(Closed) Bridal party and wedding gifts.

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Do you expect gifts from the members of your bridal party?
    Hellz yes - they love me so they should WANT to buy me a gift. : (5 votes)
    13 %
    I am neutral - it would be nice, but I won't say anything either way. : (22 votes)
    55 %
    No way - they are spending enough of their money - being beside me that day is gift enough : (13 votes)
    33 %
    Other (let us know what you think) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Gifts are completely optional. If the attendants want to give gifts on top of their other expenses, that is entirely up to them. No one should be expecting gifts in the first place. Yes they’re nice but are by no means required. No couple should be upset if their attendants can’t afford anything else, even if they keep the thought to themselves. On the same token, there should not be any mention made to the attendants that gifts are not required, as that is a given and it is considered rude to bring up in conversation.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’ve also been suprised when posters are upset they didn’t receive a wedding gift.  I do think it’s still customary to bring one for the bridal shower. 

    Post # 5
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    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I guess for me, I’m in a position to be involved in a wedding and give the happy couple an additional gift ($).  Like last year,  I was a bm and I gave her a gift and I also traveled across the country to be in her wedding. I think she was very apprecitive that I got her a gift and traveled for her wedding and because she didn’t expect it.

    For my wedding, I was more happy that they were involved but I definitely wouldn’t say anything if one of my wedding party didn’t give me a gift.

    Also, I know my DH’s brother wasn’t in the best financial situations.  So we didn’t expect a gift from him.  I wasn’t annoyed but I was a bit shocked when we had to pay for his tux, I thought he would have saved up enough money for the tux.  But then again, my lips stayed closed.

    Post # 6
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    2249 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    since i got them one when they got married i will say yes! It doesn’t have to be big or expensive, but something would be nice! (i don’t expect one from my broke baby sis in college, she will prob sign the card from my mom) lol

    Post # 7
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it depends on the person and role. I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man that I will buy the dress for, pay for accomodations, and transport the weekend of the wedding. She probably can’t get me anything, so I expect nothing. My Maid/Matron of Honor has a lot more money and I was very generous with her last wedding, so I would be surprised if she didn’t get me anything. Upset, maybe a little, but not enough to not let it roll off my back.

    Post # 8
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    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I couldn’t imagine being in the wedding party and NOT giving the couple a gift! Do I expect gifts from them? I guess so.  Does the gift need to have monetary value? Definitely not.  Future Sister-In-Law is an interior designer.  If she offered to come over and make recommendations for our place, that would be amazing.  If a creative friend made a picture frame out of popsicle sticks, fantastic. 

    Now, this doesn’t mean if someone in the wedding party doesn’t give us a gift that I would confront them or unfriend them or anything like that.  Gifts are customary, but never required. 

    Post # 9
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    925 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    After all that they are doing for me, to me that is my wedding gift.  I’d be fine with a card.

    Post # 10
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Almost everyone in our wedding party are either recent college grads, still in college, or just had a baby so we’re not expecting anything! We’ve tried to keep costs low for them as best we can, but there’s just some things we can’t help, so whatever they decide to do is fine with us!

    Post # 11
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    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have always understood that Bridal Party members do not bring gifts ~ their attendance, travels, etc. are essentially their gift –

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