Post # 1
I love lingerie, don’t get me wrong.
But I’m wondering if my recent desire to toss my spanx and beige, industrial-strength strapless bra to the side and buy something white, sexy, and slinky under my wedding gown is just a result of looking at too many wedding blogs and reading to many wedding magazines. They might be making me think I want to spend $$$ on something I don’t actually want.
I’m a spanx lover. I wear strong, ugly strapless bras, and I look great in my clothes! So, why am I suddenly feeling the need to buy a white polyester boustier that doesn’t fit great, just because it’s my wedding day and I should take advantage of the opportunity to wear something extremely femenine, something VERY bridal?
I’m thinking of wearing spanx and my (ugly) strapless bra for my wedding, but buying a cheap white boustier to wear during some pre-wedding photos and to slip into for Fiance (then, husband!) after the reception. Thoughts?
What are you gals wearing under your gorgeous dresses?
Post # 3
I think you’ve got the right idea. Wear the good effective architectural stuff for the actual dress and then slip into something pretty afterwards. That’s what I did!
Post # 4
I wore Spanx and nothing else. I wanted my body to look good in the dress, sexy lingerie wouldn’t do what Spanx can do! haha.
I took the Spanx off for my after party dress. And when we got back from the after party, I changed into some lacy white lingerie while Darling Husband was off doing something (putting my jewelry in the hotel safe maybe?), but if he hadn’t gone off to do something else, I wouldn’t have cared if he helped me take off my Spanx before getting down to business. He married me. He’s seen me have food poisoning and fart in the bed and have double pink eye and he still married me. I’d rather look good in the wedding pictures
Don’t wear the sexy stuff under the dress, the only people who will see that are your mom and bridal attendants lol. If you have an opportunity to change into something later, go for it, if not, don’t sweat it!
Post # 5
@village_skeptic: Same here!
I don’t think I would’ve made it the whole wedding day if I didn’t wear a practical bra.
Post # 6
@BookishBelle: Double pink eye! Ahhhh.
I’m the same, my Fiance has seen me at my absolute worst, and I often run around the house in high-waisted Spanx, just because it’s hilarious. He laughs, and still wants to nail me whenver he can 🙂 True intimacy!
I’m feeling more resolved that I don’t need expensive polyester frills to make me fee sexy under the dress. And, hopefully, on THE day, I’m thinking about people, feelings, and moments… not things that an industry pressures me to buy.
Post # 7
Like PP, Darling Husband has seen me at my worst – sick, injured, bleeding, etc. So for him, me rocking spanx under my dress would’ve been acceptable. In an ideal world, I would casually slink off to the restroom and appear in my gorgeous bridal lingerie glory.
What happened in reality was that we were both exhausted and he needed to unzip me from my spanx-y crinoline bc I just couldn’t get myself out of it. LOL
Post # 8
I just wore little lace panties. But I say wear whatever you need to/ want to to feel and look good in your dress.
At the end of the night I needed help getting the dress of, (million buttons in the back) so Darling Husband had to help me. Then I excused myself and changed into something sexy.
Post # 9
If you want some panties that say Bride, why don’t you DIY them with either an iron-on transfer or one of those rhinestone patterns? You could always just get white versions of the practical bra you have, and set a tiny baby-blue ribbon bow to the center of the bra. Instant bridal, and you won’t just donate after the wedding. Wear your spanx as usual–they’re so unsexy, but there really is no substitute for that kind of support short of a full blown corset, and for a good one of those you are looking at $200+ dollars.
Post # 10
I’m probably just going to wear my undies (I’ll probably pick up some cute “bride” ones from VS). I’m doing boudoir photos soon, but there will be no “wedding lingerie” in them…for some reason those photos actually creep me out…ha!
Post # 11
Totally think bridal lingerie is a money-grab effort.
I say wear the support garmented with your dress and wear some cute stuff you already own with your new husband after…. and there’s no need to take photos of any of your undies a t all.
Post # 12
@kes18: I would wait to buy them tho…..I bought some undies for my wedding day and someone gave me the “bride” undies at my bachelorette party
Post # 13
@OtterHalf: Yeah…I figure someone might get them for me! If not I’ll be in VS the week before picking some up. Or maybe I’ll just throw on some white lacy ones I already have!
Post # 14
Get changed after the reception. You definitely want to feel good on the day (i.e. functional) and also want to look sexy for your husband afterwards.
I’ve never understood the logic of pre-wedding photos in your underwear.
Post # 15
Even though my dress had multiple layers and I could have probably worn black panties without it being an issue I wore a nude-coloured thong to be safe. No bra, I had cups sewn into the dress.
I showered that night because I’m allergic to hairspray and did not want it on the pillow. With all that hairspray there was no way that was going to be a sexy shower! I put on the sexy stuff while Darling Husband showered after me.
Post # 16
Trust me – you will be so sweaty/gross under your dress that it won’t matter what you’re wearing because you’ll want it all off of you before your husband touches you that night. I actually showered, haha. Go with your gut and wear your normal spanx etc.