(Closed) Breakfast the morning after the wedding

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m a little confused here. How could you NOT expect people to tell the other guests about the brunch? That’s the only problem with selective invitations–you get a whole bunch of other people showing up.

We’re avoiding this problem by going dutch for the breakfast the morning after–if you want to come, you pay. B&G just dropped a buttload of money on you–I think you can manage breakfast.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re saying that we’ll be having brunch in the hotel resturant the morning after the wedding and if anyone wants, they’re welcome to come say goodbye to us then (and/or eat). There’s no reason why people can’t spring for breakfast the morning after the wedding. We just dropped a TON of money on the night before for heaven’s sake.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree. If you dont specify how can you expect them not to bring their guests? We’re having a brunch for all of our out of towners at Fiance parents house the next day. They’re making all the food that morning so we dont have to worry about paying for MORE food after paying for a whole wedding.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Well, I do think it is rude for people who were invited to invite other people who were not. I learned in grade 2 that if you receive a birthday invitation in class, you don’t go around telling everybody.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@east coast bride: If they “stayed over,” I’m assuming you mean they were from out of town and stayed in a hotel. Would that not imply that their children were with them? If not, how did the children get there?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

OHHHH i didnt realize that the kids, ect werent invited to the wedding. in that case.. then yea i understand how you werent expecting them. They should haev asked. But IMO when they asked, i would have invited them. Where would you expect their kids to eat breakfast?

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Statutory Grape: Just because the children were in town doesn’t mean they were invited. If they weren’t invited to the wedding, than why would they assume they were invited to the breakfast? They should have at least offered to pay for their own kids in that case. Plus they even had babysitters with them at the breakfast too! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@DeathByDesign: The wedding and the breakfast, though related, are two separate things. I don’t blame the parents for assuming they were invited. Unless the note explicitly said “NO CHILDREN,” I can see where they would have gotten confused. However, bringing the babysitters was a little much.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That is kind of rude, since you didn’t know they were even there, but they can’t really leave them behind well they go off for breakfast. And to be honest, they probably assumed that breakfast wouldn’t be that much, so they didn’t think it was a big a deal as it was. I don’t think I’ve ever spent $40pp on breakfast, but I know that’s just me.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Statutory Grape: Frankly, unless the invitation said “You and your families” I wouldn’t assume the bride and groom have unlimited money and can pay for a whole wedding and breakfast for my kids and in-laws the next day. Just seems like common sense to me.

This is why it frustrates me that the bride and groom are always expected to tip toe around their intentions in the name of etiquette and not insulting their guests. Because then the guests walk all over them,

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@DeathByDesign: As I said before, this is why we’re not paying for each person at the morning-after breakfast–the whole situation could have easily been avoided had everyone just paid their own way. 🙂

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