(Closed) Breaking up after a horrible weekend getaway

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Helper bee

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dallasgirl2k16 :  I speak from experience when I say that there are many AMAZING men in this world and my hope is that you meet one of them and experience the awesome happiness that will bring you. You are insightful to see the similarities between your relationship and your parents’. It’s like having a window into the future, which can give you more confidence when you walk away from this relationship. I wish you nothing but happiness – there’s plenty of it to go around!

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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dallasgirl2k16 :  The fact that you’ve seen this behavior in your parents relationship makes sense as to why you would be accepting of it for as long as you were. But it is NOT normal! It is not ok! Just because it is something you are familiar with doesn’t make it healthy. It means you need to be more conscious of it in the future and remind yourself if you start seeing signs of this in future relationships. Nip it in the bud, stand up for yourself and refuse to be treated like this! Or even better…find a man who would never in a million years treat you this way. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I do 100% agree that he was a jerk and dumping him was the right move.

But why do you need advanced notice to drive? It sounds like you just expected him to do all the driving, and if you want an equal relationship, that’s not very fair.

And saying things like “A man should do this, a man should do that” is really offensive as well. You’re basically saying the same thing that he is “A woman should cook and clean”.

Just some food for thought.

Post # 19
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

He sounds like a despicable human being. Dump him and don’t look back. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

You know, often when I read posts on the Relationships board, I can often see the side of both people- not saying that I actually agree with both parties, but I can see both points.

This isn’t one of those posts.

Honestly, I don’t think I have read anything so horrible in a long time! This guy is a huge asshole. It is hard to believe that he actually thinks that a woman would drive over in the middle of the night to bring him food. If I got a call like that, I would laugh in his face and tell him to order himself a pizza. Then I would laugh becuase it is hard to believe a grown man would need to call a woman to ask about how to get food.

I would dump this guy in a heatbeat. block him on all social media. Change your cell number. Make it abundantly clear that this is over and done. It is so hard to believe that people like this even exist. I have not heard of such selfishness, ever.

Post # 21
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Helper bee

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scissorgirl :  yeah, that’s what I noticed too. You saying “as a man he should do x/y/z” and him saying (or rather you saying he was saying) “as a woman you should do x/y/z”. Sounds like you both have some preconceived rules and expectations that might not be that helpful in the real world. Regardless, sounds like you feel he was treating you badly and that you are happy for the relationship to be over so it is probably for the best that it is.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

congratulations! now douchebag is out of your life. you don’t want to settle down with this person as thing would be harder when you have kids. imagine you have to do everything on your own.

 

go shopping, make yourself beautiful and sexy. you are not slave to anyone….go enjoy life!!

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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dallasgirl2k16 :  Nah…. other women would tell him to fuck off. Sounds like you are best out of it! His behaviour sounds crazy!

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper

Sometimes the little things can speak volumes about someone’s character. Like wanting all the apps for himself- IDGAF who drove, who paid for the hotel yada yada yada, wanting your share of the apps is greedy, selfish, and just so off-putting it’s disgusting. Ditch this mega-douche yesterday.

And sweetie, please work on your self-esteem, you sound quite young and ain’t no how, no way you want to let people treat you like this in life. There ARE great guys out there, but there’s also a lot of douchenoodles, set your standards high enough to weed out those who don’t deserve you. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper

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dallasgirl2k16 :  I think this is a good thing for you.  It looks ugly now, but you will look back and realize what a horrible douchebag he was to you.

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper

This is how you should be reacting after getting rid of such a massive self absorbed jerkface

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper

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dallasgirl2k16 :  Yes, you know. You said it yourself, you’re tired of being treated like a slave. Treat yourself to a nice meal and a spa day this weekend and tell him to buzz off. 

He sounds horrible. Take some time by yourself to heal and make sure you don’t put up with this treatment again. Hugs! 

Post # 29
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Helper bee

Why were you with this man?!

Good riddance, girl. You dodged a bullet when he broke up with you.

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper

BTW- this is not my business so I hesitate to ask. Do you have a credit card? It would help in times you are literally stranded at the side of the road as well as figuratively. That way you will not have to depend on parents bailing you out. Hopefully you will never find yourself in such a situation again but it helps to have it as “insurance”.

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