(Closed) Breastfeeding fears

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

coacheswife123: Good. I am glad you found it helpful! 🙂 I also was not breast fed as a baby either.

If you continue to breast feed, you will obviously have breast milk. Maybe he’d like that fact?… Would he find it kind of neat/kinky that he could also get some fun use out of it. Tastes just like canteloupe juice…Was that TMI? hehe

Post # 18
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Breastfeeding is tough work.  It took me about 2 weeks to get the hang of it and it was painful.  But you know what, stick to it because after the week of discomfort and second week of getting the hang of it, it’s totally worth it.

As far as encouragement, all I can say is do what is best for you.  I had to supplement with formula sometimes, pump sometimes and breastfeed sometimes.  It was what worked for us.

Post # 20
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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@coacheswife123:  Oh, good!  I’m glad I did, too.  I think the first few days you have in the hospital will give you an oppurtunity to see how you feel about it, with the nurses around to help you.  The most important thing you can do when you get that baby home is sleep when the baby sleeps!  #1 rule~ don’t do laundry, don’t entertain visitors~ sleep each and every time the baby is sleeping. 

Create a routine as you go along so things go smoother.  We had a system where when the baby woke up and cried, my husband would get him while I went to the restroom, got myself a mug of water, and got settled in to my rocking chair.  His dad changed his diaper (which helped wake him up) and brought him to me.  Later, I could just reach over (we kept him in a sleeper next to our bed), pick him up, feed him and lay him back down. 

You know, I actually have a better relationship with my breasts now.  🙂  I always treated them as something I needed to pushup, strap in (hello, running), or wish to be bigger.  I feel more in synch with them now, if that makes any sense at all.  I’m quite proud of them!

Post # 22
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

When you deliver, there will be lactation consultants on hand at the hospital to help you learn how to breastfeed and how to feel comfortable breastfeeding. You can also take classes in advance, often for free, depending on the services of your local health department. After you deliver, you can always go back and see the specialists again or sometimes they can even come to your home. I’ve heard that some–the minority–can be pushy about breastfeeding, but everyone I know personally has had a positive experience and said the specialists were very understanding and supportive if they had a hard time (mentally or physically) breastfeeding.

Post # 24
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Whenever i do get pregnant, i intend to breastfeed, and if i cant handle it or the babe cant latch on, i will pump because i have seen too many babies get sick from drinking wrong formula. I dont want to put my future baby through that. Regardless of how much of a pain it is to pump, i absolutely refuse to use formula.

Post # 27
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

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@coacheswife123:  Nope, you are not alone in your thoughts about it! I’m nowhere near gung ho like your friend! haha I’m feeling very apprehensive, but I’m just going to do my best and hope for the best! I took my breastfeeding class last week (husband came, too) and that helped build my confidence. Have you considered taking a class? That may help your husband, too. In our class, almost all the couples (25) had their partners/husbands with them. It was so informative and my husband got a lot out of it and enjoyed it!

Post # 29
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Hi!  So I think your approach makes sense.  Give it a try and don’t put stress on yourself about it.  I would suggest doing some research before hand, like taking a BFing class or reading up on the challenges because while it can be very hard, it doesn’t always have to be**.  And once BFing becomes routine it is a ton easier than pumping or even formula feeding.  Honestly, I really was bummed when we started introducing bottles – all of a sudden I had formula to buy, bottles to clean, coolers to keep milk cold, warmers to warm it up.  Pain in the butt.  Nursing was so easy in comparison- Mom+baby+nursing cover and we had all we needed.  And I HATED pumping – it was a pain in the butt to get hooked up, clean all the parts and I just disliked being milked. bleach.

**While I think knowing how to make nursing as easy as possible CAN make the process pretty easy, for some women, it won’t because there are other complications that you can’t prepare for.  I am mostly talking about the basics of latching, positioning, timing, etc.  Not issues with production or people with other issues.

Post # 30
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I know I’m going to be unpopular.  However, as someone who had your same concerns, I feel like sharing.  I am planning not to breast feed at all.  I considered it, and it doesn’t work for me.  The mere thought of it gives me panic attacks.  I tried watching instructional videos and it made me so upset and nervous, that I decided it was best for me and my baby to be a present and happy mother, rather than a nervous wreck having constant panic attacks.  I was not breast fed, neither was my brother.  None of my nieces and nephews were.  We are all very healthy.  None of us have allergies, were never sick kids or even hospitalized (aside from my brother who has knee surgery once due to a football injury).  We were all at the top of our class and lead very successful lives.  I am very close with my mother and don’t think we missed any bonding.  Breast feeding just isn’t for everyone and it’s not for me. I don’t think my decision means I love my baby any less.  I made the best decision for me and my child.  I have actually talked to a lot of my mommy friends, and only 1 of them breast fed and she only did it for 3 weeks.  Now, to be clear, I am not anti-breast feeding.  I am proud of all women who undertake such an endeavor.  It just doesn’t work for me.  It is a personal choice that a lot of women get pressured into in today’s society. 

We subscribe to The Atlantic in our house.  This is a great article on breast feeding that lays out just the facts on Boyfriend or Best Friend vs Formula without all of the passion and judgement:  http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/04/the-case-against-breast-feeding/7311/

Good luck to you as you make your decision.  Just know that at the end of the day, what you decide will be best for your child.  The fact that you are thinking through this so much makes it clear how much you love your baby. 

Post # 31
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

The best choice is the one that works best for your family.  I knew I would breastfeed but was never against formula.  My son is allergic to Milk and Soy and his formula ended up being $30 a can.  So, we went to exclusive breastmilk.  Breastfeeding is all consuming.  I know in my case I am always thinking about food (mine or his) and breastfeeding.  I schedule my days around it.  But formula is the same.  You will ask the same questions of if he/she is eating enough.  You will have to prepare it and feed it and burp it. 

There are a lot of scary stories of breastfeeding.  I had it relatively easy with just a few blisters.  So I can’t add to the scary stories.  I can tell you that it can work and it can be better than you think it is.  Take it one day at a time. 

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