(Closed) Fully exposed public breastfeeding. Thoughts?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

It doesn’t bother me at all. I’m a big believer in if the kids got to eat then whip it out. I’d much rather see a breastfeeding baby than listen to a screaming one.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, I would never whip it out myself, I’m fine with people doing it with a cover of some type though.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i don’t mind if it’s covered but if I see a whole boob that makes me a little uncomfortable. If you really want to show your whole boob, go to the bathroom and do it!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It doesn’t bother me in the slightest (although in the interest of full disclosure, I am an NICU nurse – helping people learn to breastfeed is part of my job). Would you rather hear the baby screaming?

I actually am really annoyed by the fact that people get judged if they choose NOT to breastfeed – but if they do it they better hide it? That is bullshit.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mwitter80: Great point! I agree.

Much rather get a boob shot, than listen to a wailing, hungry infant.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Totally fine with it – the baby has to eat! If people are uncomfortable they don’t have to watch.

Although, I will add that I’ve seen mothers breastfeeding full-on toddlers in public (I’m talking over 2 years old, the kid could walk and talk) and that was a little strange to me. Not strange that the kid was bf-ing but that she chose to do it in public. If it’s an infant you don’t have much of a choice if you’re not pumping, but when the kid is older? She could have easily given the kid a sippy cup of juice or something.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree that it is uncomfortable. But I feel bad for moms who breastfeed in the bathroom 🙁 public restrooms are so dirty. I have to admit, a lot of the time when my son was a newborn, I would go to the bathroom to do it and it was so gross. I wouldn’t touch anything.

I think covers are needed of course, also to go back in a corner or a private area is more polite. I still didn’t feel comfortable with a cover on in public…but maybe I was too modest? Usually I would pump before going out in public. I did feed my son in the back of the car a lot too (tinted windows).

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Ms Mini: agree!!!

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Babies need to eat and the boob is the mechanism for that.  I would never do it without a cover, but twice I’ve been at friends’ houses and not had a cover and fed my very hungry baby anyway.  When your baby is screaming hungry and your boobs are full, you could really care less about who is watching.  It’s a biological need for the baby and for the mama.

Really, how much boob can you see anyway?  The baby’s head blocks almost everything.

I’m not a breastfeeding nazi, but I really do feel like people’s expectations are unreasonable.

I heard someone say that they were frustrated because they could hear a baby drinking in a restaurant (under a hooter hider) and that grossed her out.  I can hear these people chewing, but that doesn’t make me confront them and ask them to leave the restaurant.

This really should be a non-issue!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m okay with breastfeeding in public. Personally I wouldn’t be comfortable being “exposed” at all while doing it.

I think beyond some women being comfortable with that, there are probably some times when the mom doesn’t have anyway of covering herself.

Plus you said you were dress shopping – I’d feel more comfortable in an environment full of women and wouldn’t stress about covering up as much in that situation.

If she’s comfortable and her baby isn’t crying then what difference does it make? Just look in a different direction. If you’re in a public place there’s a good chance you could be exposed to things that make you uncomfortable (offensive shirts, signage, tattoos, language) – why worry about something that is actually serving a vital purpose?

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m ok with it and prefer it covered.  I’ve seen people with it just hanging out feeding, and while I dont really care, I just dont think you should be flashing your boob to the world whether or not your feeding.  I dont know a mother that would travel without a little burp cloth or something.. use that!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

it’s natural and i don’t mind it. kind of a sad state of society when feeding your child means mothers are expected to stand in a bathroom or hide away somewhere to do so as if it’s something to be ashamed of (not saying that’s your opinion, Cait!)

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@UpstateCait: I’ve breastfed in public and never made a show about it. 99% of people didn’t even know what I was doing. It’s funny that people are squeemish about it but are totally okay with seeing teens cleavage plastered all over Facebook and Victoria Secret models in bras during daytime TV and crawling all over the bed in doggy style position but can’t stomach a baby eating. lol The most you ever see is the top of the skin. Just like you would in a low cut shirt. It’s not like women sit there in public with their areola just out for everyone to see. Breastfed babies eat constantly. Sometimes you just have to whip it out and move on. One time a customer told me to go into the bathroom and I told her to go eat her lunch in the bathroom and she shut the hell up. 

HOWEVER, I dislike women who do it in public and make a big deal about it. It’s not a production. Latch on and latch off. I always wore two shirts and carried a blanket with me because I hate people walking up to me to see what I was doing. 

I wonder when breastfeeding became so taboo. 

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