- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Hello all! This is my first time on this site, and I’m looking forward to picking your brains. 🙂
- We are going to have a large wedding… we are currently reeeeeally trying to pare things down to a modest 300. (Eeep!) I have a gigantic, close family. My fiance has a normal sized family. We also have a lot of friends who are important to us… and we decided early on that our priority was having everyone we cared about there, even if it meant cutting down in other ways. (So that part is non-negotiable.)
- This will not be a dry wedding. We want to give people drinks. We are beer snobs, but we are hoping our cheap wine tastes will balance that out a little.
- On that note, we are working on a very small budget. I’m a teacher, from a family richer in babies than in income.
- We have already cut costs in a variety of ways. We’re getting married on a Monday. (Who knew?) We’ve booked an affordable venue that is a renovated barn for the reception, with pretty space for an outdoor wedding. A friend who is a professional photographer is doing our photos. Ditto on hair, makeup, flowers, pies (!!!), and music. We are lucky to have a lot of talented friends, which helps.
- I just got a pretty incredible dress at the Brides Project (donated dresses sold to benefit cancer research) for $300.
- My panic is already going down a little just writing down the ways we are already saving money…
My anxieties are now centered around logistics of this many people. Can I ask a few questions of those of you who have (hopefully) had large yet inexplicably inexpensive weddings?
- Split seating: Although the wedding and reception will be at the same place, I will have to split the guests between an outdoor tent and the indoor barn (which is also separated into a main floor and a balcony/loft area.) Especially if the Michigan August weather is less than ideal, I don’t want the outside guests to feel cut off or shorted. I am going to have to rent chairs for everyone for the ceremony anyway, so do I just have everyone eat outside? Leave the indoor place for the buffet line, dance floor, “head” table? (So *everyone* is cut off?) Put the tables with kids outside so that they can have some game/activity areas? (Ah yes. There are also lots of kids.)
- Chairs for ceremony that also need to be used for chairs for the reception: Do I just have my gigantic family cart the chairs over to the tent afterward? Announce after the ceremony that the reception is BYOC? (Bring your own chair… over to your table? Not you, Grandma…)
- Two receptions… at the same location? I’ve been to some well-organized weddings where there is a larger cake reception directly after the ceremony, and a smaller dinner reception later. I feel like this would be harder at the same location. We have the wedding outside, have a dessert reception… and then have my more thuggish siblings or cousins politely bounce the less-exclusive guests so the rest of us can have dinner? Seriously, is there a good way to do this?
- Flashmob ceremony elsewhere… then a smaller reception? We plan on a simple ceremony, we already have the one venue paid for… and we are poor. How about a flash mob wedding in a nearby park? Then a smaller, more exclusive group goes back to the barn for dinner? This seems tricky.
- On a more reasonable note… Dessert reception? If so, any good tips for high-quantity desserts that are so delicious that guests are dazzled into not realizing that we can’t afford to give them all dinner? (A friend is already making her amazing pies.)
Any ideas or thoughts?
Thank you for reading this long, first post! I hope the bullets helped.