Post # 1
So I don’t know if these are very common but I had a complete bridal meltdown yesterday. I know this has been building up for a while and knowing I only have 6 months until my wedding all of a sudden everything seem to come at me at once. Most importantly I came to terms with the fact that I hate the wedding dresses I bought. I can’t even believe I am saying it out loud. I bought this dress at a Vintage Couture store when I was on vacation in Toronto this last summer (and paid way too much for it). I don’t think I fell in love with the dress, I think I fell in love with the idea of having an Original 1950’s short wedding dress. Needless to say I feel fat and ugly in the dress and I really don’t want to feel that way on my wedding day . Fortunately I was able to get my dream dress a couple months ago (Originally the designer had ran out of the fabric which is why I didn’t buy it to begin with but about 2 months ago the designer found some more fabic so I quickly ordered the dress).
Since the 1950’s dress was so fragile I was just going to wear it to the ceremony and wear my new dress to the reception but now I don’t want to wear the old one at all. I feel really guilty about this since I did spend so much money on the frist one.
Has anyone else had second thoughts about the wedding dress you picked? What did you do about it?
Post # 3
how about wearing it at rehearsal? or you can always re-sell?
you should wear wahtever you want to on your day and not feel bad!!! 🙂
Post # 4
I did, but between the time that I bought it and the time that I picked it up again, I fell in love all over and now I wouldn’t change a thing.
So it sounds like you have another dress, right? I would try to sell the dress that you don’t want. I’m sure there must be someone out there who would love to own it.
Have you tried contacting the store that you purchased it from? Maybe they can help you find a new home for it. 🙂
Post # 5
Don’t sweat it! This is common. I personally am a basketcase because I pretty much went through TWO dresses before I landed on the third. It was nuts! Just wear what you feel right in.
Post # 6
I was trying to be budget conscious when we were planning our wedding, and I jumped early to buy a used dress that I thought would work fine. Later on, I knew I didn’t really like that dress, but felt guilty about wanting to get a different one. I decided that it was important to be comfortable in what I would be wearing, so I got a second dress, and sold the first one. I lost a bit of money reselling that first dress, but I don’t regret not wearing it for one second.
Try to resell the dress – with the interest in vintage-style weddings, you might be surprised at what you can get for it!
Post # 7
I was in this situation, and I have to say, I think it’s pretty common!
I bought a wedding gown a year before our wedding because it was a good price, and I was sick of looking because I wasn’t finding what I wanted. I kind of gave up. Six months before our wedding, it hit me that I really didn’t like the dress I bought, and I had a freak out moment about it. My sister and husband (then FI) told me I needed to go find another dress. I actually wanted a short dress, and so I started to look at Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses that came in white, and found one. It was perfect for me. I was SO relieved.
I kept my other dress because it was bought and paid for, and tried to sell it for a long time. I could never get a buyer, so I sold it to a consignment shop for a small fee (about a quarter what I paid for it). So, I ended up losing some money, but my second dress was so cheap that it didn’t matter to me.
You HAVE to at least like your wedding dress. You made the right call!