(Closed) Brand spanking new here…and a long rant.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

welcome to the hive!

 

that would make my blood boil too. 

Post # 5
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1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m sorry you have to deal with this. I agree that you should stand your ground – given she’s not contributing financially, I think you and your Fiance are being VERY generous even allowing her to add to your guest list! I would just send them out and tell your Fiance to have that fight with her.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Welcome to the Hive!

So, I’m not really sure what makes your blood boil over this.  Does she have a current address that can be used in the meantime?  If the address isn’t good until July, there’s a chance the peopple are moving and wouldn’t get your invitation prior to then.  It seems like she’s trying to be upfront with you over this, not get in an argument. 

I get the tough mother-in-law thing – trust me, I do (my Mother-In-Law wanted us to cut our friends so she could accomodate inviting all of her coworkers, my in-laws barely contributed financially, and caused trouble throughout the planning, rehearsal, and actual wedding day.  I really do get it).  But it seems to me like this is a bit of an overreaction over an address. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Best advice I can give, which was given to me because I am currently dealing with a very “unique” mother-in-law as well, was just do what your originally planned to do, stick to your guns, in the end it is your wedding, and if she can’t accept that, then so be it. Sometimes it may be best to have Fi explain to her why things are chosen the way they are. I tell my Fiance that it would come out A LOT better if he told his mother why we chose to do things the way we want it, because if it came from me, she would have a fit! Trust me!!! Maybe just tell her that you will send out invites when you planned, and perhaps check in with said guests in July ?? 

 

Good luck! 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh! AND welcome to the hive =) 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I’ve been holding onto the “it’s my wedding” card because I don’t want to be a bridezilla


Just as a general rule of thumb, it’s wise to discard the “it’s my wedding” card and instead always speak of it and think of it as “OUR wedding.” It just generally helps things stay on a more even keel, helps you and your Fiance keep priorities in view and communication open, and it’s one of the best inoculations against bridezilla-itis that I can recommend.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

welcome to the hive!! just the place for this type of thing, I am sure you will find lots of brides dealing with similar things. It sounds like you are handling things quite well and rationally! you only have a few months to go 🙂

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