(Closed) Breastfeeding in front of others…

posted 11 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I grew up in a pretty hippy household and my mom and her friends etc would breast feed their kids without covering up all the time, usually at home though.  In public places they’d use a scarf or something similar to “cover up” a bit, but they would breast feed anywhere pretty much.  

Post # 18
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Helper bee

@Birdie Love – I completely agree with you – it drives me nuts how sexualized the breasts are, especially in relation to breastfeeding.  On a similar, yet slightly off-topic topic, pregnancy and childbirth have become so medicalized as well…like pregnancy is a disease and childbirth is a stressful negative medical experience. Those ideas are not complete parallels to how our society views breastfeeding, but our society has (in my opinion) still created a skewed conceptualization of what breastfeeding is about.  There’s no reason why a women should feel like she should go into hiding so she can feed her baby. Sorry if anyone disagrees with me – just my feelings on all this.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think there are just some things better done in private and breastfeeding is one of them. Especially when people are eating. I wouldn’t want anyone filing their nails at the dinner table either, these things gross me out.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mom breastfed and she’s a big fan of breastfeeding children. However, she feels modesty is important. There is no reason for you to be throwing your boob out there for everyone to see and I feel the same way (especially in public). They make so many great contraptions these days (Hooter hiders, etc) that make it easy for you to breastfeed, still be able to see your baby, AND stay covered so that the whole world doesn’t have to see your nipple.

My mom would also pump pretty regularly and if she knew she was going to be out in public for an extended period of time, she would bring a bottle of breastmilk and then there was no issue at all. Breastmilk still has all of the same nutrients when it comes out of a bottle.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Question for those mommies who do breastfeed in public: before you had kids, was it something that you didn’t think you would do? I’m just wondering if after having the baby you changed your approach/attitude toward it or if you just never thought it was a problem.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Chreee123….have you seen the documentary “The Business of Being Born”? If you haven’t, you can get it on Netflix (maybe even the watch-instantly documentaries). I agree with you and could go on and on about the topic, but I’ll refrain! 🙂

Post # 23
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Helper bee

@Birdie Love – I know – I could go on with my feelings – I probably spouted too much already.  I actually have seen that documentary – I loved it for the content, but I also love it because I think it’s great to step outside of our “American selves” and view our society’s ideas from another perspective.  I haven’t seen it in awhile though – I’m adding it to my Netflix right now (it is an instant-watch by the way).

Post # 24
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Newbee

@kittyachi: It was strange for me to see it, because we’re so programmed to see breasts as private and/or sexual.

I never fed publicly with the twins, because I had to be essentially topless to do so. With my third, I did my best to be reasonably discreet, but, really, women in bikinis were showing more boobage, so it was frustrating to feel like I had to be so cautious of others’ “feelings.” But I still kept fairly covered. I will say that covering with a blanket is not always an option–infants LOVE to tear those off, and it can get very hot, and sometimes it’s hard to get a baby to latch on, and being twisted under a blanket with limited vision and mobility is sometimes very, very difficult… etc., etc.

Comments like it making you “barf” are really hard to hear…. I made a lot of sacrifices to do what I believe(d) was best for my children, and to hear other people–especially women–talk that way about something as natural and healthy as breastfeeding is disheartening to say the least.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Meh. I don’t know how I will feel about my breasts at that point in time in my life, so I can’t say what I will do. I honestly don’t plan on exclusively breast feeding past 3 months. Other people breastfeeding doesn’t bother me. Nudity in general, either sexual or not, doesn’t bother me.

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t have the highest self esteem with my body so I would proably run to the bathroom or at least do it under covers. That’s just me.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is a huge issue in New York City because it is so freakin’ crowded here.  Also, you can’t go to your car or something to do it because no one drives.  And the city has the worst person-to-bathroom ratio in the world (actual fact).  Those who live here know that 90% of the bathrooms in Manhattan are filthy and are absolutely no place to feed a baby in.  I think that there’s some legislation on the table right now to mandate certain businesses to have a lounge/mom’s area (I know Macy’s, Bloomingdales, etc. already do)

Anyway, I have no problem with women breastfeeding in public if they cover up with a blanket or something.  I’ve seen a lot of women lately doing that, and that’s what I would plan on if I decide to breastfeed someday.

Post # 28
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Busy bee

I think what those who think women should not breastfeed in public need to consider is how isolating breastfeeding can be.  Women are under tremendous societal pressure to breastfeed–even our formula cans say “breast is best.”  If you don’t believe it, try bottle feeding a baby in public- more than once I’ve had an over zealous woman hiss at me under her breath that I should be breastfeeding my baby, and she’s only 4 weeks old.  So basically, our society expects women to breastfeed, then tells them they have to stay home to do it.  When you breastfeed, your baby eats every 2 hours, which means that if you want to leave the house to do basically anything, you have to either rush home or feed your baby in public.  By saying that women should not breastfeed in public, you’re basically encouraging her isolation.  I know that I can usually manage one day without leaving the house, but after that I start to go stir crazy.  I think I took Norah out when she was 5 days old because I was about to lose my mind stuck inside.  I just don’t think people who haven’t been in the position of a nursing mother really have a place judging where they choose to feed their children.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I personally don’t have a problem if other people are doing it in public… it’s natural and good for both mommy and baby. That being said, when we’re out and about I plan on being discreet about it. I just don’t want people staring at me. I’ll carry a wrap or pashmina or something with me so the baby and I have some privacy.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have no problem with a woman breastfeeding anywhere. A baby needs to eat and that’s what boobs are for. My friend breastfed her baby wherever and no one seemed to mind.  I would totally breastfeed in front of my friends. Now my mom and dad, I would not but that  is the type of relationship we have so its cool.

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’m fine with it, but i agree that covering up with a blanket or something (if able to ) is a good idea.

My sis used “hooter hiders”.. she loved ’em and didn’t feel awkward feeding in front of my dad or my Fiance.

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