- 4 years ago
Hi there ladies! I just wanted to share my experience with breastfeeding. I hope none of you have to go through what I experienced, but maybe this can help someone else!
Before I had my baby two years ago, I prepared to breastfeed – I read all the books, researched how to breastfeed, bought nursing bras because after all, “breast is best!” I saw a lactation consultant after I delivered who was super aggressive and basically told me to let my baby starve until my milk came in. My milk came in around day 5 but baby didn’t know how to latch. So I was supplementing with formula during the first days.
After trying to feed a baby who wouldn’t latch and suffering from sleep deprivation, I gave up breastfeeding after only 3 weeks. I didn’t have enough milk and I was pumping every hour to try to get more milk out, which made me feel like that’s ALL I was doing instead of trying to bond with my newborn.
(Sidenote: breast pumps are NOT good for expressing milk. You’d think people would have come up with a better way by now!!! AND you have to hold the damn thing with both hands unless you buy a hands free bra. I’m guessing a man invented it? LOL.)
I felt SO guilty about it at first because I felt this immense pressure to be able to feed my kid- after all, it’s only natural, right? I felt like SUCH a failure and felt so ashamed whenever friends asked me about it.
But what the books don’t tell you is that breastfeeding hurts like a MOFO, your nipples will crack and bleed, and it will take time (maybe weeks!) until you’ll be able to breastfeed easily and confidently after increasing your supply.
Like I said, not everyone is going to have the same experience I did but I felt like no one warned that it breastfeeding could really be terrible. I hope you wonderful ladies don’t have the same experience I did but know that it’s ok to stop if you feel like it’s taking over your life. I had a happy and healthy baby with formula so I don’t have any regrets!
Now I’m having another baby in 3 months and I probably will see how it goes.
Too long; didn’t read? If you end up not being able to breastfeed, that’s ok! Don’t let anyone tell you this is what you MUST do. Do what’s best for you and your family and don’t let anyone- not even moms, partners, and friends – tell you otherwise.
- This topic was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by IheartNYC.