(Closed) Breastfeeding in public

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 121
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

CorvusCorax:  honest question… If you think kids are brats from infancy onwards… Why do you want one? 

 

About the topic on hand: no kids yet, but I will try to cover when breast feeding in public. If it turns into a hassle or my naby won’t eat under a blanket then oh well guess the whole world will see the top of my boob. I think people honeslty see more of the boob in a swimsuit vs breast feeding. 

  

Post # 123
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

MsChandler:  Even more so with this pic, it appears that the one that says “sexy panties” the woman is completely topless. 

Post # 124
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Helper bee

Tanleggedjuliet:  Because publically objecitfying women that physically represent about 1% of the population in a marketing scheme that is designed to make women feel inadequete and drive sales is socially acceptable, but a woman using her body as it was designed to provide nourishment and comfort to her infant is “inappropriate”.

Post # 125
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

Feeding a baby is a thing that needs to happen, but there will always be someone more interested in complaining about a baby getting fed than, you know, just not looking. Maybe they are worried that their similarly repressed men folk will store that image in their spankbank for later…it isn’t a baby’s fault that some men are perverts. It still has to feed.

I plan on giving the ‘shock and disgust’ crowd a jaunty wink when the mesmerising pull of my totally unexceptional breasts leaves them somehow incapable of looking away. I acknowledge that this is less than hugely classy, but we can’t all hire a wet nurse and a couple of nannies… then pack our dear progeny off to boarding school at 7.

Post # 126
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

MsChandler:  Um, okay. My point was that in the picture not only is this woman being ridiculed beside a poster of large breasts but in the smaller one it looks like she is completely topless, even worse. 

Post # 127
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well, that escalated quickly. Holy Moley. I read through everything, somebody just wants to stir the pot. 

Post # 128
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Helper bee

Tanleggedjuliet:  Sorry that wasnt directed at you! I meant to point out how ridiculous that picture is with the combo of the toplessness like you said and the bra photo.

Post # 129
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you can really file this under the mommy wars category. I don’t think there is one right answer as long as LO is eating. For me when my LO comes in two months…obviously her getting food is the main priority but I’d like to try to avoid exposing myself if I can (that is a big if). Ideally I’ll be pumping and she can drink from a bottle occationally. If not, there are a lot of good breast feeding shirts out there with a modesty cover. But I don’t get to decide everything, if my baby refuses to eat unless my boob is hanging out…well then so be it. 

Post # 130
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Spade504:  I don’t want kids now. I enjoy my freedom and my career. Maybe one day (in five or ten years) when my biological clock ticks, if it does, then I will have one or two. And I will happily be one of those mothers who leaves it to a nanny because I will not jeopardize my career for motherhood that may or may not happen. I’m honestly too happy with my job to let that happen, and one needs only to look at the statistics of the salary earned by working mothers vs. the salary earned by child-free women to understand my point. Many mothers look down on this attitude, but it’s a perfectly valid way to raise a child.

Post # 131
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I will be honest. I am not a fan of children and don’t find BFing “beautiful” or “amazing.” However, I get that it’s natural and more economical (have you seen the cost of formula nowadays?). I have seen women Boyfriend or Best Friend in public, and they have always been super discreet – one would not even notice it at a quick first glance. Frankly, they don’t bother me at all. 

I think this controversy stems from society’s lack of respect for mothers. Sure, there is mother’s day and tons of memes about motherhood being awesome. But society’s actions towards mothers? Appalling. From mothers essentially killing their careers to have kids to pregnant women not being given seats on the train by thugs bc they are not deemed “hot,” mothers are treated like crap by society. That’s why BFing faces such scrutiny – b/c it does not fall within society’s expectation of the perfect and “hot” woman – which you have to be in order to count. I mean, why do we see so many “invisible” older women while older men hit their stride? It’s sad. Instead of battling whether BFing is appropriate or not, we need to fight this “You don’t count unless you are a VS model otherwise ew” approach society has towards women. Then maybe we will get somewhere.

Post # 132
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

MsChandler:  That cartoon is spot on. I also don’t see controversial threads about partying coeds flashing everyone their b00bies during spring break. B/c that’s “sexy” (I.e. attractive to men… gotta love patriarchy…) and a-ok!

Post # 133
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

joleegirl:  Wow I really did think you were serious. Did not get the sarcasm. Just so you know!

Post # 134
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

MrsNewDay:  I completely agree with you. I went to a dissertation defense about the experience of showing during pregnancy, and the presenter was talking about this new phenomenon in which women think they are supposed to look like a VS model but with a belly and not gain any other weight, or else they are not a beautiful pregnant woman. What you are talking about is real!

Post # 135
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

CorvusCorax:  I had a nanny growing up and it was awesome! I loved her so much and I am still close with her, we write to each other all the time. She was like a third parent, and it was so wonderful to have her there for me. My sisters are still close with her too. It was also great because she really only worked 9-5 and my mom was there the rest of the time, so I still got to be close to my mom. Unfortunately my dad worked 70 hours a week so I saw him for about a day and a half during the week (he left home before I woke up and got home after I went to bed) but I am really close with him now that he doesn’t work so much. I do think it is important to carefully consider a nanny. I had a few other nannies first. They were kind of mean. The nanny that we love was very loving but also consistent about things. She never shamed us, but if we broke a rule, we knew the consequence and we got it without her being mean to us about it, and I think that made a huge difference. She really cared and loved us, and that was a good thing. 

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