(Closed) Fully exposed public breastfeeding. Thoughts?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@maureen9004: I am an avid pro-breastfeeder but I might be scarred if I see a big kid, like 6 year old do that too! Your poor dad. lol.

For the most part, breastfeeding mamas do it discreetly. I wouldn’t like have my nipple exposed! Most of the time, even if you were staring-you couldn’t really see a lot of boob. I think there is the odd person who likes the “show”. In our regular North American outtings, I will feed anywhere. If I was in a different community/place though , say Muslim, I would have enough decency and respect to NOT show any skin (by accident) by trying my best to feed privately. 

Post # 243
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry but this is just sad.  It’s sad because American society has taken one of the most natural and innocent functions of a woman’s body and called it “bad.”

Breasts have been made into sexual objects.  There is no other reason why so many of you would be saying it is “inappropriate” for them to “whip it out.”  Even your language suggests that these are sexual objects.

This, to me, is pathetic.  It’s pathetic that people think that compromising the child’s comfort is acceptable because some people might see a breast.  It’s pathetic that women have to feed their children in dirty, smelly bathrooms if they want to feed their children naturally.

The true irony is that no one would look twice at a baby being bottle-fed.  One of the most unnatural ways for a baby to feed is totally acceptable, but, god forbid, the child is nursing from his mother’s breast–then this act should be taken away and hidden.

And you wonder why so many women have trouble breast feeding, and have to resort to the bottle?

I’m sorry but this is just disgusting.

Post # 244
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@Oribel013690: “The true irony is that no one would look twice at a baby being bottle-fed.  One of the most unnatural ways for a baby to feed is totally acceptable, but, god forbid, the child is nursing from his mother’s breast–then this act should be taken away and hidden.”

Funny, I think judgmental attitudes like this are pretty disgusting too. I bottle fed my daughter and I fully support mothers not hiding when they bf. It doesn’t have to be this war that people with zealot-like mentality are making it out to be.

 

Post # 245
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Whoa…..this topic has veered off course a *tad* bit. Reel it in ladies!

 

Post # 246
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I breastfed for 2 months and I was never comfortable popping my boob out in public. I almost always went out to my car to do so, this may have also been b/c my daughter was picky and could not eat in loud /hectic spaces, she needed her peace and quiet lol. If I ever did have to feed in public , I would use a blanket. I would not cover her underneath it though. What I would do is only lift my shirt enough for baby to latch on, and cover my top of breast with my shirt. I would then put the blanket around my babies face and top of body. This is how she ate best and I felt more modest since you could not see any of my breast.

Post # 247
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree, this thread had veered off course so I’m going to close the thread for a bit to give everyone a chance to cool off.

Post # 250
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UpstateCait: 

Cait, I hear you–you’re NOT on another planet. For some unknown reason, this issue has become a bone of contention with some nursing mothers, as they feel it’s their God-given right to show the world their breasts. As far as my friends, male and female, and me are concerned, it’s very offensive when we see a nursing mother out in public with her breast completely exposed for everyone to see. There’s absolutely no valid reason why they can’t cover up.  

I’ve heard all the excuses–“it’s no big deal, I’m just feeding my baby,” “you obviously have hang-ups about breasts,” “I have a right to be here, so if you don’t like it, look away,” “My baby won’t feed with a cover.” Either way, it’s extremely rude to expect strangers to just adapt to your morals. Also, why  can’t people stare? Afterall, you’re exposing one or both of your breasts? I see nothing wrong with anyone staring in this case–nothing rude about it.

I’ve spoken to many people about this cover problem, and some told me they experienced a similiar problem with one or more of their infants while nursing. However, every one of them told me they trained the baby in a short period of time until it got used to the cover.

Although all nursing mothers will deny it, I still strongly believe the ones who expose themselves are doing it for attention. There’s just no excuse to force ones lack of modesty on others when you’re sharing a public space with them. Afterall, the space is not yours alone.

Concerning your sister-in-law exposing her breasts to her siblings, including her brothers or anyone visiting the home at the moment. To me, this shows a complete lack of manners–it’s rude and in very bad taste. It still astounds me everytime I see something like this. No manners, no social etiquette, no sense of modesty.

As for me, I never breastfed in public, but I see nothing wrong with it if the mother chooses a quiet, out of the way corner in which to feed, and she covers up. Most all public areas today offer places like this.

It’s not that we have hang-ups or we want anyone to starve their infant, we just have manners and social etiquette and some class, unlike many women today. Sometimes, after someone has children, they seem to think it’s all about their kids, and to hell with everyone in public. Kind of narcissistic, if you ask me.

Cait, please don’t second-guess yourself about this. Like I said before, you’re a lady–you have manners and class, and you apparently know how to conduct yourself in public.

 

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Honey Beekeeper
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EmilyBre:  This thread is 4 years old. I doubt the OP is in need of any more opinions.

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Sugar bee
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julies1949:  This is 
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EmilyBre‘s ONLY post…..interesting.

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Bumble bee

Editing because I fell into the trap of accidentally replying to a very ancient thread.

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Post # 251
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Honey Beekeeper
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mangosandcats:  My thoughts are that this topic has been discussed to death.

Breasts were made for breastfeeding. I have never seen a woman who did not feed discreetly and even if I saw a flash of skin I would not be horrified or uncomfortable. If one of my children saw anything, I would use it as a teachable moment to let them know this is perfectly normal behavior.

Post # 252
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Busy bee

I’m of the mindset that if the mother is comfortable, go for it.

If the mother is more comfortable covered or in a different room, go for it.

Edit: Ugh, old thread. 

 

It’s a boob, it’s used for feeding. In my opinion, we’ve got to stop sexualizing female nipples. There is absolutely nothing sexual about a woman feeding her baby.

That being said, I wouldn’t be comfortable doing it if I was a mom. But I am of the mindset of supporting other women even if they make different choices so long as its not physically hurting anyone.

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Post # 253
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

El. Oh. El. At training a baby to eat under a cover. My baby is a human, not a dog. She doesn’t need training!

Post # 254
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Sugar bee
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EmilyBre:  OMG I know! I’m a time traveler from 1895 and I feel the same exact way about ladies’ ankles. I’m so offended when I go out in public and some brazen hussy thinks it’s her God-given right to expose her bare ankle. There is no valid reason why they can’t wear thick black stockings all the time. I’ve heard all the excuses – “it’s hot out,” “those stockings are so uncomfortable” and “socks don’t go with this outfit!” but I still think it’s extremely rude to expect strangers to adapt to their ankle-baring morals. Instead, everyone should conform to my ankle-detesting morals. I think all women should train themselves to enjoy the smothering modesty of a thick pair of woolen stockings, even in August. After all, it’s the classy, mannerly thing to do. 

And don’t even get me started on those trollops who dare to leave the house without their corsets! Natural waists everywhere. It’s a disgrace!

Signed,

A Time Traveler From 1895

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Buzzing Beekeeper
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KatieBklyn:  This really brightened my day. It’s an ancient thread, so I wasn’t going to post, but I just had to say that your post made me smile!

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