Post # 1
So my friend Melissa got married in October and she didnt ask me to be in the wedding which I was fine with because the rest of the bridal party ( which were our friends) she has known alot longer, her cousin was Maid/Matron of Honor and she had two nurse friends who she extremely close with. Now that I am engaged she’s upset that shes not in my bridal party. I explained that I didnt choose anyone over her it was simple who I was closer to. Obviously it would be different if I was in her wedding but she never asked me to be. Am I wrong?
Post # 2
I don’t think it matters whether you were in her party or not, you still get to choose who you want.
It’s immature of her to be complaining that she’s not in your party.
Post # 3
yeah it’s immature! Also i think if she didn’t have you she has no right to be annoyed you aren’t having her! i kind of think that it’s tit for tat with this kind of thing, that’s just me though!
Post # 4
Just to clarify you’re not having her in your wedding becasue you have better, closer relationships with other women who you’ve asked to stand up with you, and not because she didn’t ask you to be in her wedding right?
You bridal party is your decision. I have several friends and my SIL and Future SIL whose weddings I was/will be in and chose not to have them as my bridesmaids as to keep our bridal party small. I think as long as you’re reason for not having her is more than she simply didn’t have you in her’s then that’s fine and she’s overreacting.
Post # 5
its 50/50. Yes there is a girl who I am closer to than her in my bridal party but if I was in hers I would make room for her in my wedding party. She had two nurse friends over me so that helped my decison on having her or not
Post # 6
I agree that it doesn’t even matter if you were in her wedding or not, and it is your choice who is in your wedding anyway, period. She needs to grow up.