Post # 1
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Newbee
Ok so I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor and the bride mentioned getting herself a bridal box subscription, but ended up not doing. I was thinking that maybe the bridesmaids and I could pitch in and surprise her with one month or so (wedding in Sep. 2019). After looking they range in price from $30 a month to like $90. I was thinking about the $30 or $40 one. Or I was also thinking about making my own box for her with wedding stuff and giving that to her…but it would still help if bridesmaids contributed. Am I in the wrong for asking the bridesmaids to help pay for a month or so…since there are 7 of us it shouldn’t be that much. Let me know your thoughts and anything on Bridal Box subscriptions you’ve seen!
Thanks!!
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
Why do just a month? Why not just gift her something from you in your price range?
i wouldn’t ask the bridesmaids to chip in unless y’all want to do it as a gift for the bachelorette.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
It’s a nice gesture but if you want to do this, I would purchase it yourself without asking others to contribute. Being a bridesmaid is expensive enough as it is without feeling obligated to contribute to something like this.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
heads up. my Maid/Matron of Honor did this for me. it was such a sweet gesture but i have to say, every single item in the box was cheap AF. i actually felt bad that she spent money on it. it really was just like dollar store stuff thrown in a box. i would just take the time to make her your own.
Post # 5
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Newbee
alfalfasprout10518 : That is one thing I am afraid of! I was thinking about maybe gathering stuff and making my own box for her!
Post # 6
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Newbee
bibliophilacticbee : Thanks for the input! I just thought that since she was going to do it herself then decided not to that it would be a nice uplifting gift
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I’d rather my moh pick out a tumbler or note pad in my favorite color, or with my new name that I’ll have after marriage and can get some use from rather than a couple of boxes that I may or may not like or ever use.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
kstir2015 : honestly just go to etsy. they have some killer bridal gifts that are much better quality
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
kstir2015 : Can someone explain what a bridal box is?? Intrigued…
Post # 10
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Newbee
missmollybee : There are a few different ones I’ve seen such as Miss to Mrs, The Bride Box….They are boxes that contain items such as help planning, items to pamper and prep, trending bridal products, bride-to-be essentials… from my understanding things like that..
Post # 11
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Honey bee
If you decide to do this or some DIY variation on it, I think it would be wrong to ask them to contribute to an expense you decided to incur. Prepare to pay for it in its entirety yourself.
Now if you want to present it as a “I know bride really wanted one of these and I was thinking it would make a good engagement/shower/bachelorette present. If anyone is interested in going in on one as a group gift with me, send me an email.” And make sure they know it is optional and to not feel obligated. But otherwise if this is just a really nice extra you want to do for her then that is on you and I’d probably be miffed if I was a bridesmaid and you asked me to contribute to something you already decided to do. There have been articles the past few years that the average bridesmaid spends $1200 to be in a wedding as it is.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
kstir2015 : TY! This is such a cute idea and a great gift.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
Having received a bridal box, it wasn’t worth it. It was just cheap tat thrown into a box with a hefty price tag because it used the word “wedding”. I like the idea of making one yourself or getting her a nice “Mrs Newname” wine glass/mug or such, or a little kit with a face mask and a bath bomb.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
I think it sounds like a great idea to DIY your own so it can be completely tailored to the bride’s interests! Instead of asking for $ contributions from the other bridesmaids, why not see if any of them have items they’d like to add to the box?
Post # 15
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Busy bee
Agreed with PPs that would be a great engagement, shower, or bachelorette gift – and I recommend DIYing it rather than going with a service. I would also ask the other BMs if they want to go in on a “group gift” and not make it mandatory. A face mask and a bath bomb always go over well in my circle, and some other potential items might be a bridal robe, a t-shirt or tank top with a silly bridal saying (that might only get worn once, if at all), a pretty tumbler or mug with either her new initials on it or that says “Mrs” or “Bride”, a nice planning book (theknot has a good one), etc. Some women are not into the “bride”-y stuff, but clearly your bride is if getting one of these boxes was something she wanted, so I say go for it!