Post # 227
I haven’t read all the comments, but I think it’s a bit off. Maybe not in a wedding salon where there are all women- but out to eat at a restaurant, in mall, etc.. It’s similar to people who let their kid cry and scream in a restaurant, most people are considerate and take the kid outside to calm it. Some are not. I’ve never seen a woman breast feed without covering herself in a public place so for me it’s a non issue. I’m pretty sure most women with children are aware there are perverts who would enjoy that kind of thing.
As an aside, my dad was scarred by public breast feeding when I was kid. I was in a play group with two psychologist’s son. At 6 years old he was still breast feeding. The mother whipped out her boob in front of everyone during a play date and the kid laid (?- he was a big kid) there and fed.
.. My dad now has this stigma against psychologists.
Post # 228
Breastfeeding is the NATURAL way that humans are supposed to feed their babies. before formula was an OPTION breastfeeding was the ONLY way. Asking a woman not to breastfeed in public is equivilent to asking a woman not to give her baby a bottle.
Society has sexualized breasts therefore making us uncomfortable with seeing them out and about. but if you think about it Breasts are for feeding…period 🙂
Post # 229
I think its society’s problem not the woman’s. It’s not her fault they make boobies so taboo. I def like cultures in which nudity isn’t somehting that’s wrong but normal! Geez we all have boodies and our parts are nothing to be ashamed of.
Post # 231
I know? I just watched the movie grown ups and they made a joke out of something similar. All I can think about is the teeth!
Post # 232
Me too! I just saw that! That is exactly what I was thinking 🙂
Post # 233
I’m all for breastfeeding and believe it is a woman’s right to breastfeed when and wherever she needs to but having said there’s nothing wrong with exercising a little discretion or consideration when out in public.
Sometimes it’s about knowing your audience and considering your surroundings because like a lot of things in life, just because you can doesn’t mean you always should.
Post # 234
I think I read someone say that boobies should be covered because no matter what they are an “erogeneous” zone… Well my neck happens to be a hotspot but I am sure happy the government doesn’t make me wear a scarf 24/7.
Also Our Mouths were made for eating, yet we make out them, eat with them, smoke with them, and other things I wont dare to mention 🙂
Ehh boobies schmoobies…. Its only uncomfy to some because we aren’t use to it as a whole… I’m sure in another century or so shirts in general will be a complete thing of the past lol
Post # 235
Well, I did breastfeed my daughter- in public. Women should be able to to without stigma. HOWEVER, you know there are some women out there who like to make a show about EVERYTHING. Those women make a bad name for the rest of the normal women who just want to feed their children.
Post # 236
This is clearly one of those topics that people feel strongly about (I definitely had no idea when I started the OP). I do think that there has been an awful lot of cattyness in the last 6 pages of posts which is ridiculous. Everyone can have an opinion without tearing other people down. Some think it’s fine and other find it uncomfortable. We’re all allowed to feel the way we feel about the topic without being attacked by others who feel differently.
I’m sure if this question had been posted to anything but a “babies” board, the results would have probably been different.
And, for the record, I did ask Fiance about it and exposed public breastfeeding makes him uncomfortable, so I would assume that mens opinions on the topic are pretty split as well.
Post # 237
While I covered myself, babies need to eat, and I don’t stress about it at all. 🙂
Post # 238
I just finished reading through this whole thread and I’m surprised how long it continued on after I first saw it last night. This debate has been ongoing for over 40 years now (that I’m aware of) and is sad that more women don’t just simply support each other on this very emotional topic. Breast vs. bottle-do you really care?
Whether or not you know it, many things ARE determined by the societal pressures of the times, and as a child born in the 50’s, most of the people MY age were bottle fed. Bottles were boiled, anf there was this whole attempt at creating a sterile environment to feed your babies. OUR MOMs were pretty much breastfed, but it came out of favor in the 50’s through the 70’s. When my daughter was born (in 1978), I was the ONLY Boyfriend or Best Friend Mom in the hospital at the time. I had to fight with the nurses and Drs. to make sure they didn’t give my baby a bottle when they took her back to the nursery. My own Mother thought it was ‘disgusting’ that I chose to Boyfriend or Best Friend, but because she was tainted by HER Mom’s poor Boyfriend or Best Friend habits when she was growing up. I had exactly 2 friends who were also Boyfriend or Best Friend, and they became my support system. Talk about being shunned.
All that being said, no one needs to be locked away or not be able to leave their house when BF’g a child. There IS, however, a way to do it discreetly, and I do believe the whipper-outers have ruined it in general for BFg Moms. It just isn’t necessary, and it DOES make people uncomfortable. Lots of things are ‘natural’, but I don’t want to give birth in front of my Dad or brothers or Uncles either- it just isn’t something most people would do.
I also asked my husband how he feels about it and he said ‘I know its good for the Mother and the baby, but there’s a way to do it and a way not to do it.’ The added boobage bonus he also mentioned, but it wasn’t something he’d ever say out loud, so I’m guessing it probably DOES bother many men-they just don’t talk about it.
Post # 239
I guess I just don’t understand why we can’t all be considerate of each other. CF/Non-BF women do usually understand that your baby needs to eat, no one begrudges your child that basic need. BUT I also think Boyfriend or Best Friend moms should be considerate of other people’s comfort levels and cover up. I get that everyone has a right to not starve their child and are all entitled and whatever, but I see no reason to bluntly shove it in people’s faces. Whether you like it or not, in America breasts are sexualized and nudity is not acceptable and it makes people uncomfortable. No one’s demanding you take your baby to the smelliest nastiest part of the public restroom, just cover it up 🙂 And for the majority of Boyfriend or Best Friend mothers I know, it’s never been a problem because they usually take other people into consideration and no one is uncomfortable with their actions. And I really appreciate their thoughtfulness (and lack of defensiveness).
I’m CF, so I don’t have any direct experience in the dept (although I have lots of friends with children), but I have seen women just whip it out and I think they’re the ones who are giving this a bad name anyway. The majority of women seem to handle it just fine.
Post # 241
This was a really nice comment, and nice to hear .