(Closed) Bridal guilt?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I was worried about this as well, so I was upfront with my maids that I wanted a simple and minimally expensive shower and bachelorette- no fancy venues, no overnight hotel stays, no spas, etc.

So my shower was at my MOH’s mom’s house with just cold salads and sandwishes and my bachelorette was a bar with martinis and manicures ($10 got you the cocktail and the mani) and then dinner at a very reasonable restaurant and dessert at a cool chocolate place that was also really reasonable.

It’s too late for the shower, but if you are genuinely concerned, then state clearly that you don’t want them to throw an expensive bachelorette party.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I totatlly read the post as "Bridal Quilt"!  LOL, like I was going to say, I’ve been to a reception where guests wrote on quilt squares, sounds good. 

Anyway, yeah, what can you do about the shower?  And maybe they aren’t spending as much as you think.   Maybe someone got a discount through a contact or work or whatever.  Or maybe they wanted to put a little something extra into it, because of the costs you are covering for them.  Thank them with some nice hostess gifts.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I am curious how your shower went!! 

I think it is natural to feel a little "spoiled" around your shower/bachelorette/wedding.  Remember that your friends and family love you and are trying to honor you and embrace it!  As long as you have not made crazy demands on them for specific venues, meals, etc., than I would not worry about it too much.  

If you do feel uncomfortable by the amount spent on you at your shower, I would have a chat with your Maid/Matron of Honor before your bachelorette (if you haven’t had one already) to let them know that it is not how much they spend on you, but the fact that you will all be together, that makes the event special!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow — what sweet friends to really try and make you feel as special as possible, and what a sweet bride to be sensitive to her friends! I’m glad you had a great time and that any snags were smoothed over.

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