- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
I am having a temporary indulgence in immaturity. Please feel free to ignore me whilst I take a moment to be annoying and whiny for no reason whatsoever.
Last semester, when I was partnered up with a classmate (we’ll call her Jessica) to work on a project for a mutual class, we got together to practice beforehand. Naturally, being girls, the course of the conversation eventually turned to boys. (I was not engaged at this point.)
Jessica: (After telling me some story about her boyfriend-) Yeah, we’ve been together for… kind of a long time now. It’s been FOUR months. How long have you been with YOUR boyfriend?
Me: …four years.
Jessica: Oh, wow… -silence-
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t dislike this girl, and we had plenty of nice conversation. Just this particular instance struck me as kind of awkward/immature.
A few weeks later, I get engaged. A month or so after that, SHE gets engaged. Jessica is a year younger than I am (she’s 20) which is totally okay. Getting engaged at 20 is fine. Then she also sets her date for December, three months before mine.
Why do I care? I have no idea. We don’t have the same friends, we won’t be at each others’ weddings, nobody is going to get ‘overshadowed’ or any of that nonsense. So really this shouldn’t bug me.
Quite honestly, I think it’s the initial impression I got of her attitude. It always sense of red flags to me when younger girls feel the need to brag about how long they’ve been in a relationship (especially when four months is considered *long*). So maybe I just have this nagging feeling that she’s not ready and that she’s rushing things.
BUT I shouldn’t judge. I’m sure I’ll be over it as soon as I finish posting this. She’s a big girl and she can do whatever she wants, and ultimately I don’t know her well enough to judge whether or not she’s making a good decision or not. And there’s no rule that says people can’t get married before us. (I was *just* reminding Fiance of this a few weeks ago when he had a male friend in the same situation. For some reason it didn’t bother me then. I need to listen to my own advice.) I guess I just needed to type it out of my system.
Good talk, self. I feel much better. LOL.