(Closed) Fully exposed public breastfeeding. Thoughts?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 212
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Blushing bee

I put that word in quotes because I feel that someone used it in reference to me without knowing who I am..I have have had a few rum a cokes tonight…

I really can’t disagree with you ladies, because I know how biased I am, being CF.  I don’t have any friends or relatives with children (like I said), so I don’t know the difficultly level of feeding a chid…I guess I thought you could just put it in bottles and feed the kid that way?  I know that bfeeding is best, but I just don’t my friend doing it near my dinner?

I also avoid honey and gelatin…I am terrified of bees and don’t want to ingest anything they produce.  Also, I don’t feel that humans have the right to use cow hooves for gelatin.  They are their own species, and I would rather see humans go without, than use something that we exploited, such as cow’s milk or gel.

 

Post # 213
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@15happyyears: I think it’s funny that women who bottlefeed assume that women who breastfeed even care that they aren’t nursing. I think a lot of pressure and perceived insults are people’s own insecurities. I don’t think feeding my baby at my table is shoving anything in anyones face. I’m not jumping up on my chair and spraying you with it like it’s a bottle of champagne for god’s sake.

With my first, I took the classes, bought all the supplies, read all the books.. and when I got him home I was only able to nurse for 3 months. I couldn’t do it. My body physically wasn’t making the milk he needed. I cried, he cried, I took supplements, nothing helped.. and I hated my body for not doing what it was supposed to do. I thought everyone was judging me when I shook up a bottle in public. With my second.. he latched on as soon as he was born and I still can’t kick him off.. 

There was nothing different except that my boys are just different. Looking back, I wish I hadn’t of been so hard on myself! They’re both happy, healthy, normal kids.

Post # 214
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@SoupyCat: The thing is that they can’t make me feel uncomfortable. I don’t care (meaning in a way that’s serious-like, not get embarrassed or uncomfortable). And yes, I have a big “if you don’t like it, leave” policy with bf my babies.  Same as if you (anyone, not you in particular) were out and drinking and being loud in a restaurant, I would just decide to leave as it was bothersome to me. 

Post # 215
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@15happyyears: btw, when your children were hungry, did you excuse yourself to “take care of it” and bottle feed your children in the bathroom?

Post # 216
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Honey bee

@elliegraye: Unfortunately for me  (not really me, cause I don’t get drunk and loud Wink) the manager can ask me to leave because I am keeping the other customers from their enjoyment of their meal.

Post # 218
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

thefuturemrsrowe: You said it was my own insecurities that made me think bf moms insult those that dont.  Isnt that a pretty back handed insult????  I sure think so.  I made a choice not to breastfeed and am in the healthcare industry, well educated and my children are happy, healthy, normal kids.  I have no insecurities about it.  I have a choice and you can choose to breastfeed.  I do find it gross because I do not suck on my food or expose myself in public. 

Post # 219
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@kiwiglenn: That’s awesome! And unfortunately it’s all sold and gone 🙁 I would hav ebought one for a friend.

Post # 220
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@15happyyears: Easy.. I’ve been there, and I’ve had those insecurities. It’s a generalized statement drawn from my own experiences as a bottle feeding mother. I don’t know why you feel the need to defend your choice to me. I don’t care if you bottle feed or not.. I just don’t understand why you care if I breastfeed!?

You generalized women who breastfeed as pushy, insulting, and in your face.. I think it’s the other way around!

Women who don’t are trying to push us to hide ourselves, you insult us by calling us gross, and several women have the nerve to go up to breastfeeding mothers and say something.

Strange isn’t it?

Post # 221
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh and just to answer the what did I do when my kids were hungry.  First we didnt go to restaurants when my kids were tiny babies.  By the time we would go out to eat they could eat baby food.  At 6 months most babies can eat other things besides breastmilk. 

Post # 222
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@15happyyears: So you have never given them a bottle at a restaurant?

Post # 223
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

by the time we went to restaurant I used a spoon. I am not defending my right to bottle feed, I dont have to.  I read the thread before posting and IMO the ones bf were being pushy.  I dont care if you choose to breastfeed just not in front of me while I’m paying for my meal. 

Post # 224
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t know why I’m even responding at this point ’cause the thread is six pages deep and everyone is arguing and nobody cares about my opinion but I feel a bit uncomfortable when I see someone uncovered and nursing in public but the fact that the baby needs to eat trumps my squeamishness.  Once the baby has latched on you can’t really see anything anyways.  I would never make an issue out of it or try to make the nursing mother feel like she was doing something wrong because I’m not a freaking harpy.

Post # 225
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Honey bee

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@troubled: I think the difference is whether the woman is trying to cover/be discreet about the bf. Then you feel she is trying to maintain some privacy. Whereas someone who is all about whipping it out uncovered, then she should have no expectation of privacy because she is doing a quite out of the ordinary, and to some, offensive, thing in public. I don’t think such a person should have a right to feel offended if other people are staring. 

If a couple were making out right in public, in view of others, they are doing what should be a private thing in a very open manner. Some people would be staring, others won’t, but I don’t think the couple should expect others to politely avert their eyes, and be bothered by it if people do not.

 

Post # 226
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@15happyyears: You were defending it by saying: You work in the healthcare field, you’re educated, your kids are happy and healthy and normal.. (Me too, for all of the above actually!)

It’s not like I’m saying I go out to eat with the intention of, “Yay, it’s breastfeed in public awareness day”! But if my son decides he really wants to nurse, and I’m in the middle of eating.. it is my legal right as a mother to feed my child..

Fortunately, you don’t get to control what I do in front of you while you eat the meal you paid for, but.. if you have your own issues with it, you are welcome to ask the manager to move.

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