(Closed) Breastfeeding in Public- Opinions?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 331
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MaggieF:  I have a serious case of rbf too, lol! I guess i should try and smile while bf in public! 

Post # 332
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MrsUPS:  oh ffs it’s a discussion forum! No one is forcing you to participate.

Post # 333
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

MrsWBS:  I would have no issue with someone breastfeeding next to me on a plane; because that, IMO, is necessary in that you can’t exactly step away; your only alternative would be to feed in the toilet which as I said I think is unreasonable and ridiculous. Breastfeeding inches away from a cashiers face when you can easily stand another foot or so away, or sit down close by, is not, however, necessary. So again, I will pose the question: would you choose to breastfeed your child within a foot of someone’s face when it’s not necessary? (ie you can choose to step away/sit down to the side).

Post # 334
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

barbie86:  That’s another good example of a jackass problem, not a breastfeeding problem. 

Post # 335
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

barbie86:  As I said previously, if my kid was eating in my carrier when I was ready to check out I wouldn’t wait until she was done or pull her off when I went to check out. More of my breast is exposed in a regular shirt I wear than when my kid is Boyfriend or Best Friend. 

I don’t know how much of this woman’s breast you saw so it’s hard for me to judge if I think you’re being ridiculous or she was. But, if it was me Boyfriend or Best Friend in front of you, knowing the amount of boob that you’d see, I’d say you were being ridiculous. But, she could have a bigger chest, taken her shirt all the way off, etc. etc. I wasn’t there so I don’t know. I’m responding from my frame of reference and thinking about the situation in terms of what you’d see if it were me in front of you. There’s no point to the back and forth here because I wasn’t there. My only point was that it was a little much to assume she was doing it purposefully to make you uncomfortable or to cause a scene/prove a point. I think it’s highly likely that her staring at you with a nasty look on her face, was just how she is, and would have had the same look whether she was Boyfriend or Best Friend or not. 

Post # 336
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

MrsWBS:  You are again adding things that did not happen in this particular situation eg ‘if my baby got hungry while I was paying’; that was not the case, she was already feeding when she approached me, she wasn’t stood there not feeding, then the baby cried. 

As for how much I could see: she had very large breaststroke and I could see most of her breast plus part of her nipple ie quite a lot. 

So once again, assuming you were in exactly the same situation ie hubby is dealing with the shopping, baby is feeding, you can easily stand a few feet away or take a seat, would you instead choose to stand right up next to the cashier throughout the transaction? If so, why? 

Post # 337
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Sugar Beekeeper
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barbie86:  why does it matter what I would do?! Persobally for MY comfort I wouldn’t if a large part of my breast showed. i don’t know why you want to know that so bad. Again, my point to you was she was feeding her baby and not thinking about you at all. She most likely had no hidden agenda to make you uncomfortable or prove a point.

Post # 338
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

MrsWBS:  I was there, you weren’t. I would put serious money on that being her intention. Believe it or don’t, whatever. The simple fact is that some women DO deliberately try to provoke or cause discomfort and that is what some people take issue with. I don’t really know why you’re arguing with me TBH; she was in the wrong, end of story. 

Once again: I have no issue with public breastfeeding. Just please refrain from doing it inches from my face, that’s all I ask. 

Post # 339
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

barbie86:  Do you not fully read my posts? I’ve already said I wasn’t there “I don’t know how much of this woman’s breast you saw so it’s hard for me to judge if I think you’re being ridiculous or she was”  “I wasn’t there so I don’t know. I’m responding from my frame of reference and thinking about the situation in terms of what you’d see if it were me in front of you. There’s no point to the back and forth here because I wasn’t there.”<br /><br />

At the end of the day neither you nor I will EVER know what the woman’s intention was. Since she didn’t say explicitly haha I’m trying to make you uncomfrotable and provoke a reaction, your perception of her intent is just that YOUR PERCEPTION. It is not a fact that that is what she was doing.  

The fact this situation has you so completely bothered though makes me think more and more that the issue is you not her. Have a lovely day!

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