(Closed) Breast vs. Bottle?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Tick as many as apply/applied to you in your babys first 6 months.
    I mainly breastfed my baby : (16 votes)
    20 %
    I mainly formula fed my baby : (9 votes)
    11 %
    I used formula and breastfeeding about 50/50. : (3 votes)
    4 %
    I received breastfeeding information from my doctor : (12 votes)
    15 %
    I received breastfeeding information from my nurse/midwife : (12 votes)
    15 %
    I received breast feeding information from my mother/family member : (7 votes)
    9 %
    My main source of breast feeding information came from books/internet : (5 votes)
    6 %
    I feel I have adequate information of breastfeeding supplied to me by my health professional : (6 votes)
    8 %
    I recieved formula samples from the hospital/my doctor : (10 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I had two kids (ages 7 & 9) and am currently pregnant.  I breast fed both of my girls and will breast feed my new one when he/she comes. 

     My first one was soooo hard no one showed me how to do it they just handed me my baby and said its time to feed.  I knew the great bennifits for the baby so i tried to push through it.  by the time she was one week old My breast we so bad!!! no one told me about breast pumps how to breast feed nothing.  I was doing it all wrong.  I ended up in the er hooked to a large machine with two cups hooked to my breasts to drain them.. i was engorged,,, like dolly partin.  talk about painful.  plus because of all the pain everytime i breast fed I got an horrible angry feeling!  Its suppose to be comfortable and relaxing but for some reason it made me angry.  I ended up after the hospital with bleeding breasts and chaping all over… i ended up pumping and giving my baby the milk through a bottle.  I didnt want to be angry with her for no reason and yet i wanted her to have the best.  My second child close to the same thing except i knew how to take care of my breasts and sort of knew how to breast feed.  Im hoping that with my 3rd things will be a lot smoother.

    My 1st she got breast milk for 5 months

    My 2nd She was breast fed until 2 monthes then breast milk until 6 months

    Post # 4
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    My son is currently 2 months old and I am exclusively breast feeding. I just started going back to work on a part time basis so I am starting to pump a lot and he is getting more bottles lately. 

    I feel like I got really lucky in that I had no major problems with breast feeding. I watched several videos online and did a lot of reading so I was well prepared and knew what a good latch should look like. Also lucky for me, my little man took right to it and I only had to correct him a few times on the latch. 

    I don’t think that my doctors office really offered much support or information for breastfeeding but the hospital that I delivered in was very supportive. Nurses were there for the first few feedings and the lactation consultants came in several times to check on us. I had a few small issues after leaving the hospital and I went to a store called Babyology that provides consultation services and sells all kinds of supplies. They were really great. 

    The only major issue that I had with breast feeding was getting used to the huge time commitment. In the beginning it was hard to feel like all I did was feed him but I got used to it and have learned how to make it work and it now seems normal. I’m glad that I stuck with it bc now I can enjoy that time with him after I do work and it seems like it helps to keep that connection with us. 

    Currently I plan to breast feed until he is 6 months old, after that I will have to go back to work full time and that involves traveling frequently so not sure if I will be able to maintain any sort of milk supply on that schedule. 



    Post # 5
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I took a class, and I meant to do more reading but it didn’t happen in advance.  Luckily, breastfeeding has been going REALLY well.  CoWBoy is 4 weeks tomorrow, so I can’t say for 6 months, but he is gaining really well.  We had the nurse & the LC at the hospital help us, plus my co’s HR gives us access to a phone LC.  I haven’t initiated contact but do get tips/answers from her when she calls and I *could call.

    Post # 6
    841 posts
    Busy bee

    I nursed my little guy until he was 4 months (then added solids etc), and I nursed him (supplement, then later comfort) until he was 20 months old. Best decision I ever made! It really did help that I had such a great support system i.e my Doula, mum and sister, ob/gyn. All those people made me very comfortable and made nursing an awesome experience for both my son and I 🙂

    Post # 8
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I Boyfriend or Best Friend my son until he was 12 weeks old. I had a ton of problems with pumping, and due to some travel plans around 10 weeks I had to stock up on milk. Since I couldn’t pump enough, we had to start introducing formula around 8 weeks. He preferred the formula and weened himself fully by around 12 weeks. 

    As for support, my Pediatrician and OBGYN were both pro Boyfriend or Best Friend, but also had no qualms about introducing formula. My Ped basically told me that some babies just do better on formula, and that perhaps my milk was just not as satisfying for him. 

    In the hospital, I had an emergency c-section and wasn’t able to hold him until around 8 hrs after birth. At this point, they just handed me my son w/o much instruction, other than “time to feed him!”. At the 2nd feeding, a nurse did give me some instruction… at the 3rd feeding however, another nurse came in and told me totally different things. Sigh. The hospital also supplemented w/ a dropper of formula since my milk was late coming in. 

    After switching to formula around 3 months, I felt fine with the choice to Boyfriend or Best Friend and then do formula. 

    Post # 9
    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    My daughter is 3 months old. I decided to try breastfeeding, even though I had always planned on formula feeding. From the beginning, I both breastfed and formula fed, though I admit that I formula fed more, probably about 60/40 or even 70/30. It just didn’t come second nature for me to breastfeed. I found myself with a bottle in hand without even thinking about breastfeeding. I stopped at 6 weeks or so.

    I had a difficult time with it though. The nurses helped while I was at the hospital, but as others have said, I got a lot of different information. It was just confusing. Once I left the hospital, I tried to keep it up, but after awhile, no matter what I did, I couldn’t get her to latch correctly. It frustrated both of us.

    Besides that, I felt absolutely no bond when I breastfed, and I always got frustrated. She was the type that would fall asleep at the breast, and then when I would unlatch her, she would immediately start crying.

    Honestly, I’m glad I stopped breastfeeding. I was so much happier and less stressed afterward. However, I don’t think that getting support would have helped me to keep breastfeeding. My thoughts on it weren’t that I was upset when it wasn’t working, but that I despised doing it in general. Hearing that it would get better wouldn’t have helped me either.

    I should also mention that for a few days, I literally could not breastfeed. This was when I was so engorged that it was just impossible. I bought a pump and did that for a few days, but it never really got any better. Literally hours later, I had to pump again, because I was in so much pain. I tried this again when I stopped breastfeeding, but by that time, I couldn’t get anything to come out.

    Now, obviously, she’s strictly formula fed, but she’s gaining weight really well.

    And let me just say that I’m both pro-breastfeeding and pro-formula feeding. I just don’t think it’s (either breastfeeding or formula feeding) right for everyone.

    Post # 10
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I haven’t really talked about my experience with breastfeeding on here, but I think I’m finally to the point where I can share my story.  I was really excited about breastfeeding, and we had a really good start in the hospital.  When we came home with Addie, I thought breastfeeding was going really well.  At her one week appointment, she had gained back her birth weight plus some!  Of course, I was kinda sore, and my nipples started to crack and bleed a little, but it was definitely manageable.

    About 2 weeks after Addie was born, I started to feel kinda sick.  My husband had just gone back to work, and he started immediately working 14-16 hours shifts, so I was kinda working overtime, taking care of Addie and the house mostly by myself.  Over the course of two days, I got really sick; I had a fever and I thought I was getting the flu.  I couldn’t sleep, breastfeeding became super painful, I was nauseous, I had bodyaches, and I got red streaks on both my breasts.  My husband finally took me to the ER after two days of being really ill, and I found out I had a bad case of mastitis.  I was admitted to the hospital (initially only overnight), and because I wasn’t responding to oral antibiotics, I had to stay in the hospital for almost four days total on IV antibiotics.  I was lucky I didn’t have an abcess because I would’ve had to have surgery, and probably would’ve been out for longer.

    Those four days were the hardest I have ever been through.  I couldn’t see Addie because the hospital has a policy of not allowing anyone under 16 on patient floors.  My husband was working ridiculous hours, so I only got to see him like twice during my whole stay.  My mom was able to come up and take care of Addie , so I basically spent all of my time on the phone with her or crying in my room alone.  I missed my baby so much and I couldn’t be with her.  My doctor said it’s best to nurse through mastitis, but I couldn’t, so I pumped instead.  Honestly though, at that point, I didn’t want to breastfeed anymore.  It was too overwhelming, so the day before I went home, I started to let my milk dry up.  When I got out of the hospital, I formula fed instead.

    I wish that I would have had more information on the complications that can come with breastfeeding.  Mastitis is only briefly mentioned in most birth books, and it didn’t come up at all in my birth or childcare classes.  I wish I had heard about how to prevent mastitis, along with what symptoms to look out for.  I wish I had received more support both during my hospital stay and after I got out of the hospital; I might have continued breastfeeding instead of letting my milk dry up.

    Being separated from Addie was so difficult, but even after I got out of the hospital, I was “mourning the loss” of breastfeeding, as a good friend put it.  It’s taken me quite a while to come to terms with formula feeding, and I’m finally feeling better about it since Addie is growing like crazy and pretty healthy.  But even now, when I think about having more babies and possibly breastfeeding in the future, I feel really anxious and scared about it.  I’m not sure I will breastfeed in the future, just because I am so worried about repeating my past experience, even though rationally I know that is unlikely.  I just don’t think I could go through that whole ordeal again, and the emotions are still somewhat overwhelming for me.

    Post # 11
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Mrs. Spring: Oh that is just aweful!  As soon as you started to mention you were nauseous feeding I thought “Mastitis!”  I agree that there isn’t enough information out there about it (maybe because experts feel it will “scare” people away??).  In my Boyfriend or Best Friend Support Group we took a poll and basically everyone had gotten a clogged duct at least once and half of the group got mastitis as a result!  It comes on so suddenly and hits you like a ton of bricks.  I’m sorry that you had to go through all that, it sounds horrible.  I hope that eventually the trauma of that incident fades, it sounds like it was truly an ordeal for you.  At least Addie is healthy and beautiful and happy, so you can rest assured that she still loves you no matter what.

    Post # 12
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Thanks, MS.  🙂  I do feel a lot better about it, but I’m obviously not over it yet.  I wish there was more info out there on things like blocked ducts, mastitis, and other complications from breastfeeding because it is really common.  Good for you for joining a Boyfriend or Best Friend support group!  I imagine that has helped a lot, especially when you went back to work and started pumping.

    Post # 13
    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @Mrs. Spring: I am so sorry that happened to you. As a nurse who works with moms and babies it really makes me angry that so many people don’t get enough education in the hospital. I probably spend at least 50% of my day teaching about baby care, and breastfeeding. I just don’t understand how breastfeeding education always seems to slip through the cracks. We hand every mom a pamphlet on blocked ducts, and one on mastitis, as well as the safety, and baby care information they get in the hospital, and I teach moms to look for and massage out plugged ducts (which is the first step in mastitis) from the the 2nd or 3rd feed on … In the city I live in, there is also a breastfeeding clinic that is covered by our public health care where you can go during the day and get help and support. I wish it was a priority everywhere!

    Post # 14
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I should also mention that I live in a pretty small, rural community.  There is only one hospital, and we only have 10 rooms in the whole maternity ward.  There is a small La Leche League here, but I didn’t join before I had my problems with mastitis.  I thought I was doing ok and that I’d join after my husband stopped working so many hours.

    It’s difficult everywhere, but I think it’s even more difficult in rural areas.  There’s not as much support because there’s not as many resources.  I wish it was different, but that’s kinda the reality in living in a small town. 

    @ MsMini – It sounds like you are doing a great job.  I could’ve used a nurse like you a few months ago!  🙂

    Post # 15
    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I breastfed for 4 months. My plan was to do it for a year, but DS wasn’t gaining enough weight. The first month went great and he was gaining very well. Around 5 weeks he started getting really fussy unless I pumped and gave it in a bottle. He would latch and after a few minutes he would let go and cry and shake his head back and forth. My Dr., lactation consultant and the la leche leauge didn’t have any answers. They said it was because he was colicky. By 3 months he had fallen off the growth the growth charts and when I was at work I was only pumping an oz. every 2 hours. I was DEVASTATED. I felt like I had been starving him because every just kept telling me to stick with it. My guess is that my flow was slow and he just got frustrated, and just unlatch and start crying, therby reducing my supply. For weeks I pumped every hour for 15 minutes on the highest setting trying to increase my supply. I took herbs, drank tons of water, drank dark beer, everthing. Nothing seemed to work and at 4 months I was only pumping 12 oz a day. I wish someone would have told me that this exists. I would have started pumping right away and my milk supply would have never decreased.

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