(Closed) Fully exposed public breastfeeding. Thoughts?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I keep going back and forth on the issue I guess.  Yes, the baby does have to eat.  And I’ve been around friends and the family members of friends in private when they would just whip out the boob and start feeding.  This did make me uncomfortable, but since it was a private place, I just looked elsewhere for a while.  

And while I would never tell a breast-feeding mother to go into the bathroom (EWE – I hate even going in public restrooms to GO to the restroom), I would prefer a cover of some sort.  Maybe I’m modest, but I don’t like seeing anyone’s boobs/cleavage, where or not there is a baby attached to it.  I know emergencies happen, but I especially don’t agree with the women who make an obvious show of it, like the one PP’s friend did while they were out to lunch.

Post # 48
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@HisIrishPrincess: That’s immature don’t you think. Breastfeeding isn’t just for bonding. It’s for FEEDING. lol 

Post # 49
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Sugar bee

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@MissShork:  I find men’s chests to be super attractive (well on some men).  I’d say mens chests are a lot more sexy than their nether regions.  But guys go around shirtless all the time. 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m a big advocate for feeding baby when and where ever baby needs to be fed (I’ve personally needed to breastfeed while in public), but I think exposing your breast is uncalled for. Special cover up blankets are made just for public nursing with privacy.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@troubled: haha totally off topic but I agree, men’s chests are a WHOLE lot sexier than down south in my opinion!

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@MissShork: you’re right, if a guy took out his junk to feed a baby I would be shocked. ;] actually, i’ve asked my FH to whip it out before so that inquiring people could see what a prince albert looks like. it wasn’t sexual at all and no one was shocked (except by how glorious looking his peen is!)

Post # 53
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I kind of go back and forth on it too.  I completely understand that feeding is the breasts entire purpose, but why can’t you cover it up?  I know you don’t necessarily HAVE to, but why would you want to draw the attention to yourself that you know it is going to, right or wrong?

I think breastfeeding when needed is perfectly natural – hell, I had to help my best friend get everything situated to feed her newborn, but she covered up after she started, even in a hospital room where it was just the two of us.

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@troubled: I think your taking it a little to extreme. whether its cultural or not, the breast are an erogenous zone. Many men get hard just by “looking at them”. I doubt very few women get that “excited” by a shirtless guy.

Also, men are typically allowed shirtless in resturants/stores, etc. so there is clearly some exposure issues there too

Post # 55
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I asked my hubby about what he thinks about women breastfeeding in public (he’s a self proclaimed boob-man) His response: “Feed the kid if it’s crying or hungry. It doesn’t turn me on in anyway. It’s really not attractive at all. Anyone who thinks it’s sexy or that the breast is a sexual object in that situation is twisted. Are the bee girls freaking out again?”

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@mwitter80: haha that’s funny! sounds like my point may be invalid 😛

Post # 57
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@mwitter80: My DH basically said the same thing “Babies gotta eat, don’t they?”

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

it makes me sad that so many people think this is a big deal. are you offended when you go to museums and see paintings of topless women? when breasts are not sexualized, there is really nothing to be offended by. i wish more people would nurse in public, simply to normalize it. i feel badly that women who chose to do what is proven to be healthiest for their infants are penalized and expected to isolate themselves and their infants. i know people that have stopped breastfeeding because they felt uncomfortable bf’ing outside the home or when they had company. that just doesn’t seem right to me. 

Post # 59
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Sugar bee

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@MissShork:  Men get hard just by looking at me and a lot of women even when breasts are under cover.  These curves just are hard to hide and tend to get men all excited but I don’t hear many people advocating burqua use.  13 year old boys just should be seperated from all women if we’re worried about what makes men hard.

Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I really don’t understand why people are so scandalized by boobs. We have nips, guys have nips, but just because we happen to have more fatty tissue under them, we have to cover them 24/7 and guys don’t? Breasts are not genitals, and more and more places are recognizing that and instituting laws that let women go topless just the same as men if they so wish.

People need to get over this. Like Ms Mini said, you’re fed to the wolves if you don’t choose to breastfeed, but if you do, nobody wants to see it, and that’s ridiculous. It’s a lose-lose situation for moms and their kids.

Babies can’t choose “opportune” times to be fed, and moms shouldn’t be forced to run and hide in a disgusting public bathroom when their kid needs his lunch.

I don’t enjoy looking at hairy, sweaty, flabby old guys in Speedos at the beach, but they’re not breaking any laws. If I’m uncomfortable, that’s my problem, not theirs. I can choose to look away. Why should a nursing mother be forced to cover up an activity that’s completely natural and normal?

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