Post # 46
I don’t want to throw in the towel, but for a working Mom that will be back full time 12 weeks after birth – This sounds like a big pain in my ass to pump.
It sounds like as soon as I get down a Boyfriend or Best Friend routine, I am going to have to go back to work. To be honest, I feel like not even thinking about Boyfriend or Best Friend and just do the damn formula
(Sorry I sound mad. I am 16 weeks pregnant and very angry today. Not sure why….)
Post # 47
snowflake8 : This is all assuming that everything works just great for you and you have your choice of options, and I’m not a breast feeding expert or anything…but I don’t see why pumping would save you any time or effort. In that case you have to pump first THEN feed the baby, instad of just getting it done all at once. Seems like a lot more effort to me. Plus with pumping there is all the cleaning.
As I understand it, you can’t just pump whenever you feel like it, you’ve got to be on a schedule based on your body’s production cycle. It’s not like you can just pump 1x per day and be done with it.
Post # 48
I’m going to a totally different end of the spectrum here, I tried to breastfeed and pump and resorted to formula. It’s amazing to try and breastfeed, there are amazing benefits to it and I don’t think anybody can tell you otherwise. From experience, IT’S FREAKIN HARD. Don’t let it stop you from trying, but you mentioned a very valid point, if you pump, you can have freedom to have others help you feed the baby. You will find the pumping to be a bit time consuming in the beginning because you’re going to have to establish and then regulate your supply, but it will level out.
As far as bonding, while yes, your baby can tell when they are at breast and mommy is feeding them, your baby is still bonding with whoever is feeding them while being bottle fed. Anytime your baby is getting nourishment, they can hear and smell who is holding them while they are getting fed. You can look baby in the eye and connect all while she/he gets the nourishment they need. Whatever you end up doing, just do what’s best for ALL of you, husband/partner included!
We tried Boyfriend or Best Friend, we had latch issues, but the stress I had knowing that I needed to better feed her, made my supply tank. Pumping couldn’t even solve my problems, so we switched to formula, but feeding time because enjoyable for baby and stress free for all of us, making everything much, much better. Test the waters and see where you guys hit your groove.
Post # 49
misspenny2010 : IMO it’s really not that bad to pump just at work. It’s the caring for the baby AND trying to pump/clean parts at the same time that really blows. I pumped twice a day for a year+ at work and honestly kind of enjoyed my half hour of peace and quiet. haha
Post # 50
Westwood : thanks for the breath of fresh air!!! Baby will be hanging out with his friends in the daycare across the street 🙂
Post # 51
misspenny2010 : pumping at work really isn’t too bad, you just pump for every missed feeding (so probably 3x for an 8-9hour day) and then put them in bottles for the next day. It’s easier to pump at work than at home wbile simultaneously watching a baby. I grew to love my pump breaks, caught up on a bunch of TV shows since I had 90 min of breaks a day 😀
Post # 52
snowflake8 : I have a 6 week old and he is exclusively breastfed. We gave him his first bottle at 4 weeks old and he now goes back and forth between breast and bottle with no issues. Let me tell you, pumping is no fun. My 2 year old daughter had latch issues and I exclusively pumped with her for 4 months and it was the most miserable 4 months of my life. If I were you, I would nurse the baby when with them and give them bottles when you want to go do something. I actually enjoy nursing and the closeness and bonding time with my son. Time spent alone with a pump is not nearly as enjoyable.
Post # 53
snowflake8 : I don’t think it has to be one or the other! I breastfed my kids and pumped extra to store for when someone else wanted to feed the baby or we were going out. I always preferred actually breastfeeding though, the bond is great and all but I mostly preferred it due to laziness haha! A baby is way more efficient than a pump at getting milk, plus they say your let down is greater when actually breastfeeding due to the senses/endorphin/hormones etc. Plus just whipping a boob out to feed was more convenient, no warming of the milk, washing and sanitizing bottles etc. And it was faster. Don’t let your SIL skew what is 100% your choice when it comes to your new baby.
Post # 54
I am doing both – pumping and breastfeeding.
Post # 55
I would not over think it. Most likely your little snowflake will decide what you do for you
Post # 56
It is really what works for you.
My first had a tumor in his mouth and was unable to latch. I exclusively pumped for him. When my second came, we breastfed for two months and then she went on a nursing strike for a month. I pumped that month and it was horrible.
Time wise- I had to pump every two hours to help keep a good supply- it took 30 minutes to pump. With two kids that was hell. Luckily she went back to nursing after only a month of this. Had she not, I was considering moving to formula.