- 3 months ago
- Wedding: September 2012
When your kid is 3 and eating cheetos off the floor they won’t know or care if they were formula vs breastfed. I certainly think breastfeeding is great, but I 100% believe that “fed is best”. Yesterday I caught my 15 month old eating dog food.
I’m gonna say this louder for those moms in the back who really need to hear this right now…..YOUR BABY NEEDS A HAPPY AND MENTALLY HEALTHY MOM MORE THAN THEY NEED BREASTMILK.
I totally get it, I had immense guilt to the point of tears at supplementing because I felt like I had failed. It’s ridiculous we have this kind of pressure. I supplemented for literally 2 days because nursing wasn’t going well and my milk hadn’t come in and we were losing weight. My milk came in, I started exclusively pumping, and on we went. I did eventually get him back to nursing and he has breastmilk until a year. And you know what? My breastfed baby had more colds this past winter than my friend’s formula fed kid…..so to the haters who swear breastmilk keeps kids healthy it might but it definitely didn’t work for us.
I fully believe that breastfeeding is the #1 hardest thing about being a parent. Hands down. I’m sorry you feel so isolated and I would defintely encourage you to get your husband involved. He should be up with you, helping you and supporting you. If you decide you’d like to pump he should be up feeding while you’re pumping. That’s how we worked it in my house and it made things a lot easier, also because I wasn’t resentful that I”m doing all the work.
Big hugs to you! Breastfeeding or formula feeding you need to do whatever is best for your mental health.