(Closed) Breastfeeding in your house with guests

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Epworth UMC & Ward Pavilion

I had this same issue- I didn’t mind nursing in front of others, but didn’t want to make them uncomfortable. I usually just went in the other room to nurse when we had guests that weren’t family.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My sister and my bff nurse and they are on opposite ends of the spectrum. My sister actually just participated in the world record breaking of women breast feeding at the same time and was in the newspaper doing it. She also is part of a breast feeding group and will do it anywhere and everywhere. My bff, she won’t even do it in front of me. She goes into a room by herself and pumps for when she’s in public.  

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

In my own home, I nurse (without a cover because DS always fusses and tears at them if I try to use a cover) in front of my mom, dad, stepdad, sister, and BIL because I feel they can leave the room if they are uncomfortable or just avert their eyes.  I leave the room with my in-laws though since Darling Husband was never breastfed and I figure they would be the most uncomfortable (and it gives me a good excuse to just get away from them sometimes).  If it is friends that are over, I ask if it would bother them and if so, then I will leave the room or if they say it isn’t a problem, I go on about my business.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think if you’re covered it really shouldn’t bother anybody. I know there are some people it still bothers. But going and hiding in a bedroom only perpetuates this fear of breastfeeding.

I don’t think a mother should have to go to a room by herself when she has guests over and listen to everyone else talk because she has to feed her child. People need to open their minds.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

@troubled: No, no one has said it bothers them but they are all aware I am BFing before they come over so I think they already have some mental preparedness.  Ultimately it’s not like my whole chest it out there for everyone to see.  There is potential small flash of nipple when first positioning baby but other than that, I let my shirt drape around my breast so nothing is really seen unless you are literally sitting next to me and looking down. 

I think mostly it is about how you act.  Do you get quiet when nursing instead of continuing to participate in the coversation?  If you are still involved in the conversation (asking questions of the other people, etc), people don’t have as much time to think about the fact that you are nursing and get uncomfortable.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Nursing didn’t work out for me, but my plan was just to cover up in front of guests. If you’re worried about them being uncomfortable, you could always just ask them. We had a friend visit recently who asked us what we’d be more comfortable with, her covering up or going in a different room. It wasn’t awkward at all to have her nurse in front of us, the baby was under a blanket so we didn’t see anything.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had a girl come over to my place for a Mary Kay-type presentation/party thing and she brought her daughter, who she BF’d with a cover while she was there. It didn’t bother me at all.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you’re covered, I have no problem with it but uncovered does make me a little uncomfortable. I have a friend who will “whip it out” wherever, whenever. To be honest, I do have a problem with this but since it’s her “right” and all, I just grin and bear it. Still doesn’t mean I like it, though. My other friend who recently had a baby (though she’s not BF’ing anymore) would always excuse herself and go into another room if there was anyone besides her Darling Husband in there. She wasn’t comfortable nursing infront of other people and she realized that it more than likely would make others uncomfortable, too (her family is pretty conservative). She has never once complained about having to sneak off to nurse. For her, it just kind of comes with the territory. I think she prefers to be alone doing it anyway. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m not a mom yet, but because of my upbringing, it makes me uncomfortable when other women nurse in front of me, covered or not. We just don’t do that it my family so it’s foreign to me.

So, I would say leave the room. If I nursed in front of my family when I have children, they would probably faint.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Epworth UMC & Ward Pavilion

@troubled: Yes, definitely! I’ve nursed in front of a lot of my girl friends, but when we hung out with Mr. Cannon’s friends (mostly male) I would usually go in the other room. Generally, if I thought the person wouldn’t have a problem with it, I would just ask if they minded. You can usually tell by their response whether they genuinely don’t mind or are just being polite.

 

@UpstateCait: That’s why I usually went in the other room. I feel like there’s nothing wrong with breastfeeding and people shouldn’t be bothered by it, but it makes some people uncomfortable. I feel like part of my duties as a hostess is to make others comfortable in my home, so I would go in the other room. That being said, I nursed in public several times because I had to feed my kid. I’m sure it made people uncomfortable now and then, but in those instances, my need to feed my kid and lack of another place to go trumped their squeamish feelings over it. Also, I’m sure everyone on the flights I took with my daughter would rather I breastfed her than she screamed through the flights.

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