(Closed) Bridal party and money : Advice on who should pay / how much!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

first off, what are you requiring of everyone?  are you requiring they all wear the same shoes, or get hair and makeup done?  (not trying to go off topic- this will impact my response).

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have always had to pay for my own things. HOWEVER, the bride was gracious. I had to buy my dress (between 100-200 plus alterations, luckily one wedding we could choose a dress in a specific color as long as it was approved by the bride so I didn’t need alterations). I could wear my own shoes (just black), do my own hair and makeup, and I lived nearby. If I didn’t, I split a room with another friend who was going. It kept costs down.

Post # 4
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5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

While it would be nice to help pay, that is alot on your end! I think the wedding party expects to pay for their clothing – its part of accepting the positions. BUT, you can be a wallet conscious bride & have them wear less expensive choices.

I told my WP off the bat that I wasn’t going to have them get expensive dresses. For example, I went to a department store instead of a bridal shop for my BMs dresses, they were $40 each. And for our guys, we just asked them to wear a black suit, with a white shirt (which they all owned) and we bought their ties.

ETA: however, if you want them to wear specifc shoes & get hair/make-up done, then I do think the bride should pay for that.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@garden_bride:  so are you expecting them to get makeup/hair, or is that optional?

also, how much is the dress and tux?

Post # 9
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would work with the girls to find a dress that is in their budget & have them pay for it. Agree on one that is on sale if money is an issue to all of them. Men have to pay for tuxes, that’s just how it goes.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

@garden_bride:  You do not need to purchase the bridesmaid dresses. But there are tons of affordable options so your girls don’t need to break the bank. You also don’t need to buy their shoes unless you are requiring something that is outrageous.

How much are the girl’s dresses?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Darling Husband and I agreed from the start we’d pay for everything. We would never feel comfortable asking our friends to pay any amont of money to be a apart of our wedding. So we budgeted accordingly. We probably spent around 3k on them. Yes, that meant we had to scarfice some things in other areas of the wedding, but that was fine with us.

Post # 14
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3942 posts
Honey bee

@garden_bride:  $200 is pretty steep for a dress. Have you looked at David’s Bridal?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Or think outside the box and look online- like Modcloth. Most of their dresses are around 100. I don’t know what style of dress- formal, short, long, vintage, etc. you want though.

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