(Closed) breastfeeding is HARD

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You’ve got to nourish yourself in order to nourish baby.  When I nursed my kids I was told to keep a huge glass full of whatever healthy juice I liked with me and drink from it all day.  I had more than enough to feed baby.  Maybe you could try that.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Not in the situation but my cousin was having issues and she found a great group that supported breast feeding and it made a huge difference for her.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Sorry you’re having a rough time.  I completely agree about education, I don’t know why everyone just assumes women will just know the ins and outs.  

Breastfeeding works on supply and demand and I’ve boosted mine after getting sick by just increasing her number of feedings/pumping for a few days, there’s also some supplements that can help boost supply.  I noticed even just even eating oatmeal in the morning made my supply go up a lot.  

http://www.kellymom.com I’ve found to be a tremendous resource.  

There was also a big discussion about some breastfeeding troubles and solutions on this thread awhiles back

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/breast-feeding-is-hard

Best wishes.  My LO is 9 months and we’re still going strong, it does get easier.

Post # 6
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Newbee

Oh I hear ya! We went to classes , I did tons of research, really thought I was prepared but I wasn’t! I had a c-section and was worried it would be hard, but it was so easy at first. He latched right away.

We did great for about a week, but he developed breast fed induced jaundice, and I wasn’t producing a whole lot of milk so he wasn’t gaining and he wanted to eat ALL the time. He had to get tested everday and on the 2nd day the Ped insisted that I start formula supplimenting, I didn’t want to as I had heard this could cause nipple confusion but I wanted to do what was best for my baby.

He did okay with the nipple/breast for about 3 days and then after that he wanted no part of me, I would spend ALL night trying to Boyfriend or Best Friend him, getting him to latch, get him to suck and he would just cry and cry to the point where Darling Husband and I would be so tired and stressed we would just cave and give him a bottle. I started to get really stressed and really anxious. I then started pumping but I wasn’t producing much, I did this for about 2 weeks then I ran dry.

It was emotionally VERY hard on me, I beat myself up, I felt so guilty, I felt that my DS was going to be ill and not healthy, I felt everyone I talked to Boyfriend or Best Friend and bragged about it and I felt worse about myself. I actually went into depression over it, I would just cry and cry that I was a failure. Finally after a few weeks with awesome support from my Darling Husband and my family and close friends, I kicked the guilt and moved forward. I wasn’t going to dwell and let it take away from my time with my son. 

I think in this genereation the need to be super healthy, super fit, and a super parent is very demanding and the pressures are intense. I think for some Mom’s it’s easy to Boyfriend or Best Friend, if I had to hear my friend brag to me about how she was like a milked cow and had 8 months stored of frozen milk, I was gonna scream. You have to do what is right for you. There is no right and wrong. Do I think Boyfriend or Best Friend is beneficial, yes, but I also think formula is as well. 

Good luck!

 

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I 2nd the idea of contacting a local group. Call La Leche and they can help. My LO still eats every 1-2 hours at 4 months. Get help now while you can. They can also recommend things to increase milk supply.

Good Luck!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

It’s not too late to learn more. Look up La Leche League and see if there is one in your area. Or check online– my BabiesRUs has a WEEKLY breastfeeding class, where moms bring their babies. There is a lactation specialist to help, and the moms of the older babies also help the newer moms. 

GOOD LUCK!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m with you! Boyfriend or Best Friend has been so hard for me. At first we had latch issues, and I had bleeding and cracked nipples. Then we met with a LC and she was super helpful, and I thought we’d gotten it under control for a week but then my LO lost over a lb from her 1 week to her 2 week pediatrician appointment. Our pediatrician wanted us to supplement after bringing her to the breast. Gradually, she has wanted less and less breast and my body is producing less and less milk I’m pumping as much as I can, but it’s so hard and frustrating and disappointing all at once! I keep trying not to dwell on it, formula can feed a baby just fine, but it’s still really hard. I don’t know why more people don’t talk about how hard it is to breastfeed. 🙁 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Breastfeeding is very hard. I HATED it the first month or so, and we hardly had any “problems”. It just hurt so much and I felt like a prisoner on my couch.  Every night I would say to myself “this is my last time breastfeeding” but the next day I would wake up and think “okay, one more day”  

I ended up loving it, you just have to take it one day at a time. I had to back to work, and had no interest in pumping, so by 5 months I was nursing her once in the AM, when i got home from work, and before bed. the rest of the time she had forumla. Some mothers would call it selfish, i call it saving my sanity. happy mama=happy baby.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a nurse with labor & delivery/maternity experience and honestly, one of the things I hear the most is how hard Boyfriend or Best Friend is for a new mom. Most women think it will magically happen and when it doesn’t they get frusterated and feel bad…but Boyfriend or Best Friend is hard for pretty much everyone…don’t give up!

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