(Closed) Bratty Sister-in-law

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I had to deal with the same thing with my mom, until we got a lot more No RSVPs than we expected. What helped me was explaining all the people that I actually know and love that I wanted to invite but couldn’t (work friends, school friends, more distant relatives) – if I can’t invite these people that I PERSONALLY know and love, why should I invite her friends that I haven’t even met? Furthermore, in your situation, with her wedding coming up, explain that she’ll be able to invite whomever she wants to her wedding.

Maybe suggest the in-laws pay the $1500 fee so that the sister’s friend can attend? Maybe that will get them to be quiet. (Sorry… that would be the snarky-bride thing to do)

 

Good luck!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have a bratty SIL as well…except sadly she’s much much older than me. So I can totally relate. All I can say is stand your ground and be firm that her friend is NOT allowed to come. I would even make sure your guestbook attendants/ushers keep an eye out for SIL to make sure she doesn’t just show up with her friend. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your wedding is not some casual party that she can just invite whoever to. The average guest is allowed one date, that’s it. She (and her parents) do not get to dictate who is and isn’t invited beyond just their immediate family members, which I assume you’ve already covered. It seems to me like the only thing you can do is go the broken record route…

Annoying SIL: “Can I bring Suzy?”
You: “We’re already over our limit and can’t accommodate anyone else. I’m sorry.”
Annoying SIL: “But I really want to invite Suzy *wahh wahh wahhh*.”
You: “We’re already over our limit and can’t accommodate anyone else. I’m sorry.”
Annoying SIL: “It’s only one more person. I don’t see what the big deal is.”
You: “Look bitch, it’s either you or Suzy! If you would like to stay home to allow Suzy to take your place then go right ahead.”
Annoying SIL: “…”

Problem solved. 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sal5011:  Happy I could help. 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d have Fiance talk to his parents, since it sounds like they’re siding with SIL right now. You certainly have no obligation to accomodate her friend as well as her fiance (it’s so presumptuous of her to even ask, I think). It’s weird to me that they would side with SIL since it’s such an obviously inappropriate request, but maybe if Fiance explained the situation to them they would talk her down. So weird, though. Has she given you a reason that she wants to bring this friend? I can’t imagine why.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

OMG, tears were in my eyes I was laughing so much “look bitch its you or Suzie” hahahahha amazing!x

Post # 12
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116 posts
Blushing bee

@UpstateCait Bua ha ha ha ha

Post # 13
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@sal5011:  Oh no! I’m soo sorry! Seriously though, they either pay the 1200 or shut their snotty daughter up! I hope everything works out for you! 

@UpstateCait:  AHAHAHA! Perfect! 

Post # 14
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@UpstateCait:  I think you should say this verbatim. Hahaha!

Post # 15
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

Please let us know the end result.

Post # 16
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We told my parents and my FIs parents that if they insist on inviting people that are not friends on myself or my Fiance directly, that they (our parents) would need to pay for their meal. i would say the same to my SIL if she insisted on inviting more people than her guest. We are paying for our own wedding and absolutely cannot afford to add another guest for their company.

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