- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2017
I say follow your heart. When I was 21-22 (I’m now 31), I was dating a combat marine Veteran who had served two tours in Fallujah. After he got out of the Marines, they called him back up for another tour a year later. We had been together roughly 1.5 – 2 years at that point. I had said if he ever got deployed again, we would need to be engaged. Well, we had broken up before he had gotten his papers, then got back together after them. I ultimately broke it off because I really wanted him to come back alive (he was a machine gunner). He did. He ended up graduating college, and ironically enough worked on a construction project my uncle and then my brother was working on (different companies but very, very small world).
I am now engaged to the absolute love of my life, an Officer in the army and a police officer who is everything that I’ve wanted. I was in your shoes, and wanted to tell my parents everything with the first go around; but now that I’m older I see why my brother was hesitant on me settling down. Your family wants the best for you. You are an adult, and can make your own decisions, fellow Bostonian. Follow your heart, but also think of yourself and your own future.
Its not easy being an military S.O. and the divorce rate is higher- maybe that’s why your parents are also concerned. On the flip side, my mom met my dad at a new years eve party when she was 22, and they got married when she was 24. They are celebrating their 42nd wedding annivesary this August.