(Closed) Breastfeeding in front of others…

posted 11 years ago in Babies
Post # 77
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The sourcream nipple…too funny!

@rnc620….UGH!! I feel for you. I wish I could say something that would help or that I had advice for you, but I don’t. It can be so isolating and exhausting. I really hope that things get better for you! I can remember being frustrated to just bawling with my girls, and really feeling trapped inside the house.

Post # 78
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

@rnc620: could this coverup work for you with football holding? http://babybondnursing.com/main/

also, maybe a stiff-necked cover like a Hooter Hider would help, as you could still look under the cover without removing it, and have your hands free to adjust the latch.

HTH!

Post # 79
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5822 posts
Bee Keeper

OMG, sour cream nipple…gag!  See, now THAT is inappropriate!  I don’t have a problem with women BFing in public, but you don’t need to expose BOTH boobs to do it!  THAT I do have a problem with!

Post # 80
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625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m definitely going to have to look into the covers. Ididn’t realize how many options there were out there.

Post # 81
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly, seeing a woman breastfeed in public makes me very uncomfortable.  Will I ever say anything to a woman doing it, no.  It is her choice.

I understand the comments that have been made about feeling isolated and the baby NEEDING to be fed.   I also understand, and hope that your child is the most important thing in the world to you. 

However, as a common courtesty, I think moms need to remember that they are not the most important people in the world and neither is their child.  You should be courteous to others around you.  If there is a way to avoid nursing in public, or at least covering up, I think it is the polite thing to do!  Do I want you hiding in the bathroom, NO!  But could you try and plan your outings like others have suggested, or utilize some of the suggested cover up methods?

Breastfeeding is a choice that you make for your child.  I believe that it is the healthiest option and I will be trying to do it with my children.  But as a parent, sometimes you have to make sacrifices for your children. 

Hopefully, moms can find a compromise that doesn’t completely isolate them, but doesn’t make others uncomfortable.  But if you do have a terrible nurser, etc maybe you can plan outings to family and friends homes where there is a suitable nursing area.  Preferably an area where others, who are comfortable, can join you for a chat.

If you are comfortable nursing in front of friends/family in your home that is perfectly ok with me.  It is your home, but I am sure that many of your guests would appreciate your discretion or even a warning.  I’m sure this would make my brothers or other male relatives very uncomfortable, so I will probably cover up or go to another room.

At the end of the day, how you feed your child is you choice.  I am not advicating any anti-nursing legislation.  However, it is my right to be very uncomfortable and  express my opinion as well.

 

 

 

Post # 82
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think we’re a pretty classy group of ladies and I don’t think any of us would consider nursing without covering up. Honestly, when I have nursed in public, I have been so discreet even people with me didn’t realize what I was doing. Nursing babies have to eat every 2-3 hours at least. So, while it may be easy to say plan your outings around that, it’s totally easier said than done.

I’ve been around the Mommy block a few times, and I truly believe that a new mom needs to get out of the house, with and without her baby, to combat the “baby blues,” which can be really excruciating. Not to mention there are always going to be social obligations that people are expected to attend. Again, would you rather hear that baby scream?

I also think that public places are just that. Public. So, everyone who chooses to be in a public place has the right to be there just as much as the next person. I see things that offend me all the time. Fanny packs. Ill fitting pants. Bad perfume. Bad language. But it’s public. For everyone to use.

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Omg! Sour cream nipple! thats hilarious!! I agree, there is no reason for both breast to be out, unless you are simultaneously feeding twins, which I think would be very difficult at home in a comfy chair, let alone out in public.

I have only just learned of these ‘hooter hiders’. I’m in Australia, and I’ve never seen anything like that out in public before. I think if I did see one, most people would have no idea what they were. I don’t know if I’d want to use one though, they seem to scream “HEY Everyone!! I’m breastfeeding behind this curtain thing!” where a bunny rug slung over the shoulder doesn’t draw that extra attention to what you are doing.

Post # 84
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I sort of feel like a babies need to eat overides an adult feeling weirded out by seeing a boob. I’ve def felt a little strange seeing women breast feed, but I think because we don’t see it very much we feel like it’s still sort of strange thing to do.. I don’t know. To each his own.

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