(Closed) Breastfeeding in public

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 151
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

CorvusCorax:  No one frowned. Simply stating the fact that you could stop commenting. 

Post # 152
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3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I apologize if this has already been pointed out… but quoting here…<br /><br />CorvusCorax:  They make these things called breastfeeding ponchos, so you can breastfeed anywhere! Fancy that! There’s no longer any excuse to flash people!<br />

“Should breastfeeding in public be illegal? No, but doesn’t change the fact that women who publically breastfeed without making any effort to do so discreetly are trashy”<br /><br /><br />Says the woman that thinks bridesmaids showing off their panties in photoshoots is a-ok and not trashy. 

 

“I think it’s funny. They have underwear on, so it’s like being photographed in a bikini bottom. I would do it if a bride wanted such a photo. This one is kind of cute, and the Bridesmaid or Best Man who didn’t want her ass photographed was able to still be a part of the silly shenanigans.”

<br />Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/new-trend-in-photography-bridal-party-butt-pics/#ixzz36WoxzKFg

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Post # 153
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Worker bee

Breastfeeding in public isnt a choice, babies cant be reasoned with 🙂 Breastfeeding is so intimate and such a quiet time esp with a new baby. I breastfed in public but always felt self conscious and would never try to make another mother feel like that because trying to bf an angry screaming baby can be pretty hard. Add into that mix uptight women who think their man will be overcome with the slightest sight of a breast and guys who think its fine to stare and it aint much fun. It just infuriates me that women are so sexualised in every area of life that even one of the most natural, beautiful things is completely demeaned.

Post # 154
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Woodstock:  It’s up to the bride and her BMs if she wants to do a certain style of photo. However, brides and their BMs generally don’t go around in public places lifting up their skirts.

Post # 155
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

CorvusCorax:  But you’re okay with women wearing bikinis in public, which show way more skin than any woman I’ve ever seen breastfeeding in public. Lol, okay.

Post # 156
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Katie-Didnt:  You hear of breast-feeding women getting kicked out of restaraunts, Legoland, Starbucks, an American Girl Store and probably a shopping mall or two… And you know what? It’s a private establishment’s right to decide what’s appropriate and what’s not within its place of business. If a private establishment doesn’t want you breast-feeding on their premises then they can tell you to stop or kick you out. More power to them.

Post # 157
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Cory_loves_this_girl:  If a woman wore a bikini in a place at which it would be considered generally inappropriate or out of place, that would be quite trashy. When was the last time you saw someone board a plane clad in a bikini? Wearing a bikini at the beach (or for a photoshoot)? No problem. Location and context matters.

 

Post # 159
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

CorvusCorax:  There’s really no context in which feeding a hungry baby is innapropriate (unless you’re extremely immature).

Post # 160
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Woodstock:  wow! Her level of hypocrisy is astounding! Everyone that I know agrees those types of photos are the epitome of trashy and I have a wesiding photog friend who wont even take them bc they lower her brand. She must either be trolling or the most immature person I’ve ever encountered. 

Post # 161
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Cory_loves_this_girl:  A lot of people, including myself, disagree with you. I wouldn’t personally complain to the management about a breast-feeding mother in a public place (even though it’s distateful), but a lot of people do–and sometimes the establishment takes action by kicking out the offending mother. 

Post # 162
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

Woodstock:  She’s also apparently a former stripper

CorvusCorax

As a former dancer, I’ll weigh in.

If youre not comfortable with something, tell your fiance that you are not comfortable with it. If you don’t want strippers at his bachelor party, tell him you’re not okay with it. It’s alright to set boundaries.

I will say, however, that when strippers entertain at a bachelor party or when a bachelor party visits a strip club, the strippers usually get more attention from the other guys than from the bachelor himself. The bachelor will get a dance or two, of course, but I learned quickly to fawn over and click with one of the other men in the party. I made more money that way.

I’m all for being conservative and modest, if that is your thing, but feeding a baby does not fall into the category of flashing, as she stated before. If you are flashing someone while breasfeeding then you are not doing it right. 

Post # 163
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Busy bee

This issue is always so hotly debated on the bee. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve noticed a woman breastfeeding in public. That means one of three things – I never leave the house (false), it just doesn’t happen anywhere I go (unlikely to be true), or women are discrete (likely true).

Feeding a baby is not a sexualized moment but I can understand why some people would view it as a private moment. If at all possible, I’d like privacy when I eventually breastfeed. Having said that, I have seen girls in outfits that have made me shake my head and definitely show a lot more skin than a breastfeeding woman.

I agree with a previous poster that context and location are important to determine what is and is not appropriate. I personally would prefer to bottle feed in public and breastfeed in private but sometimes things don’t work out that way. There are a lot worse things going on in the world than public breastfeeding and I really don’t see what there is to get up in arms about.  

Post # 164
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Woodstock:  I’m sorry but I don‘t think it’s okay to scroll through someones old posts to find someone they’ve said to embarass them. She may have an unpopular opinion but it’s hers to have

I find people get so defensive when someone is against public breastfeeding or anything to do with children. It’s a touchy subject but can we just be civil to one another? Just like you have a right to your opinion, she has a right to hers withouit a gang of ladies jumping on her…

While I understand children need to eat at some un-oppotune times I think modesty is always best and that is MY opinion. Posting selfies of breastfeeding and whipping it out in restaurants just seems a bit off to me and I can’t stomach it.

Post # 165
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Tanleggedjuliet:  Because stripping in a strip club is so inappropriate and unacceptable? Lol, you’re obviously delusional if you can’t differentiate between contexts in which nudity is acceptable or unacceptable.

Because all strippers walk around in public places wearing bikinis and crop tops.

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