(Closed) Bridal Employees, Big Groups pulling gowns before the bride arrives?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you like your entourage to shop with you or for you?

    Yes, Of course they know me

    Sure, they can select their favorite amongst the group

    No, I'd rather the stylist pick for me

    No, Not at all, I would like to shop for myself

  • Post # 2
    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    When I went shopping with my mom and 2 friends they all pulled dresses for me. It was fun to let them be invovled in the process. Some I liked, some not so much. We had the most fun and the best experience when the consultant let us (me and the people with me) pick dresses to try on.

    Post # 3
    896 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I would definitely be overwhelmed if my group was pulling dresses for me to try on before I even got to the shop, but at the same time I think it’s good to keep an open mind and try on something you normally wouldn’t, especially if your close family or friends really think it would look good on you. 

    Post # 5
    575 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I let the consultant choose a selection then my mum and friend chose what they liked out of the selection.

    Post # 6
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    I think it would be too much for me to walk into a bridal shop and have 15 wedding dresses waiting for me before I even had a chance to put my purse down. I also think it depends on how many people are involved in the appointment. I went with just my mother, so between myself, her, and the consultant, I didn’t feel like it got to be too much. I would never shop with a gaggle of people though. That’s just not the kind of experience I enjoy.

    Post # 7
    1505 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I did not even invite my group to try on dresses because I was worried about there being too many opinions. I just brought my mom and my sister and they supported me as I picked dresses with the consultant.

    Post # 8
    9519 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    This sounds a bit harsh but it sounds more like the bride placating her ego and causes the shop attendant more work. Sounds terrible

    Post # 9
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    I just bought my dress and I had about 10 appointments total at 5 shops. I always either came by myself or with no more than 3 people: my mom, Maid/Matron of Honor and my grandmother or flower girl. 

    I always saw the other groups around me with like 10 people, so much going on and I can see how picking a dress with that many opinions would be hard. I don’t think it helps, and it can actually make it suuuuuuuuck for the other groups with appointments. There’s no where to sit and sometimes the family and friends are pulling dresses that other brides are waiting to try on (happened during my appointment yesterday: I had my stylist set it on the bar outside my room bc there was no room to move, they were all ball gowns. They (her family) legit took it off the hanger next to my room! And I went to get it and I was like “where the hell did it go?”…it’s hanging in the other girls room….) 

    You really shouldn’t be pulling dresses by yourself, if you want to see something, ask the consultant. Usually the consultant will ask the bride if they can pull dresses suggested by family or friends. 

    Post # 10
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I haven’t gone gown shopping for myself yet, but went a few years ago as my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor. Ugh, my mother pulling dresses was SO FRUSTRATING!!! She kept pulling things way out of budget, and ones that fit her idea of what she would have worn for her wedding decades ago, not what my sister wanted. It wasted time and annoyed everyone, including my sister, me, and the consultant. 

    That being said, I think it also depends on the type of store. David’s Bridal seems to be more open to that, while the kind of place that gives you champagne, not so much.

    Post # 11
    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Meh I think its ok I mean you invite your bridesmaids there so they can be part of the process.

    But to be honest it depends on the store, I got my dress at Kleinfelds and the girls who arrived earlier than me were sat in the waiting area, they didn’t let anyone on the floor until I arrived and consultant talked with me about budget etc… which I think is the right way, but once that’s done I see nothing wrong with them pulling dresses.


    Post # 12
    819 posts
    Busy bee

    None of the appointments I had officially started until I got there, which I liked, but at one my friends did start looking at dresses– it was fine, they all kind of stood next to the racks and asked me to come over and look at the one they liked to see what I thought before the consultant took it to the dressing room. At one place, they gave me cute clothespins to mark which dresses I liked so that the consultant could grab them all, so I gave one to each person with me and kept the rest for myself. It was fun to see what they picked, and as the bride I veto’d whatever I didn’t like regardless of who picked it. Maybe my friends were just super organized, but it worked out well!

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