Post # 1
I just began the wedding planning process and am looking for some feedback. I would like to have a ceremony at 10:00 am, followed by a large brunch at our ceremony site, complete with an omlette station, carving station, pancake bar, bloody-mary bar, etc. I don’t want any dancing at the reception; just want everyone to relax and enjoy their food. However, I would hate to miss out on dancing, so after the reception ends, I want to have an after party later in the night at a local bar (we would rent out the space and pay for the drinks). Should I have entertainment during the morning reception? Can I still do a father-daughter dance at the after-party? Does anyone have any suggestions that could help this flow smoother and make sense to people that have never been to a morning wedding?
I should have mentioned this: my wedding is at the beach, out of town for everyone, so I’m going to suggest that people explore the town (very historic sites) or go to the beach in the downtime; in fact, the majority of our guests are renting condos for the week and making a vacation out of it. I’m definitely fine with losing guests in the down time, because we’ll do all the traditional wedding stuff in the morning, but I want a chance to rest up before partying all night!
Post # 3
@Miss Jean: Hrm.. this is interesting because I’ve never been to a morning wedding. I’ve been to a DAY wedding – but that usually is like 12-5 or so and they serve a very dinner like lunch.
Personally? I would get a DJ for like 2 hrs for the morning reception. I would do the first dance and the father-daughter dance, etc. and then ask the DJ to keep it to very calm eating music otherwise.
I get the feeling that people might not “get” the after party and that it’s in fact a part of the reception – I feel like you might have to keep the after party as just a party and not have the wedding related stuff because a lot of people might not come to it.
If a friend of mine invited me to a morning wedding – ceremony and reception and then mentioned an after party, I wouldn’t think that the after party was actually part of the wedding and I would consider not going – think about it, you’ve blocked out an entire day and night for the wedding! I feel like it’s a lot to ask of people especially when weddings are usually 5-ish hours long.
What time do you anticipate the breakfast reception to end? What time will the after party start? What will the attire be for both? Are you going to wear your wedding dress to the after party? What will you be doing between the reception and the after party?
That being said – I want to say that your breakfast reception sounds AMAZING and DELICIOUS! Seriously, a pancake bar?!?! Ugh, YUM!!
Post # 4
@Miss Jean: Out of curiosity, why do you not want dancing at the reception, but are ok with an after party with dancing?
Personally, I would be a little confused as a guest. I would also guess that you will loose a good portion of your guest list between the two times. Large time lapses between activities tend to increase people ditching/going home early. If you are ok with that, then I guess it could work.
Post # 5
Awesome suggestions already. Thank you!
Post # 6
its hard because i dont know whether guests would come back for the night part. im assuming itll be what, 10-2. then once guests get home or, if they cant pass the afternoon elsewhere they might not be inclined to come back
its hard as you want no dancing in the morning. if it were me, i would do the first dance/father daughter dance in the day to be sure that everyone would be there
edit – saw your update. i cant see people getting out of smart clothes and messing up hair and makeup to go to the beach, then getting dressed up again to go out at night. exploring maybe, providing they arent dressed too formal
Post # 7
I’m planning a similar wedding! Morning ceremony followed by a brunch. It’s at a historical home/park outside of the city. We plan on running things approximately between 10:30-3:00? (Nailing down the time is one of the more difficult decisions). That night we are having an informal after-party at a local bar. It will be cash bar with live bands.
Our families and friends are pretty relaxed easy going people, we decided to break it up this way to try and give everyone the best of both worlds. Our parents and their friends aren’t dying to party in up with a bunch of thirty something’s at a dive bar and our friends would expect nothing less than an epic party from us. This way we are having 2 very distinct parts.
So far we have got nothing but rave reviews about the idea. I’ve been purposely planting the seed of 2 separate events to whomever will listen. As part of the invitation there will be the formal invitation and an informal insert. The insert is going to be a band flyer you usually see advertising on street posts custom for our bands and it will say “informal after-party” and something about join us to continue celebrating but don’t feel like you need to come (wording to be determined).
I think that as long as you make it very clear they are 2 separate events you should be ok!
Post # 8
This is exactly what we did and it couldn’t have beeMonterey perfect!
10am-330. Ceremony/ brunch dancing w classic band ( Sinatra / Michael buble type music)
8-11 pm rented our a bar and had a 90s cover band. So much Fun! Check out my recap posts under my profile!!