Post # 1
Hello Brides to Be
So I am a slight OCD bride.
Working for the family business, working out to loose weight for the wedding and the wedding itself has really taken its toll.
I am struggling to manage it all.
I have tried to delegate some tasks however I always feel that they come back to me to finish them off.
Which is frustrating and exhausting.
We have had so many problems with the wedding in the past few weeks, Florist misunderstood the flowers completely, my dress top was cut wrong, invitations had a spelling error, etc.
I find that I take these problems so personally because it feels that if I was doing my job properly these things wouldnt be going wrong.
I have so much pressure on myself to really be at the top of my game with the wedding, this has caused me to struggle to sleep.
At the moment I am struggling to get through the week without crying.
I am taking out all the stress and strain on my parents and my FH.
It has been affecting our relationship, however I feel like that not helping or understanding how it must be to feel continuously like you have things to do.
I have tried to take a day off from wedding planning here or there.
I just find that when I go back to wedding planning I end up burnout and crying by the end of the week.
I just want to get the enjoyment back and try to enjoy these last three months.
Post # 2
I mean this in the nicest possible way, you need to let go. You’re driving yourself to reach perfection on things that honestly won’t matter in the long run and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment in your wedding day. Things are going to go wrong on your wedding day. It’s not a case of planning more or not being good enough but because there’s an awful lot outside of your control.
Trying to get the perfect wedding day is not worth your health or relationship, it’s just one day. Remember what is important. I get being a perfectionist but you’re just causing yourself more grief at the moment. Our wedding day wasn’t perfect, things went wrong but we had the best day because we got married.
Post # 3
Why don’t you try some therapy sessions? Wedding planning shouldn’t be that stressful. a good therapist will help you discover coping mechanisms
The fact that it is causing strain on your relationship is bothersome. You are planning a party. it’s ONE day. after that party is over, you will still have your husband and marriage. if wedding stress is causing strain, how will you handle a marriage? a wedding is the fun part.
Post # 4
Why is your fiancé not helping you / taking half the tasks that need to be done and doing them?
Post # 5
Bee, it sounds like you need more than just a day off. I went through something similar in August and am almost recovered from it – burnout, exhaustion, etc. Suggestions that worked for me:
- Let go of things being “perfect”.
- Or if you can’t let things go, don’t take any snafus or mistakes personally. That’s just unnecessary stress you’re putting on yourself.
- Hire a wedding planner to help manage the remaining tasks and the month leading up to the wedding
- Put sleep and relaxation first. If you are struggling with sleep every other aspect of your life is going to feel crappy and every little bump will feel like a huge mountain. Getting good sleep helps me cope. I find meditation and yoga works wonders for sleep.
- Talk to your friends, family and Fiance about how you are feeling. People love and care about you!
- Take a week off if you can or a few weeks off. Try to do things during that time that you enjoy, not just what you “have to do”.
- Get help from your Fiance for tasks.
Post # 6
I get stressed and anxious too when I’m wedding planning, I’m finding it so overwhelming. Try to do wedding planning only every second weekend, and make a point to do it with your Fiance if that helps, so youre not taking on all the decisions on by yourself.
Post # 7
mdr710 : Is it in your budget to hire a wedding professional? You shouldn’t be stressing like this. Putting so much emphasis on “perfection” will only set you up for disappointment and prevent you from enjoying your day.
What exactly is so stressful at this point? Since you already ordered invitations, I’m assuming that you are pretty far along in the process and that most of the major items are already taken care of? Did you take on a bunch of DIY tasks or something?
Regardless, planning should not be taking a toll on your relationship. I know weddings are a big deal, but at the end of the day the majority of your guests won’t even notice or remember half of what you are probably stressing about. Try to relax and enjoy what is supposed to be a fun time in your life. ❤️