Post # 1
I’m looking for any Bees who chose not to have any sort of bridal party (best man, maid of honour, bridesmaids, etc.) and if you think it was the best choice or would you rather have had some people standing up there with you on your special day.
Anyone who had a bridal party and either really loved it or wish they hadn’t are very welcome to chime in as well.
Post # 2
I have a bridal party because my Fiance wants one. I don’t want one, but my Fiance wants his best friend to be his best man. Looking back before I told my bridesmaids to be in it, I wish I haven’t.
Post # 3
We’re having a bridal party, but I don’t particularly want one. As it is, I don’t plan on putting them to work at all (I’m sure the reality is that I’ll need their help with some things). My take is just that bridal parties can end up causing more drama than they’re worth. Honestly, not having a formal bridal party doesn’t mean that you can’t have a core group of besties to talk weddings with and celebrate with. To me, it’s ultimately about if you want others standing with you at the ceremony. Everything else (others getting ready with you, parties, photos) can be done if it’s what you want, but you don’t have to label people as in a bridal party to do them. Honestly, my opinion is that no bridal party=fewer issues.
Post # 4
We did not have a bridal party, and I was soo happy with that decision. My husband’s best friend (also a good friend of mine) acted as our officiant. I got ready with my mom. I don’t have female friends I’m SUPER close with, and it was a relief not to have any drama or feel uncomfortable at all during the wedding. My husband, who does have more close friends than me, was also actually happy with our choice. I didn’t at all miss having anyone stand up there with us — it was our wedding and I was glad the focus was on the 2 of us and our relationship.
FWIW, our wedding was fairly small/medium in size — approx 70 adults and 10 kids.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I love having a bridal party but I’m a pretty chill bride. 😊 They are free to wear whatever they like style, color, length etc., (everyone decided black was best). Not interested in assigning duties, I honestly think thats strange, or having anyone help plan. We barely talk about the wedding and even then one of them brings it up. Didn’t expect or really want a bachelorette but I treated them to a wine tasting tour last weekend and they started plotting bachelorette ideas while I was exploring so apparently thats definitely happening. I think this is a more enjoyable experience if you pick people closest to you to be in the bridal party, which is how its supposed to be, and have realistic expectations.
Post # 6
I had a bridal party, but feel as though the best decision would have been to have only a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man instead of including multiple friends/family. There were just too many opinions on all of our decisions, fights among the ladies over dresses, flowers, bridal shower, bachelorette…
Hindsight is a bit**h, but just a bestie beside me would have been perfect.
Post # 7
I’m not having a bridal party- it’s really not my thing and my fiancée and I are getting ready together. We both aren’t really the type of girls to have some sort of ‘tribe’ or whatever people call it these days. You don’t need to have all the traditional roles in a wedding all you need is 2 people and officiant and some witnesses.
Post # 8
We are having a small bridal party: Maid of Honor + Best Man + 2 Flower Girls. They are all we want and need!
When I got engaged about 5 months ago, I thought I wanted 1 Maid/Matron of Honor + 4 bridesmaids. Luckily I did not make any impulse decision and asked them then!
Post # 9
I think you know your crowd. I have a bridal party but I am very chill and they are very chill. There is literally no drama or work to it.
We picked three dresses and I told them choose whatever. They helped my sister with the bridal shower setup and are arranging my bachelorette party at their insistence.
They are so like me – just go with the flow. No opinions, no fighting.
It is amazing.
Post # 10
We are only having 16 guests, and have chose not to have any bridal party. we want the few people we have chosen to spend our day with to be able to just watch the ceremony and enjoy it from their seat without having to participate at all beyond being present.
Post # 11
We’ve ended up with a fairly large wedding party; 4 on each side. I’m very excited to have the ladies who are my bridesmaids standing up with me and we’re a laid back bunch so I don’t anticipate any drama.
I think we’ll ask my sister (MOH) and his brother (one of three best men – he couldn’t decide!) to witness. That’ll be it as far as duties go.
Post # 12
Thanks so much everyone for weighing in!
I think we will probably go without a formal bridal party since we are having a fairly small wedding, hopefully around 50-60 people. Additionally we have just moved across the country and are very far from everyone close to us. I think it will save us the drama and difficulties of trying to coordinate everyone from a distance.