(Closed) Breast feeding is hard!

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I went to a breastfeeding class last night and the instructor explained things pretty much like Hope did. Thank you Hope for providing these little details.

Anyway, according to her the initial latch may hurt but it shouldn’t last more than 20 seconds or throughout the feeding. Always bring the baby to the breast not the other way around but also to where your nipple leans. Forcing your nipple to go where the baby is can cause latching issues. There was so much that I learned yesterday that I a truly thankful for the experience. I loved that the lady provided details and not just say, your not doing it right.

I don’t know about the hospitals in your area but my hospital provides a Just-in-Time line where we can call for assistance. They also allow us to come back to the hospital for lactation cosultation if there should be any further issues. Maybe you can attend a breastfeeding class. Hopefully they would be as informative as my class.

Good luck Mrs. DG!

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Wow this was a great post Mrs. DG, thank you for sharing. I just really feel like I benefit from hearing all of the suggestions, in addition to learning more and more about the difficulties. I only know of one friend who was able to breastfeed for a year and the other stories are all not great, so any feedback from all of you bees is beneficial in my book. It is kind of a perpetuated “myth” that it will either come naturally or it won’t, and I am with Janna in that I would really like to be able to do it, or work at it, even though I know I cannot begin to imagine how hard it will be or what challenges I will face in order to do so. I will keep checking back here for more suggestions ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh Mrs DG, I had problems just like you! My son was so lazy though, that he wouldn’t wake up to feed. I had to try to wake him up, and as soon as he touched my skin, he would fall back asleep! I used the nipple sheild to, but for the purpose of trying to get him to latch because they are longer than my nipples so it was further in his mouth.  I had to pump and supplement with formula too ๐Ÿ™ I found that pure black tea bags were soothing. You seep them in warm water, then lay them on your nipples. Sounds odd, but so nice! I also had a glass of wine in the beginning to help myself relax. I was getting so worked up over trying to feed that I wouldn’t relax and let my milk come. Good luck!!!!! It is very hard and tiring and frustrating, but at least you are trying and attempting! And she has gained some weight, so that is good!

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I, too, ended up raw and bleeding for the first week until we finally made it to “breastfeeding class” and I was taught the correct way to latch her on and feed.  Our hospital had a lactation consultant who would take moms and babies every Thursday and help them figure the whole thing out.

The best advice I got was to take your nipple and basically touch the babies nose and then draw it down into their mouth until it kind of “flicks” in past the top lip.  I hope that makes sense.  This keeps the bottom lip in the correct position and gets much more of the entire nipple in their mouth.  I found that I was latching her on too shallow and while she was still getting milk, it was causing me a lot of pain.

I will not make the mistake again of not seeing a lactation consultant BEFORE I leave the hospital.  It makes such a difference!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh wow!  I’m learning so much!  Thank you all for sharing!  I am definitely filing this away in my brain to be used when we get there in a couple years.

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@MrsDG  Hang in there! I’ve heard it can be rough, especially in the beginning. Good luck! And I’m sorry at the way some of the women treated you in the hospital. That’s awful! You shouldn’t have had to go thru that. ๐Ÿ™  Hope it gets easier and soon! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ms DG, Sorry to hear this has been so hard! I have heard nightmare stories about hospital nurses and breastfeeding “education”. I am glad to hear that your pediatrician has been helpful.

I really encourage you to look at the La Leche website and find some local support in your area. My cousin got a lot of support from this group and breastfed both of children for a year.

Washington State Support group information: http://www.llli.org/Web/Washington.html

General website for anyone interested: http://www.llli.org/

Good luck!

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m glad you did post this Mrs DG. It is really tough and yes, it is a natural thing to do, but it doesn’t always come that natural! We really struggled with it, and it was very hard emotionally on me. I thought that I was doing something wrong or failing as a mother right from the start.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Wow, I can’t even imagine the emotional stress learning how to breastfeed for the first time must be! I agree that there is a misconception that breastfeeding is “natural” and it should just come easy for a new mom. It’s like telling first-time skydivers to just jump out of the plane, the rest comes “naturally”!!!!

Thanks for sharing, Mrs DG. I’m not pregnant or even TTC, but first-hand honest info like this is priceless and timeless.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@DG- Sooo glad you started this thread! You are way to nice, I would have thrown a s%*# fit if I wasn’t getting the help I needed. Has she had a hard time going back to bare after using the shield? How did she do switching from bottle back to breast after you pumped?

@Hope- Thanks for your advice too! I did not know about making sure to get baby to latch when her/his mouth is open all the way!

Keep the great advice coming ladies!

 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Ok I have to ask because I have seen this in a few places and am clueless – what is a nipple shield?? It makes me think of that thing Janet Jackson had during the superbowl ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

ah, that makes sense.  Thanks!!!  this thread is super helpful

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hey I have been working nights (and spending a lot of time helping to get breastfeeding established for my patients LOL). It seems that my job in NICU lately is turning into a 90% breastfeeding teaching.

It is really hard work – I have rarely met a mom/baby pair where breastfeeding comes “easily” or “naturally”. There is a real disservice being done to new moms right now – video’s showing a baby just crawling into place and self-latching, the breastfeeding pressure, and people pretending that breastfeeding is easy.

Getting a deep latch is tricky – you have to be patient, wait for the really big open mouth, moving quickly to get the baby onto the nipple before the mouth closes, compressing the areola in the same direction that the mouth closes is so important (I describe it like biting into a sandwich – you have to line it all up properly).

I actually don’t think you should “fight” with a baby to get them latched – when they get too worked up, cuddle them for a few minutes to calm them down, feed then a little tiny bit of milk from a cup/syringe/nipple to take the edge off the hunger, and then try again. If you take the despiration out of the situation it helps so much.

Also – to help your milk supply, every time you have a less than stellar feed you should pump milk, otherwise your milk supply can drop off a bit!

 

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