Post # 1
I’ve seen alot of Boyfriend or Best Friend post in the last few days and now feel I need to jump on the wagon here.
DS is 10 days old. He latched on and did amazing the minute he was put to the breast. He did awesome the first 5 days. I had a C section and was worried how hard it was going to be, but he was such a sucker he did great. My Milk didn’t come in until day 4 which I was still in the hospital and the baby’s weight had dropped and put him in the 10% so they wanted me to suppliment, I held off another day, and the day we were supposed to go home, his billribin levels were high so they really pushed me to supplement to get his weight back up and bring his levels down. I was bummed. We were doing 1/2 oz every other feeding. He did okay with this for the first day and then I noticed him getting fussy on the boob. We tried to cut back a little on the suppliments but we were also worried about the health of our baby so we continued. After 2 days of this, DS has gotten really fussy, he will still latch and feed but it’s a chore, he will suck for 2 mins, push it off, suck for another 2, push it off. We do this for a good 10-15 mins each breast.
On the 3rd day of doing this we went back to the dr and his weight had gone up to almost his birth weight, but his levels were still high so they wanted us to do it every feeding. We didn’t agree and stopped with the bottle due to the fussiness. Thankfully the next day his levels started to come down which made us feel better. But now I have a really fussy eater who now wants to eat every hour because he doesn’t feed goo durning his feedings, he is always falling asleep and not interested or pushing me away then sucking. We try everything to undressing him to bothering him to changing positions.
Every hour of feeding is draining me and making me feel trapped, but I want to keep Boyfriend or Best Friend and start pumping soon as well. Any suggestions/advice? DO I need a lacation consultant? ANyone else have a Boyfriend or Best Friend baby that wants to eat every hour?
Post # 3
The first few weeks of BFing are really hard because Boyfriend or Best Friend babies eat A LOT. I remember a couple times just wanting a break. During this time, my husband really stepped up and did a lot of things around the house. Just relax. Enjoy being a new mom. Cuddle with your baby and watch some movies, read a book. It gets easier.
Post # 4
Even though you think he has a good latch, he may be nursing for a short time and nursing frequently because he, in fact, does not have a good latch, is not nursing effectively and comes off because he is frustrated.
Dr Jack Newman is an expert on this subject. On his website there are videos you can watch to see what effective sucking looks like.
Newborns do nurse frequently. I remember feeling like I had a new growth on my breast 24 hours per day! I did! He was my son!
Although they will have periods of cluster feeding, they do not normally need to nurse every hour.
It will get better. Check with a lactation consultant if things do not improve.
Post # 5
I once had a baby that ate every hour on the hour. I know how you feel. Did your hospital provide you with a list of breas tfeeding support groups? I went the entire year I breast fed my 2nd baby, off and on with my 3rd and it probably saved my sanity. It was a relief to weigh the baby weekly too. My suggestions are to rub his palms, double check his lips and tongue. What positions are you using? I preferred the football hold. Another thing that may help is to massage your breasts right before a feeding so that they are softer and easier for him to latch onto. Also having some milk already on your nipple may entice him a bit. You may notice one breast lets down faster too, try starting with that one when he seems extra fussy. Good luck!
Post # 6
It might be a hard couple days while you get your milk back to the levels he needs.
Just remember it’s not going to be this way forever, just a few more days.
Try just resting easy and snuggle in bed with your little one, watch a movie, read a book, let him latch and unlatch when he needs to. Your breasts need the stimulation to know how much he needs to eat and he needs the reassurance that he can get milk in his belly. Practice a few different positions nursing and maybe you’ll find that you two prefer some positions more than others.
It might seem like you’re nursing so much right now but your body is just trying to figure out how much to produce. Let hubby make dinner the next few days or order out and let him cluster feed to his hearts content. It will get better after a few days.
Post # 7
oh yes, i had a baby that ate alllllll the time the first few weeks. I don’t think I really left my bed all that much. it was my sanctuary- where I could nurse quietly and read all those baby books.
Your sweet baby will eventually taper off the sessions (but probably “cluster feed” again at growth spurts). You are doing great!
Post # 8
I too had a c-section and it took a few days for my milk to come in, the hospital pediatrician wanted me to supplement immediately with formula/bottle because apparently my son was not eating enough, although he only lost 3% and billirubin was 0, apparently he likes to see all babies eat well before discharge. I was so upset and finally when the lactation nurse came to see me we decided to use a supplemental nursing system, basically a little tube that we ran beside my breast and latched the baby on and fed him so that he would take to nursing vs feeding via bottle, we fed him small amounts of formula by pushing a syringe hooked up to the tube this lasted just about until he was 5 days old. Honestly the lactation consultant listened to me and was the best advocate for helping me get the baby to latch and stay latched. My little guy was eating every hour or so for the first few days/weeks and i too felt drained and exhausted. We are going on week 11 now and its going great. Good luck, you can do it!