- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I know I couldn’t possibly be the only future bride to have issues with selfish friends…
What is it with people thinking they can flap their jaw about your wedding plans? Why is it that your so called “friends” get hasty when you ask them to play an important role in your wedding that they think is garbage because they’re not in the spotlight?
Here’s my ordeal…
Friend 1: One of my best friends from high school. Known her since I was 16 and she was 15. Naturally she’s going to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Friend 2: Met through my Bridesmaid or Best Man. Only known for 2 years.
I’ve asked Friend 1 for opinions on colors and what not she says, “We should do this.” Everything is we. My response was, “I didn’t know WE were getting married.” Jokingly of course. I’d be throwing out colors I like and she’s like, “I want purple” or “I want this.” Even my Maid/Matron of Honor says, “I like this color because I wear it well.” *Clears throat* Who’s wedding is this?! Because it’s certainly not yours! I know I asked for help but when people start talking like it’s their wedding or like they have any serious say it drives me bat !%$# crazy!
Anywho, onto the real ordeal…
Friend 2 asked Friend 1 if Friend 1 was in the wedding party. Friend 1 replied, “Yes, I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man.” Friend 2 then says that I (Bride) hadn’t said anything to her about the wedding. Friend 1 then says that I have plans for Friend 2 to be in the wedding.
I find out and tell Friend 1 that it was soooo not her place to even speak a word of it because she knew that I hadn’t yet asked everyone if they’d be in the wedding nor did I know who was doing what.
I have a HUGE problem with people assuming things and taking their own initiative to discuss matters that are clearly not theirs to discuss. With that being said I’ll continue…
Apparently Friend 2 assumed she was going to be in the bridal party before she found out from my Bridesmaid or Best Man that I hadn’t placed her yet. Anywho, I finally decided that Friend 2 would make a great personal attendant. So I ask Friend 2 if she’d take the honorable role of PA and I get a response I’m not pleased with. “Is that like a bridesmaid? she says. I then send her the duty responsibilities that I found on a website. Her response, “I’m not even going to be in any pictures.” Hold up, I just asked her an important question and she’s worried about not being in the pictures or a part of the bridal party?! I am so offended.
Would it be wrong to just move on and have someone else do it since she pretty much just said no? Since I announced that we finally set a date all she’s done is offend me time and time again.