(Closed) Breaking Bridal Rules

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I told my florist that I wasn’t sure whether I wanted to carry a bouquet. I’m pretty sure I might have caused a stroke. And when we were looking at venues, I mentioned that we might want to open the bar prior to our ceremony, so guests could be enjoying a cocktail while listening to our vows. Wow, did that ever rock this poor woman’s world.

Post # 4
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3576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I recently told my mom that we weren’t doing the garter or bouquet toss because we think it’s tacky and I got the ‘deer in headlights’ look. 

I mean really?  We’re older and I always run the other way at receptions when they do this, so we’re not doing it.

Post # 5
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Thankfully noone made comments about our wedding choices.  Like you we didn’t stray all that far from tradition, but we also didn’t buy into the idea of perfection for the day.  I remember reading a blog somewhere where the bride to be was complaining that people seemed to see her wedding as a photo shoot, and she was more concerned with having a great day.

Post # 6
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4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… berries are for Easte? Berries are for WINTER! Not easter. Lillies are for Easter. I’m still trying to wrap my mind around that. Did I miss something?

Post # 7
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think people talk more behind my back than to my face about my untraditional wedding. we’re just doing it very casual and small, no dancing. my 4 year old niece to be was asking a million questions about the no dancing thing the other day. “but you have to dance with uncle p!” “but what’s your song if you don’t have a first dance?” and then when we went to pick out her dress her mom was convinced it had to be super fancy, even though i said my dress was kind of casual. luckily i’m ok with the flower girl stealing the show.

Post # 9
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My choices didn’t seem so strange on Weddingbee, but they were definitely non-traditional in the sense of midwest weddings. Then again, I’m actually from So Cal so maybe everyone expected weird stuff. I didn’t even think it was weird…but the sheet cake, fake flowers, photo booth, signature cocktails, etc, were like, CRAZY at my wedding. people were like, gasping when i told them i wasn’t doing real flowers. HOW DARE I?! Oh and SHORT cocktail dresses for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.

Post # 11
Bee
13042 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Seriously, I am shocked that more people in the wedding industry don’t keep up with current wedding trends!  It’s like, do your research, schmuck!  It’s not like anything you and your guy want is that far out of the ordinary!!

Post # 12
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

some of those traditional things are no fun, so i’m always baffled when people put so much stock into them. At least you have a good attitude about it!  maybe you could just play around with it and say off the wall things just to shock them.

Post # 14
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I remember when I was driving up to my best friend’s wedding (with my fiance and two bridesmaids in tow), she called to say she was at a craft store picking up a garter because her mom had talked her into doing a garter toss.

We got off the phone with her, and then called her back ten minutes later to talk her down from it, because we knew from the beginning that it was something she didn’t want at all – but she was just giving into it because of the pressure.  She decided to do a bouquet toss after all (I think ’cause she got a free toss bouquet), but the DJ even said “Oh, go and get a chair for the garter toss!” and she was like, uh, no, not happening.

The Wedding Industrial Complex kind of sucks for everyone (wedding professionals included, too).

For our wedding… we each have a best man and maid of honor.  Our ring bearer is my fiance’s uncle (who is in his 40s).  We’re not doing any formal parent dances.

Post # 15
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I know that my wedding is going to be all over the place… and surprisingly, my parents like it! (His parents… they’re older, and having trouble adjusting to what we want). I mean, I don’t want the garter/bouquet toss… I don’t care about a traditional guestbook, traditional bouts, bridesmaid bouquets (my girls might wear muffs since it’s a winter wedding), centerpieces, food, bridesmaid dresses off the rack, etc… my poor extended family is so confused.

Post # 16
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Yay!!! I was a go against the wedding industry flow bride and I loved it!!

IN YOUR FACE, bridal norms!! 😛

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