(Closed) Fully exposed public breastfeeding. Thoughts?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I gotta be honest here…. I don’t get why some people glorify breastfeeding. I’m sorry but I just don’t get it.

I disagree with some people in that boobs are just boobs. I consider breasts to be private areas of a woman’s body and shouldn’t be out. HOWEVER, I completely understand that there are occassions when breastfeeding moms have to take them out without covering up and I think that’s understandable. But I also think it should be done discreetly.

People don’t have to look but I don’t think a mom should throw it in someone’s face, you know?

When I was in high school, working in a retail store, there was a breast feeding mom who didn’t cover up her and her baby. No problem…until the baby was done and she just kept her breast hanging out. I was maybe 15-16 years old and she was standing right in front of me as I was ringing her up. She completely caught me looking at her funny and she went off on it being natural. I still remember the look on her husband’s face behind her….totally mortified.

 

Post # 78
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am really biting my tongue here.  We have to abide by social standards-

I am pro-breastfeeding, I am feminist, I am a bit of a hippie, but social standards and social graces are very important to me.  It is not just your business if you are doing something in public.

Post # 79
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@mwitter80: “Are the bee girls freaking out again?” lol 

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@futuremrshc: Comparing breastfeeding to itching, “find a bathroom”, “go to the bathroom and do it”, use a burp cloth, “out of respect for others around you”, “gross.. sorry, but I think it’s just gross”, “the idea of a baby feeding off a woman’s body just weirds me out”

I don’t think any of that is being misconstrued.. I really think those are honest opinions.

It’s sad, because it doesn’t necessarily reflect on the individuals themselves, but on us as a society as a whole. These girls are uncomfortable, because they’ve had such limited exposure that it’s made it uncomfortable and weird.

Here’s an AMAZING article on breastfeeding in Mongolia. I encourage all of you to read it.

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/breastfeeding-in-land-of-genghis-khan.html

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t care. In Canada, it’s technically legal for women to go around without a shirt/bra on anyways (nobody DOES it, but it’s legal), baby’s face blocks mostly everything, and boobs are for food. And covers can actually interfere with bonding and proper latching, etc. If people are offended, they can leave. : ) I plan on breastfeeding in public whenever I damn well please; whenever baby needs to eat s/he’ll get fed..

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would never want to do it in public. If necessary, I would leave or try to find some private location. I don’t like seeing it in public either. It may be natural, but there are a lot of natural things that I don’t need to see up close. I don’t think that it’s because of oversexualization or taboos, etc – I just don’t want to see it.  I can put up with a cover or blanket (although even this in a restaurant would bother me). However, having no cover is just not acceptable in the middle of a public space. I would have complained if I saw that in a bridal salon too. I know I’m in the minority here, but it’s just my opinion.

Post # 83
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Blushing bee

You know, I guess it is fair to say I haven’t been exposed.  I haven’t had any close friends who have children yet, or older siblings, or anyone, really.  I can say with complete honesty, though, that if I saw a women somewhere with her boobs out, I wouldn’t care.  If I saw a couple having sex and a man was lovingly sucking on a woman’s nipples, fine. Hot. Love it.  I used to work as a stripper; I reiterate: nakedness DOES NOT bother me, lol.  Boobs, nudity, don’t make me uncomfortable.  Babies, on the other hand, do, lol.  Just a personal thing.  Everything they do weirds me out. I’m a hippie too, read my other posts, but there is something fundamentally non-maternal about me, and if I’m eating dinner somewhere, I don’t want to think about bodily fluids OR children.

I strongly believe that a woman choosing to breastfeed her child is a wonderful decision.  I would love to see fewer manufactured plastic nipples and baby bottles out there.  Breastfeeding is natural, better for the baby, and great for those who choose to do it.  Do I want it happening at the dinner table next to me?  No.

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@Miss Tattoo: Maybe us women are just taught to cover them up so much that it seems wrong? I’m just brainstorming because that’s so true. A lot of my guys friends have never said “ew”, “gross”, “weird” to breastfeeding…

I’m pretty sure my opinion is biased because I know how hard breastfeeding was. The whole year I did–I didn’t enjoy it…but I did it because it was healthiest for my child (I know plenty of moms don’t have the option to and I’m not saying you are a bad mom if you choose not to breastfeed). But I generally stick up for moms who do breastfeed. So even though its uncomfortable, think of the reason–to feed the baby. My son would rip off the covers and thats why I would go in restrooms to feed him. Looking back I completely hate myself for going into a nasty public restroom to do that…

A corner of a shop is fine.

Post # 85
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Bee Keeper

I was the most self conscious breastfeeder ever. I always did it in a private room if possible or draped a blanket over her while she ate. No matter the situation I was not OK with anyone seeing my boobies.

Post # 86
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Blushing bee

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@bebefly: The difference being, bodily fluid is not continuously flowing out of me for the duration of my meal.

Post # 87
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2006

I have a three-week old daughter, and I’m one of the mothers who couldn’t breastfeed after the first week.

Breastfeeding was an awful and painful process for me, but I so wanted to provide my baby the healthiest food possible (and I’m a wreck that I couldn’t).

I nursed the baby in front of everyone in the hospital — nurses, doctors, family members — and didn’t bat an eyelash.  I was still getting the hang of it and couldn’t worry about covering up properly.  I would have absolutely done it in public if it was the only way my baby could eat.

That said, had I been able to continue breastfeeding and wanted to do so in public, I’d try covers and multiple shirts first.  And I certainly wouldn’t have ever made a “show” of it.

One thing to consider is that mothers who do cause a production may be frustrated with past reactions, frustrated with their baby’s nursing preferences or just plain tired.  That doesn’t excuse obnoxious behavior (obnoxious as in lecturing someone, NOT obnoxious as in breastfeeding in public), but it might explain it.

Post # 88
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

While breastfeeding is in my opinion the best option, I kind of wish people would put a recieving blanket or something over their boob while feeding… I could NEVER just whip out my booby in public! But I am also REALLY modest lol.

ETA: it doesn’t actually bother me a whole lot, I just don’t really understand it… I could never do it lol. I think if more people did it, it probably wouldn’t bother me as much *shrugs*… Oh yea, I also get cold if my single boob is in the open LOL.

Post # 89
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@ThunderBunny: Out of curiosity, does it make you uncomfortable to see a puppy or another animal nursing?

Post # 90
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Miss Tattoo: I never thought of that! Makes sense 🙂

Post # 91
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I ask because it is something we’re exposed to here in America much more often than public breastfeeding of a human child and doesn’t seem to make most people squeamish at all.

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