not thinking about the feelings of others. On here, we are annonymous (for the most part) and it’s helpful to hear pricing etc. but in real life..eh..just rubs me the wrong way!

 

ENJOY YOUR BIG DAY!!!!! I’m positive that it will be WONDERFUL!!! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was also in a similar budget scenerio as yourself.  Although both of our families are still together, we make a decent living and knew our famlies could not afford to contribute much so we saved $15,000 and payed for it ourselves.  Was our wedding the most extravagant wedding ever?  No.  But we feel fantastic knowing that we didn’t put a single thing on a credit card and our famlies are not broke from it. We did not want to start our wedding in debt. 

 Now that our wedding is over and we received our video everything turned out great and I don’t think we would have changed a thing.  We had a beautiful wedding outside on a terrace overlooking the beach and a reception in a country club with ocean views.  It was a small intimate wedding(50 people) and was totally us.  Would it have been nice to have expensive linens, chair covers, band, etc.  Sure.  But we didn’t need it to to the the wedding of our dreams.  You are doing a wonderful job at being real with your budget and learning to manage money with your fiance before your are even married.  That is a lesson that many do not learn until later on.  Keep up the good work.

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