Post # 1
A friend is getting married this Saturday and asked me to be her "bridal assistant" on the day of her wedding. I’m not quite sure what’s she expected, she just said "You know, the people who following you around and answer your phone for you. This way you can be with me the whole day!"
So, I’m asking you bridal experts…what should I plan to do and how can I make this day (relatively) stress free and enjoyable for my friend?
Post # 3
My venue provided me with a Bridal Assistant the day of my wedding and essentially she was responsible for transporting my dresses from my hotel to the venue, kept the keys to the bridal suite, got me water/drink/food when I needed it….she was essentially my assistant the day of and made sure I got everything I needed. Realistically, my sister/MOH would have done the same thing, but having a bridal assistant there made everything much better…I didn’t feel guilty about asking for help either….oh and she also carried my way too heavy bouquet for me in between pictures. She however was not the main contact for my vendors. I gave that information to my banquet manager and he handled that for me. So I guess depending on how her wedding is, you can expect to be the major point person that mirrors the bride.
Post # 4
In my experience, a bridal assistant is the person who has the secret stash of kleenex and lipstick, runs interference so the bride and groom don’t have to hear about disasters or drama, and is a general support for the bride through the day.
Post # 5
I’d recommend checking with the bride or Maid/Matron of Honor and seeing if an emergency kit has been put together. Here’s a great article on the knot about what could/should go in it. I was the DOC for my friends wedding and I put one together for her. It was a LIFE SAVER. All day I kept hearing people asking the bride, "Do you have any bobby pins, tape, scissors, etc." And I kept yelling from where ever I was, "It’s in the emergency kit!" It was amazing. We ended up having everything we needed, except a nice sharpy marker for the guest book that was left behind, so I’d throw one of those in too. I just put everything in my folding travel/cosmetic case and it worked perfectly! The clear compartments allowed everyone to see what was inside without having to dig too much. I used a larger bag to put the travel case and any other large items in. http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-budget/articles/the-brides-emergency-kit.aspx
Oh and if you’re planning on carrying her cell phone for her, I’d recommend wearing something with pockets or planning to carry a purse with you at all time. Every picture from my friends wedding has my cell phone in it since we all used them to coordinate. Although I really enjoyed wearing my dress, I’d have rather had nice dress slacks with pockets so I could have had my hands free. If i decide to do DOC for a side business, I’m planning on ordering a cute black apron/tool belt with pocks. Good luck and enjoy! It’s a hard job but it’s so rewarding!
Post # 6
You get glasses of ice water, plates of appetizers and such; keep track of the lipstick/hairspray/powder and let her know when she needs more; make sure everything gets to the church/reception venue and is available when she needs it; hold her dress over her head while she pees; hold her bouquet during any photos where it’s not required; bustle and unbustle her dress a half a dozen times; deal with any issues or questions that come up; make sure her veil is on straight; make sure she gets to every place on her schedule on time (hair, makeup, etc); let her know when various people are getting ready to leave so she can say goodbye; and so on and so forth. Basically it’s a lot of work without any of the glory of being Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man. If you’re the kind of person who likes that, I say go for it. It does mean that you’re not really going to get to enjoy the reception – eat with the other guests, socialize with your friends, dance with your SO. You’re not a guest anymore; you’re staff.
I pretty much divided this stuff between a group of my girlfriends – one picked me up for my hair appt and hung out with me through that, one helped make sure we had everything we needed before we left for the venue, one helped me get dressed, one assisted through the photos, and a total of three ran interference during the reception itself. That way I got to spend time with all of them without feeling like any of them spent the whole time basically working rather than having fun.