Post # 1
I stumbled upon this website when searching through Google and so glad that I did!.I have been reading everybody’s stories and am so glad I am not the only one who is waiting for their moment. Some of the stories have me cry with joy!
While I am here, I thought I would share my story with anyone who would care to read it:
My boyfriend is 22 and I am 21. We were both in Secondary (High) School together and met on our first day of school aged 11. We were friends until we left school aged 18. We got together a year after we left school, and have been dating ever since and are currently nearing our 3rd year together. I am currently studying at University, while my boyfriend lives 100 miles away, where we both grew up. I graduate this July.
I suppose it is fair to say that I have been waiting for just over six months, not long after celebrating 2 years together. We had a big talk about our future and what we would like and the discussion ended with us deciding that we would like to get married in the not too distant future.
Things got even more interesting this November when I had a little strop after my 14th friend got engaged and my boyfriend said that he was seriously thinking about it, and we went ring shopping in December, so that he could get a feel for what I like. He has since said that he will ask me at a date which is insignificant to us.
Now that Christmas and NYE has passed, I am guessing that he will ask me on the date of us being together for 3 years. This is 6 months away and I physically cannot wait any longer. I just want him to ask me, so that I know he is serious about our relationship, and so that we can declare our love to our family and friends.
I have been seriously been thinking asking him myself, on Valentine’s day. One of our friends just proposed to her boyfriend, which we were talking about on the phone earlier. His opinion was that it is acceptable and it would be good, depending on the couple. Now I know his views on it, I am starting to plan it.
Has anyone else proposed to their boyfriend?
Post # 3
welcome to the board! i’ve half-jokingly proposed to my guy but he ignored me. lol. he sees the proposal as his job so i have to be hands off.
Post # 4
I haven’t- my guy feels that is the man’s job but good luck and welcome!
Post # 5
Nope. I feel like he should do it. I don’t know why, maybe I’m a little old fashioned but it wouldn’t feel right if I proposed to him. Keep us posted if you decide to propose to him and welcome! 🙂
Post # 6
I think it depends on the man. Traditionally, yes, it’s the man’s position to be the one to extend the proposal, but if he’s not the type to be emasculated by something like that, I don’t see a problem with it. Every couple’s different, and you see that kind of thing on sitcoms all the time. I guess if it feels right, it might not be a bad idea.
I would definitely put some feelers out before doing anything because if you two have been ring shopping and he’s thinking about marriage and a proposal of his own (which it definitely sounds like he is), he may have something wonderful already planned. He may think you’re expecting a proposal on your anniversary, but who knows if he has something planned for some time sooner than that so it will truly be a surprise. My point is, he may have something planned already that he’s really looking forward to, but if you go ahead with a proposal of your own, you may be robbing him of an opportunity he’s really excited about.
Post # 7
I haven’t and don’t plan on doing it. I’ve just always envisioned being proposed to.. not the other way around. I think my SO would prefer it that way as well. However, I don’t think that there’s anything at all wrong with you proposing to your guy. I say go for it if you’re both ready! I’d love to hear details afterwards. :o)
ETA: I actually just asked my SO what he would think if I proposed & he said that he would like it.. that it would make him feel really special and it would be different. BUT.. he would still propose to me shortly afterwards & our engagement wouldn’t be “official” until then. LoL.
Post # 8
Thanks for your words of wisdom! I have decided to wait, I am too much of a romantic to spoil his plans and I would like to see what he has/ is going to plan.
I will just have to be patient (which is something new for me) and wait my turn. I think that I will just have to vent on here if he doesn’t ask in 6 months. Hehehe!