Cait, I hear you–you’re NOT on another planet. For some unknown reason, this issue has become a bone of contention with some nursing mothers, as they feel it’s their God-given right to show the world their breasts. As far as my friends, male and female, and me are concerned, it’s very offensive when we see a nursing mother out in public with her breast completely exposed for everyone to see. There’s absolutely no valid reason why they can’t cover up.
I’ve heard all the excuses–“it’s no big deal, I’m just feeding my baby,” “you obviously have hang-ups about breasts,” “I have a right to be here, so if you don’t like it, look away,” “My baby won’t feed with a cover.” Either way, it’s extremely rude to expect strangers to just adapt to your morals. Also, why can’t people stare? Afterall, you’re exposing one or both of your breasts? I see nothing wrong with anyone staring in this case–nothing rude about it.
I’ve spoken to many people about this cover problem, and some told me they experienced a similiar problem with one or more of their infants while nursing. However, every one of them told me they trained the baby in a short period of time until it got used to the cover.
Although all nursing mothers will deny it, I still strongly believe the ones who expose themselves are doing it for attention. There’s just no excuse to force ones lack of modesty on others when you’re sharing a public space with them. Afterall, the space is not yours alone.
Concerning your sister-in-law exposing her breasts to her siblings, including her brothers or anyone visiting the home at the moment. To me, this shows a complete lack of manners–it’s rude and in very bad taste. It still astounds me everytime I see something like this. No manners, no social etiquette, no sense of modesty.
As for me, I never breastfed in public, but I see nothing wrong with it if the mother chooses a quiet, out of the way corner in which to feed, and she covers up. Most all public areas today offer places like this.
It’s not that we have hang-ups or we want anyone to starve their infant, we just have manners and social etiquette and some class, unlike many women today. Sometimes, after someone has children, they seem to think it’s all about their kids, and to hell with everyone in public. Kind of narcissistic, if you ask me.
Cait, please don’t second-guess yourself about this. Like I said before, you’re a lady–you have manners and class, and you apparently know how to conduct yourself in public.