Breastfeeding and Husband Support

posted 4 months ago in Babies
Post # 31
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Helper bee

I honestly slept in and out through breast feeding my baby. She didn’t start latching until she was 2 weeks old (my breast was massive and she was tiny) so I pumped whenever I felt the need to (I had an over supply which meant I felt the need to every few hours and could not go a night without pumping or I would wake up engorged and it was really painful and I did end up with mastitis which is an infected milk duct, it sucked). After a feeding do try to get all the milk out of both breasts though. This will help with supply. My routine was: in the beginning I got a bassinet and kept it next to me so when baby needed feeding and changing in the night it was right there, I changed her, then I propped myself up in the bed on a nice pillow, stuck a boppy around my waist and propped baby on it and stuck her to the boob and then fell back asleep and most of the time so did she. She might wake up again and I would switch to the other boob same process. She slept through the night (6-7 hours) right off the bat 90% of the time but like I said my boobs were just crazy full of milk so I HAD to get up to pump (which I cat napped through). I breastfed her for a year and drove a lot for work. I pumped at work on my breaks (pump came with cooling and storage feature) and had crazy tinted windows and pumped with one of those pumping bras when I drove with a jacket over me. There was no nipple confusion when dad would feed the milk I had previously pumped that day. I used a Tommee Tippee bottle that helps with air bubbles (so baby doesn’t have gas/colic) and it’s shaped like a breast. Don’t sweat. Stress can make you tense on producing and like others said dad can help put baby to bed after you’re done feeding 🙂 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee

baller123 :  Get a haakaa. They’re a manual silicone breast pump that you can suction/latch onto the opposite breast while you are breastfeeding. The constant soft suction will catch your letdown, and after several feedings throughout the day, you can easily have enough for a bottle for your husband to feed to baby at night. It requires no extra effort on your part such as setting aside a designated time to pump. Only caution is that it is easy to tip over or, as it gets full, it can lose it’s suction and pop off. I always kept a hand under mine and a bag or storage bottle close by to immediately dump the milk into and seal when I was done. The best part is they are one solid silicone piece so they are extremely easy and quick to clean. I do agree with others though, that you may want to hold off on skipping too many overnight feeds in the first 6 weeks while your milk comes in and supply regulates. However, I can also attest that lack of sleep can negatively affect your milk supply, as well, so it’s all about finding the balance and what works for your body. Breastfeeding is a hell of a journey and a big commitment, but it can be done.

As far as pumping once you return to work, your supply should be regulated by then, but to keep your supply up, you will need to pump as frequently as you would nurse your baby and keep a schedule. Once you start deviating from your schedule and as stress of being a working mama and finding time to pump creeps in, you can face issues with your supply.

They recommend you give breastmilk for the first year, but I suggest setting short term goals for yourself. I so so wanted to make it the whole year, but it just wasn’t feasible for me once I went back to work. But, I was able to make it to 8 months before the first supplementation, and ultimately I stopped pumping/breastfeeding altogether at 9.5 months. I was able to make it this long by setting goals such as 1) through maternity leave, 2) 6 months, and 3) 9 months. When it was really rough, sometimes just setting a goal of one more week/day/feed was all I could guarantee. But, allow yourself some grace. If you have to supplement, or baby never latches, or your milk never comes in – it is okay. Just focus on your own journey and your own story and ensuring your child is healthy and fed. 

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper

baller123 :  It took me 2 months to get my full supply to come in and stop supplementing with formula due to some complications. And of course she started sleeping through the night about a week later and I feared for my hard-fought supply but also desperately wanted to sleep all night too. It ended up being fine – a few uncomfortable nights for my boobs but I still had enough milk for her when she wanted to nurse. Once your supply is established mixing pumped bottles into the routine should be fine but follow your body and your baby. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I dont have any advice really as my baby never latched and I was trying to pump and feed every 2 hrs which left me no time for sleep. So I only was able to do it for about 3 weeks before switching to formula.  But I wanted to add I am so impressed by all these dhs who got up in the night with the baby! I have 4 months of maternity leave and my dh had to go back to work right away so he never did a night feed accept on the weekends! Do all your dhs work or have some time off? Just curious! Now that I’m going back to work he knows he needs to help at night but of course now she is sleeping through night! I defiantly should have put my foot down in those early days as some nights I only got 20 mins of sleep and no naps during the day! But to be fair I really never asked him for help bc I tried to do it all. It took a major toll of me but I got through it and I did have him start doing the early morning feed before work so I could get more sleep. Anyways yes get your Darling Husband involved whenever you can! I def should not have tried to take it all on myself!  Good luck and I hope it all goes well for you OP!!

Post # 35
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Busy Beekeeper

candy08 :  especially if you’re formula feeding you shouldn’t have to ask him to help take care of his own child. My husband did have time off but even when he was back at work if I needed him to giver her a bottle once in awhile so I could get some sleep he did. Even moms who exclusively nurse should have a partner who changes diapers and rocks the baby back to sleep sometimes! Sure you have to wake up to feed but that could be less than half the time the kid is awake at night. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

LilliV :  So true! Most of the time my LO was awake was bc she was just fussy or needed changed. I told my dh if we ever have a second baby he will be helping from day one! I agree I do kinda feel like I shouldn’t have had to ask for help but sadly all my friends dhs were the same so I kinda thought it was normal! He is a lot more involved now but really it would have helped a lot if he was from day one!

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