(Closed) Breastfeeding Troubles / A Question

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

For me, 7 weeks was the worst. DS used to get so fussy while nursing, like I was doing something really mean to him instead of trying to freaking feed him. I did push through it, and I SO glad I did. It got a bazillion times better and now I really like being able to feed him. One thing that helped was having other friends with small children reassure me that it was normal to have a miserable time around that 6-7 week mark, and that it would only get better. I liked having goals of small increments- “let’s just try to get through three more days” “ok we got through three days, can we make it another week”, etc. rather than “I want to Boyfriend or Best Friend for 6 months” or something like that. I also pumped religiously and had someone give DS a bottle of pumped milk once or twice a day to give me a break (often in the evening when he was at his fussiest). Pumping was also good for me in that it made me feel successful about something BFing-related.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Between 6 and 7 weeks.  I pushed through and my attitude totally changed during week 8.  During that 6-7 week mark I was totally stressed about pumping enough for when I went back to work and not having enough milk, and all the pressures we each put on ourselves.  Darling Husband listened and tried to help me accept what will be, will be but it didn’t help.  My mom actually helped reassure me that my body would do its thing and be just fine.  Other than that, only time helped.  Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if necessary.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Here’s a thread on something similar from awhile back taht might be helpful.

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/giving-up-on-breastfeeding

For us around 6 weeks was a fussy point.  And I had mastitis at 2 weeks but luckily got on antibiotics quick.  So those 2 times were a bit rougher breastfeeding wise than other times but my husband was always willing to give her a bottle of pumped milk and let me have some time to myself, which was really helpful for me.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think most breastfeeding moms have had to push through at one stage or another- especially with the first baby.

Try to keep at it. Take one day at a time. It does get easier.

Always remember that breastfeeding is the very best thing for your baby.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

I was in tears when my first was just 10 days old, and was crying on the phone to my one friend that was also Boyfriend or Best Friend as she tried to talk me into continuing. I had no emotional support other than her, as even the nurses in the hospital weren’t very encouraging, nor was my Mom or Aunts.They were Boyfriend or Best Friend, but when we were born, Moms had gone the way of sterilized bottles and couldn’t imagine why anyone would want to go back to the old ways.

Once I understood about growth spurts and on demand feeding (which I did, but books didn’t really prepare me), I continued on even when it was taking over my life. I got lots of pep talks from my friend and I have to credit her with keeping me on the right track.

I went back to work FT when she was 6 weeks old, and managed to Boyfriend or Best Friend until she was 8 months, so in the end, it really did work out. Sometimes it feels like you just want to quit, but if you can get over this hump, it will be so worth it.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I definitely contemplated giving up around 4 weeks or so.  It wasn’t always bad I just had some concerns.  It really helped by contacting la leche league and speaking to someone there.  They really provided great support, and now we are doing wonderfully.  She put on 2 1/2 lbs in her first month, so I know she is eating enough!  I think it helps to have someone to talk to.  You have to know you’re not alone, and breastfeeding is hard.  But once your LO gets the hang of it it’s truly rewarding knowing that you are providing great nourishment for your LO. 

And to be completely honest the thought of the money that is spent on formula was a great motivator for me to keep pushing through some of the difficulties.  I have also started pumping, and allow my husband to give our daughter a bottle each night.  That way he can have some bonding time as well, and I get a slight break.

Good luck!  And congrats on making it this far already.  Keep pushing, and use support!  It really is great.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

@julies1949:  Seriously?  “breast feeding is the best for your baby”?  No, it’s not.  Having a happy mom, a happy baby AND a healthy baby is best no matter which way you go.  Nothing about being a parent is a one shoe fits all.  She asked for stories of success, not opinions.

 

Good luck OP!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Epworth UMC & Ward Pavilion

The first three months I just kept telling myself “I’m going to do this until she’s AT LEAST three months old.” There were a bunch of times I just wanted to quit. But once I made it to three months, it was pretty smooth sailing from then out. We went through a brief biting phase around eight months, but I breastfed her up through 15 months, and at that point it was hard to stop because I loved bonding with her that way.

My advice is always “don’t give up!” because it gets so much better. But if you really can’t take it, stop and don’t feel bad about it. But really try your best because it’s such a special thing. Those crappy times in the beginning are easily forgotten when it’s easier as they get older.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My LO is 19 days old, and I’ve thought about it every. single. day. She’s a nipple chomper too, and despite working with 2 lactation consultants, we’re still having a hard time getting a good latch. I’ve had to resort to using a nipple shield (under the direction of a lactation consultant and our pediatrician), which I don’t love, but makes it possible for her to eat directly from the source. We’re also feeding her bottles of pumped milk 3-4 times a day, which helps tremendously – it gives my nipples a break, gives Darling Husband a chance to bond with her, and helps me relax and know that she’s getting enough milk. I also remind myself that it will be okay if we have to switch to formula, which takes some of the pressure off 🙂 I hope it works out for you!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Miss Sapphire: Thats a really harsh reply. She didn’t say breastfeed at all cost because it’s the best. Obviously if the OP is breastfeeding, then she thinks it’s best. If she didn’t, she’d be doing something else. Knowing the health benefits (that breastfeeding is best) is part of what helped/helps me to keep going. Of course being a happy mom and having a happy baby is important too and she wasn’t saying otherwise. Feeding your child (regardless if it’s breastmilk or formula) is the most important thing.

I had a rough patch early on as I’d get really sore and have a lot of pain when DS first latched at each feeding. It passed (with a ton of lanolin) and we continued. Recently we had issues with biting at DS had two bottom teeth come in, and I was ready to give up. But again, we pushed through and are doing much better. The early pain was for 1-3 days at a time for about 2-3 weeks. The biting lasted about 2 weeks on and off. It was a frustrating time, but I would say “ouch” loudly and take him off the breast. If it didn’t seem like an accident trying to latch, we’d take a 3-5 minute break from breastfeeding and then try again. After a day or two I could tell when he was playing/bored and when he was just trying to latch and didn’t realize he was biting me.

My supply has tanked since I had a coldover a week ago, so despite pumping 6 times a day, taking fenugreek and mother’s milk tea, and nursing DS as often as possible, we are about to have to start supplementing with formula in the next week or two once my freezer stash runs out.

Knowing that I can use formula is helpful. I don’t have any on hand (yet) because I didn’t want to give in after a rough day or two, but just knowing it was just a quick run to the store away, helped me keep going. Also taking it a day or a week at a time helped too. The cost of formula as well as the uncertainty of where it’s coming from really helps me to stay focused on trying to breastfeed. Despite all the safety precautions and standards set, recalls for different reasons do happen and that scares me. So I’ve avoided it as long as possible, but now we have to supplement and that’s okay too.

Breastfeeding isn’t always easy, but it is the healthiest option out there. So if you can continue, then I would. But I know as well as anyone that being frustrated can easily move to resentment and not being as good a mom. So you have to decide for yourself if you want to continue trying to breastfeed.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Miss Sapphire: “She asked for stories of success, not opinions.” 

You didnt give a success story either so I really dont see the point of the harshness of your post.

 

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The OP came on here looking for stories and support. If you don’t agree with points in your the thread and aren’t offering any support to the OP then why even post?

OP- I definately wanted to give up at the 5-6th week. That was when the sorenes really peaked, sorry Too Much Information, but my nipples really cracked and I felt like I was going through Lanolin like crazy. It was definately hard, but we pushed through and I breast fed (BF and using pumped milk) exclusively until nine months and then suplemented with formula and using pumped breast milk until 1 year. I stopped Boyfriend or Best Friend when she started to bite and had teeth, ouch!

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