Post # 32
You’re not alone. I too have awkward thoughts. My boobs have been what gets my motor running so I’ve had fears of the nursing getting my motor running and that’s just plain awkward with your baby. But at the same time, I believe in the benefits of the nutrients over formula. And the reduced time spent pumping, washing bottles, expense of formula etc. So I’m like you going to give it a try for a few weeks. I’m hoping the awkward feeling goes away when I’m in babymoon bliss
I’m also nervous because my DH is a pilot and is gone 3-5 days a week. So I’m worried about being tired and frustrated and alone with an infant crying! Ugg!
My SIL breastfeed the first few weeks and then had to go in for emergency surgery from a problem during delivery. So the pain meds etc forced them to have to go to formula for a few days. The baby did amazingly well with the transition and then they went back a week later to breastfeeding. The awesome thing with this was the baby then would take either boob or bottle! So she did the boob in the morning and evenings when they were home and formula while at day care.
So I think the key for us “planners” is to remember that we have to just go with the flow and do what works for us at that given time. Going to be hard to not be in control.
Post # 33
Thank you so much for sharing and you should be PROUD for the choice you made for you and your baby. This makes total sense to me: decided it was best for me and my baby to be a present and happy mother, rather than a nervous wreck having constant panic attacks. Thank you thank you for sharing your experience and perspective!
fear of the unknown is definietly what is getting to me, right now! Like you, I’m hoping the awkwardness fades when I’m holding my little one. GOOD LUCK to you !
Post # 34
I know this isn’t probably what you want to hear but honestly you just have to play it by ear and see how it goes once the baby comes. I’m a planner also so I know how you feel right now but one of the greatest lessons you learn being a parent is that you are not in control! There are just so many variables with Boyfriend or Best Friend and you don’t know if it will work or not work or even if it is something you will want to do once the baby is here. I thought if BFing didn’t come easily at the beginning that I would be really motivated to want to work on it but I honestly wasn’t. It just wasn’t for me plain and simple. What worked best for me and my son was FF and I know I made the right choice for both of us.
My advice is to just keep an open mind about your options. Those first few weeks are already so hard emotionally so don’t feel like you need to make any definite decisions either way (you can pump to keep up supply if you aren’t sure if you want to Boyfriend or Best Friend or not). Figure out what works best for you and be confident in whatever decision you make.