(Closed) Breastfeeding in public

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 181
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

MeandMyLouboutins:  Really? How exactly did you expect “I just can’t stomach it” to be taken?

Also, “whipping it out” really? If you happen to see a split second of nipple, which I assume we all have, then it is either because the mom is new to it and has not gotten the hang of it. Is having difficulty with the baby, sometimes they like to fight, especially before they have control of their own movements. Or, as I previously stated, she is doing it wrong! Which is highly doubtful. 

ETA: Pointing out she was a former stripper was to show her hypocrisy. Why is it okay to sell your body but not use it to feed your baby?

Post # 182
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Er… well this has gone downhill…

Quick recap:

– Pointing out flaws in people’s logic = OK

– Slut shaming = not OK

By all means bring up past posts, but can we avoid personal attacks, please? Because if I smell slut shaming here again, I’m going to call a mod. It’s a retrograde and unnecessary practise used to repress women.

Post # 183
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

Rachel631:  Saying someone is a former stripper (her own words) or pointing out that she likes half naked pictures was not slut shaming. It was used to point out her hypocrisy. 

Post # 184
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

MeandMyLouboutins:  Who the hell “whips it out in restaurants”?

Have you ever seen a woman literally whip out her boob?  As a matter of fact, it would be interesting to know whether anyone on this thread has ever seen a woman literally whip her boob out in a public place in order to feed her child.  My idea of whipping a boob around must be very different from yours.

It may just be how your comments are reading to me, but you apparently seem to have more compassion for a poster who has made some pretty rude statements than for a mother trying to feed her child in what may be a very uncomfortable situation for her.

Thankfully the law in my country ensures that people who have an issue with “trashy” women “whipping their boobs out” to feed their hungry child get no voice around here.  That’s right – you can’t get kicked out of any public place for breastfeeding your child.

A woman’s right to breastfeed anywhere, anytime is protected by the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms.  If someone complains, attacks or tries to remove a woman from an establishment for breastfeeding, they can be reported to the Human Rights Commission.

Post # 185
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Tanleggedjuliet:  You have an issue with my stance so please let’s not pretend the wording is the problem… lol

We all use colourful language to express our points and I won’t apologize for that. Nor will I go back and forth

Rachel631:  +1 thank you!

Post # 186
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Bumble bee

MeandMyLouboutins:  But its ok for the poster in question to compare mothers to rats and insects because they breed as well and that we need to keep our brats under control because they might be hungry and cry? Or that if we choose to breastfeed in public, we’re “trashy”?

You’re acting as though she’s a victim by having a contradicting opinion. Several other women on this thread said they weren’t comfortable with breastfeeding as well.

Post # 187
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Tanleggedjuliet:  By all means, point out the flawed logic… in a previous post, I noted this illogical thinking. Because it is illogical to say that it is permissible for your breasts to be used in an act of public consumption (which is what stripping is), but not permissible for your breasts to be used in an act of private consumption (which is what breastfeeding is… obviously I am playing on the dual usage of the term “consumption” here).

It’s just that a few previous posts have come dangerously close to slut shaming, and that’s not cool. There’s a line to be walked here.

Post # 188
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

MeandMyLouboutins:  It is the wording. You said it made you sick, when questioned you had no good response. 

Good for you,  realizing your argument is invalid. 

 

Post # 189
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

CorvusCorax:  except there is no context in which stripping is not trashy. I didn’t say u grind on men “outside of work” but I’m pretty sure a strip club is fairly “public” in that its a public establishment that anyone can go into (over a certain age) and you are CHOOSING to dance around and sexualized yourself in front of hundreds of people a day. So, yeah I’d say pretty public and certainly not private.  

I think that strippers should only be allowed to strip in bathrooms, or in their car, or in the privacy of their own home 😛 cuz “no one wants to see that” 

Post # 190
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787 posts
Busy bee

I think the issue is that many women are personally attaching the woman in question. When you fight fire with fire all you get is a bigger fire. Stop responding and it will die down. Both sides have made their views abundantly clear and no one is changing their mind here. 

Post # 191
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

Rachel631:  Again, if she wants to strip, strip. But it makes her a hypocrite to do it and then turn around and say breasts can not be used for what they are supposed to. No matter how you try to spin it. 

As far as I read, she is the one saying strippers are walking around looking like them. Again, may be your fine line there, but it seems like she is the one closer. Other than the poster comparing it to being a hooker. 

Post # 192
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Tanleggedjuliet: kortizi0: I am honestly having trouble seeing what my former job as a stripper in a strip club has to do with what other people do in public. I’d see the hypocrisy in my words if I had exposed myself in public, but as far as anyone knows, I haven’t, and nor have I claimed that stripping isn’t trashy.

And hell, I don’t even claim to be Mrs. Appropriate all the time. If I do something inappropriate, at least I don’t pretend that it is appropriate. 

So if you want to breast-feed in public, fine. Go right ahead. I won’t say anything and I won’t make a stink and I have better things to do than bitch to the management of, say, Target about it. But I will find it inappropriate and rather gross. Either let people judge you and stop being offended about it, or don’t engage in it if you don’t want people to judge you. It’s as simple as that.

Post # 193
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Happy2bMrs:  .. sigh… yes I have seen that MANY times (hence my reference) and I live in the same wonderful country as you do…

Katie-Didnt:  I have compassion for the poster as there are 4 to 5, if not more, women who seem to be “ganging” up on her about her past as a stripper and the fact that she thought showing butts in a bridal photo was okay. I, in no way, said she was right. I even stated that I disagreed and I think she has had enough people telling her she was wrong no!? Did you want someone else to jump on that bandwagon? I’ll pass on that

The problem I have is the personal attacks. As you can see above someone is trying to attack me now because she doesn’t agree with my point. We can all agree to disagree and be respectful. The difference between me and Corvax err don’t remember her exact name is I’m not going to attack back personally – I will simply move on…

There has to be a btter way to partake in intelligent debates than what is happening… that is all

Post # 194
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Tanleggedjuliet:  Her argument is illogical. The solution is to point out the gaps in the logic in a polite way, even if her responses are not so polite.

I will now flag posts which I feel are “slut shaming” as opposed to delivering reasoned, logical reponses. This does not include your posts, By The Way. But a few of these responses are way out of line. We are grown women….

Post # 195
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Rachel631:  go ahead, call a mod. NO ONE was slut shaming. And I won’t apologize for anything I said. Pointing out the hypocrisy of someone who used to dance around NAKED for a living calling breasdfeeding moms trashy is now slut shaming? Oh but it’s ok to call moms trashy, compare us to rats, etc…as long as u don’t use the “s” word. Ridiculous. 

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